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This Is How To Make Your Long Distance Love Last

Make sure that you always say good night and good morning, even if it’s just a text.
Holly Riordan
March 1, 2017
“Skype is the easiest way to have a face-to-face hands-free chat. You know, so you can use your hands for other things. Take some time before your chat to slip into something skimpy and get the lighting just right.”
— Krissy Brady, How to have super-hot long-distance sex when it seems impossible
Tagged: Long Distance, skype, Skype Sex
“Set up sexy email accounts for the two of you to write erotic love notes to each other (otherwise known as the longest foreplay saga in history). It worked for Anastasia and Christian, right?”
— Krissy Brady, How to have super-hot long-distance sex when it seems impossible
Tagged: Long Distance, Email, 50 shades of grey
“You know that role playing game where you meet your guy at the bar and pretend to be strangers who seduce each other? Try the cyber version by meeting in an adult chat room and picking each other up. Get your flirt on, then go into a private chat room for some steamy old-school cyber-sex.”
— Krissy Brady, How to have super-hot long-distance sex when it seems impossible
Tagged: Long Distance, role playing, Chatroom
“Avoid excessive communication. It is unwise to be overly ‘sticky’ and possessive. You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going.”
— Keay Nigel, 21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work
Tagged: Long Distance, Communication, Space
“Both of you need to be clear with what you expect of with each other during this long distance relationship. Set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise. For instance, are you two exclusive? Is it alright for the other person to go on dates? What is your commitment level?”
— Keay Nigel, 21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work
Tagged: Long Distance, Ground Rules, Expectations
“Play an online game together. Watch a documentary on YouTube or Vimeo at the same time. Sing to each other on Skype while one of you plays the guitar. ‘Take a walk together’ outside while video-calling each other.”
— Keay Nigel, 21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work
Tagged: Long Distance, Date Ideas, skype
“Don’t be afraid to send photos. It may seem egotistical, or you may be uncomfortable with selfies, but they do want to see your face and there is never enough of your face to see, so keep sending them those photos. It varies from person to person, but sharing an intimate moment, while awkward at first, can really help.”
— Yukio Aqualine Kirk Owen, 20 Life Saving Tips For Anyone In A Long Distance Relationship
Tagged: Long Distance, Photos, Selfies
“Make sure that you always say good night and good morning, even if it’s just a text with a sun because you’re hungover. Also, having a scheduled time to talk helps us since I have a crazy busy schedule.”
— Azure Arnot, 20 Life Saving Tips For Anyone In A Long Distance Relationship
Tagged: Long Distance, Schedules, Communication
“We wrote letters to each other a lot and sent care packages which gave us something to look forward to. Counting down the days until you get to see each other also really helps — even if the number is scarily big!”
— Megan Amirghiasvand, 20 Life Saving Tips For Anyone In A Long Distance Relationship
Tagged: Long Distance, Letters, Care Packages
“Don’t give in to jealousy. It’s a reality of long distance that your partner will be spending more time with other people than he or she does with you. Don’t resent him or her for it.”
— Erin, 9 Tips to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work | Well Plated by Erin
Tagged: Long Distance, Jealousy, resentment
“Enjoy your time with family and friends and with yourself too. Just because you are alone doesn’t mean you need to be lonely.”
— Erin, 9 Tips to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work | Well Plated by Erin
Tagged: Family, Friends
“Have an end game. A long distance relationship is not a permanent lifestyle choice. Eventually, you need an end date. This part is difficult. Eventually one (or both) of you will likely need to leave a job, network, and/or preferred city to be with the other.”
— Erin, 9 Tips to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work | Well Plated by Erin
Tagged: Long Distance, End Game, moving
“Get out of the habit of texting during fights—en lieu of calling—to clear the air. There's more room for miscommunication and misunderstandings via text, so being able to provide context and explain yourself either via video or a phone call is always preferable.”
— Lori Keong, 10 Secrets to Success in a Long-Distance Relationship
Tagged: Long Distance, Texting, Calling, fights, Relationship Advice, Long Distance, Dating Advice, dating long distance
“Do not cheat!”
— Jonathan Gaurano, 55 Ways To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
Tagged: Long Distance, Cheating, Cheater
“Take a ton of pictures when you’re together so you’ll be able to reflect on all the good times you have when you’re together.”
— Jonathan Gaurano, 55 Ways To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
Tagged: Long Distance, Pictures, Memories
“Tell them you miss them.”
— Jonathan Gaurano, 55 Ways To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
Tagged: Long Distance, Miss you, Missing
“Pick a book to read at the same time and discuss it regularly.”
— Terri Coles, 12 Ways To Keep Your Long Distance Relationship Happy
Tagged: Long Distance, Books, Reading
“Send each other naughty texts. Send voice recordings of you reading erotica out loud. Skype each other while you masturbate, or play a round of online strip poker.”
— Vanessa Marin, 12 Ways To Keep Your Long Distance Relationship Happy
Tagged: Long Distance, Sexts, erotica, masturbation
“There are also some great new sex toys that can make the distance not seem like such a big factor. They're Bluetooth-enabled, which means you can use them even when you're separated.”
— Vanessa Marin, 12 Ways To Keep Your Long Distance Relationship Happy
Tagged: Long Distance, sex toys, electronics
“To make the best of the time you do spend together, take time to plan an 'intimacy goal' for each visit. One weekend might be all about staying in bed to develop physical intimacy. Another might be about showing your partner the details of your everyday routine. The next visit might be about meeting local friends. When you design your visits with an intent to increase intimacy, the visits will likely feel much more fulfilling, and bring you much closer than they would otherwise.”
— Rebecca A. Marquis, 10 SMART Ways To Be Closer Than Ever In A Long Distance Relationship
Tagged: Long Distance, Intimacy, Goals
“Instead of trying to forget about the physical intimacy you can't have while you're apart, fantasize about it. Let your mind create stories that you can share with your partner, and consider acting them out next time you meet.”
— Rebecca A. Marquis, 10 SMART Ways To Be Closer Than Ever In A Long Distance Relationship
Tagged: Long Distance, Fantasies, Sex
“Regular visits are a necessity. But, be sure to stay at each other's homes instead of just taking vacation weekends together. Vacations are great, but they don't give us any insight into our partner's daily life.”
— Rebecca A. Marquis, 10 SMART Ways To Be Closer Than Ever In A Long Distance Relationship
Tagged: Long Distance, Vacations, Visits
“Develop rituals. Having things the two of you share when you're apart will make you feel closer.”
— Susan Razmic, 10 Tips To Make Your Long-Distance Relationship Work
Tagged: Long Distance, Rituals, Routine
“We made a couple Tumblr blog where we would put up funny jokes, date ideas, and pictures of cute couples. We also did challenges where you had to answer random questions once a day. Not only was it a great way to get to know each other better, but getting a sweet note once a day was also a really great treat!”
— Kaila, Rock Your LDR!
Tagged: Long Distance, Blogging, Date Ideas
“My boyfriend and I have ordered each other pizza to have delivered!”
— Lillie, Rock Your LDR!
Tagged: Long Distance, Pizza, food
“Before we separate this fall, my boyfriend and I are recording little voice memos on our iPhones saying things like 'I love you,' goodnight messages, 'I miss you,' or each others’ names. When we're feeling lonely, we can listen to the recordings to feel like we're together!”
— Lina, Rock Your LDR!
Tagged: Long Distance, voice memos, messages
“You're out with your people and your partner's out with his or her people, but there's a world of distance between the two clubs. Call the bar and use your credit card to order a round of drinks, then FaceTime or Skype a quick kiss and toast together. Not only is it super thoughtful and romantic, but you'll score points with the friends.”
— Teresa Newsome, 9 Date Ideas For Long-Distance Relationships That Will Bring You Closer
Tagged: Long Distance, Drinks, bar
“Make a Pinterest board for your dreams for the future. Sometimes when you're missing each other terribly, focusing on the future you plan to make together will remind you of the end goal of this temporary suffering.”
— Teresa Newsome, 9 Date Ideas For Long-Distance Relationships That Will Bring You Closer
Tagged: Long Distance, Pinterest, Future
“Go on a virtual tour. If your partner knows what your house, neighborhood, work, school, and favorite hangouts look like, it will be easier for him or her to picture you going about your daily life. This kind of stuff makes you feel closer and more a part of each other's lives.”
— Teresa Newsome, 9 Date Ideas For Long-Distance Relationships That Will Bring You Closer
Tagged: Long Distance, Tour, skype
“While masturbation is a go-to solution when you’re feeling lonely, there’s no reason you should be the only one involved. Giving each other sex tasks (like masturbating at specific times or using a new toy) means you’re always there in spirit, and it adds a little thrill to the day when you know your partner is miles away thinking about you.”
— Kathryn Lindsay, 17 Steamy Sex Hacks For People In Long-Distance Relationships
Tagged: Long Distance, Sex Tasks, masturbation