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32 Things I Wish I Learned Sooner About Sex And Relationships

When you can't relax sex will hurt. 
Kirsten Corley
November 1, 2016
“Getting the tip in hurts the most, because the head of the penis is the widest part. Once you're past that and up to the shaft, it'll feel a little better. Remember how much regular sex hurt at first, for some of us?”
— Anna Breslaw, A Complete Beginner's Guide to Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, Pain, penis
“Use some lube, because why not?”
— Lane Moore, Your Hands-On Guide to Solo Sex
Tagged: how to masturbate, masturbation, solo sex, orgasms, Sex
“The vagina is so confusing, but if you turn on a vibrator it is instant pleasure for almost every woman.”
— Thea Halpin, THE HIDDEN SHAME OF LADY PLEASURE- BIRDEE
Tagged: how to masturbate, Sex, solo sex, female masturbation, orgasms
“You have to be comfortable with yourself. If you're embarrassed about your appearance or shy about asking for what you want, the bedroom can help you overcome these difficulties.”
— Aaron Anderson, 10 reasons why you should be having sex on a regular basis
Tagged: Casual Sex, Shy, embarrassed, comfortable
“Feeling bad about one night stands is pretty pointless. If you used protection, felt physically safe, and found the sex enjoyable, you have nothing to regret.”
— Jill Di Donato, One Night Stands: 8 Reasons To Have Them
Tagged: Casual Sex, one-night stands, safe sex, Regrets
“Having a casual hookup doesn’t mean you’re a slut. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It means you want to have no-strings-attached sex, and that’s your right! You should never let anyone make you feel bad about that.”
— Jessica Booth, 8 Reasons It's Okay To Have A Casual Hookup - Gurl.com
Tagged: Casual Sex, hookups, no strings attached, Slut
“When you get older and wiser, you get your confidence from within, not from the person you are having sex with.”
— Amy Schumer, The Girl with the Lower Back Tattoo
Tagged: Sex, Confidence, Getting Older, Age
“Take your time. Sometimes I find myself hurrying through making out just to get to the next step, but if I draw out my kisses so that they're long and slow, both of us get way more turned on than if we'd rushed it.”
— Molly Triffin, 13 Kisses That'll Blow His Mind
Tagged: Kissing, kiss, Patience, Sex
“Sexting, if you haven't done it yet, is, in one word, fantastic. It's basically the technological version of foreplay, and a perfect way to get both you and your partner in the mood.”
— Amanda Chatel, 17 Sex Tips For Couples in Long-Term Relationships, Because Keeping It Fresh Takes More Than a Netflix Subscription
Tagged: sex tips, Texting, sexting, foreplay
“Over all? Just communicate. Be the girl who is unafraid to ask for what she wants and give her partner what they want. That’s how you have the best sex. It just is.”
— Lola Black, 21 Simple Sex Moves That Will Make Him Crave You Even More
Tagged: sex tips, Communication, Honesty, Sex
“Blindfolding your partner with a scarf or tie is a great way to begin because whenever you take away one sense, the others senses become more heightened.”
— Emily Morse, 6 Ways to Amp Up Your Vacation Sex
Tagged: sex tips, blindfold, kinky, sex toys
“Don’t let your insecurities get the better of you. Sex appeal is all in your mind and how you project yourself.”
— Ethan Kent, 23 Must-Know Relationship Advice for Women
Tagged: Dating Tips, Confidence, sex appeal
“Be able to laugh in bed.”
— csmithsd, Ladies, what are some sex tips you wish every guy knew? • /r/sex
Tagged: Sex, humor, Laughing in Bed
“Subtle touches. Small grabs.”
— ToastieCrumbs, Ladies, what are some sex tips you wish every guy knew? • /r/sex
Tagged: Sex, sex tips
“Look me in the eyes whenever we are in a position that allows it.”
— Higgy24, Ladies, what are some sex tips you wish every guy knew? • /r/sex
Tagged: Sex, sex tips
“Sex is not meant to hurt. If it hurts, stop!…It is not something she has to put up with for being a woman - there are many causes of sexual pain, and many have simple cures.”
— VaginalKnives, Ladies, what are some sex tips you wish every guy knew? • /r/sex
Tagged: Sex, sex tips, Female Orgasm, Reddit Comps
“Men really do get "blue-balls." Technically called "prostatic congestion," the achiness in the testicles is caused by "trapped" blood. You know that rubbish he spouts about orgasms being the only way to relieve it? He's right. But not so fast, a warm shower or aspirin will also do the trick.”
— IVillage Staff, 21 Things You Didn't Know About Penises
Tagged: Penis Facts, Dick Facts, Sex
“An emotional connection sparks more fire. Making love trumps fucking every time because of how emotionally charged it is. Being able to stare deeply into his eyes while he enters you connects you in a way that’s inexplicable and unlike anything else.”
— Angelica Bottaro, 10 Reasons Sex Is Better When You’re In Love
Tagged: love sex, Sex, Making Love, Couples, Relationships, Love
“When you can't relax, sex hurts.”
— Sheila Wray Gregoire, The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex:
Tagged: Sex, Relaxation, Pain
“It's important that you feel comfortable and not nervous, as that could easily prevent you from having an orgasm/enjoying yourself to the fullest. A lot of girls worry about how their bodies look when they're on top of guys, but you totally shouldn't.”
— Nina Braca, 7 Girls Give Advice On Being On Top During Sex - Gurl.com
Tagged: woman on top, comfortable, Confidence
“Get on top so I can see those boobs bounce up and down, up and down.”
— Nicole Kalashnikova, 49 Thoughts Every Guy Has During Sex
Tagged: thoughts during sex, boobs, breasts, cowgirl
“Tell us what you want, don't make us "think" we are throwing down the best moves.”
— terminalsausage, Men of Reddit, what is your sex tip for women?
Tagged: Reddit, Sex, Sex Advice
“Be less self conscious, we like doing it with the lights on. Also remember: there is no such thing as an ugly woman with a dick in her mouth.”
— Choosecharmander, Men of Reddit, what is your sex tip for women?
Tagged: Reddit, Sex, Sex Advice
“Be vocal, it helps make each other better.”
— Boston_, Men of Reddit, what is your sex tip for women?
Tagged: Reddit, Sex, Sex Advice
“If you want to tell your partner you’re a virgin, it’s best to clear the air in the beginning. Who knows… maybe he’s a virgin as well! And if he has a problem with you being a virgin, then he’s not worth losing it to.”
— Katie Szymanski, Sex: What to Expect From Your First Time
Tagged: Virgins, Honesty, Truth
“Girls should become comfortable with their own bodies before having sex.”
— Katie Szymanski, Sex: What to Expect From Your First Time
Tagged: Virgins, comfortable, Self-Love, Self-Confidence, body confidence
“Many women find it hard to ejaculate through vaginal intercourse and the only thing that works for them is clitoral stimulation.”
— Nirmalya Dutta, First time having sex? Here's an 'all you need to know' guide for men
Tagged: Virgins, orgasm, clitoris, vaginal intercourse
“Don't be afraid to swallow. It can actually be a lot easier. And it's a HELL of a lot less messy.”
— Lindsay Tigar, 30 Pieces Of Sex Etiquette Every Woman Should Know Before 30
Tagged: Virgins, blowjobs, swallow, ejaculation
“The first time you have sex, you need to make sure you are prepared, mentally and physically. Your reasons for having sex must be something other than "I want him to like me more" or "He says I have to or he'll dump me". Guys who pressure girls into sex are nothing but jerks. They aren't worth your time (or energy!) so don't give in to them if they use some phony lines on you.”
— Adam Marshall, What You Need To Know Before Your First Time Having Sex
Tagged: Virgins, Sex, preparation, Jerks
“A few girls who have sex for the first time could experience some soreness for a day or two. You’ve worked your internal muscles that may have been dormant, so it’s natural to feel a bit sore just like you would after a good workout.”
— Cheryl James, Losing Your Virginity and Having Sex for the First Time
Tagged: Virgins, cramps, sore, workout