This Is How To Make Your Long Distance Love Last

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This Is How To Make Your Long Distance Love Last

Make sure that you always say good night and good morning, even if it’s just a text.

Holly RiordanMarch 1, 2017

Play an online game together. Watch a documentary on YouTube or Vimeo at the same time. Sing to each other on Skype while one of you plays the guitar. ‘Take a walk together’ outside while video-calling each other.

— Keay Nigel, 21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

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Make a Pinterest board for your dreams for the future. Sometimes when you're missing each other terribly, focusing on the future you plan to make together will remind you of the end goal of this temporary suffering.

— Teresa Newsome, 9 Date Ideas For Long-Distance Relationships That Will Bring You Closer

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Send each other sexy playlists. Gather your favorite songs or albums that really put you in the mood and share them with your SO. Ask them to do the same, too.

— Gina M. Florio, 8 Sex Tips For Long Distance Relationships, Because Distance Makes The Heart Grow Hotter

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Let your love know about your life as it happens in real time. Did your coworker just microwave tuna again? Sharing mundane things is just as important as updating on the big stuff.

— Sarah Gouda, 10 Tips for Making a Long-Distance Relationship Work

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Regular visits are a necessity. But, be sure to stay at each other's homes instead of just taking vacation weekends together. Vacations are great, but they don't give us any insight into our partner's daily life.

— Rebecca A. Marquis, 10 SMART Ways To Be Closer Than Ever In A Long Distance Relationship

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Pick a book to read at the same time and discuss it regularly.

— Terri Coles, 12 Ways To Keep Your Long Distance Relationship Happy

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Take a ton of pictures when you’re together so you’ll be able to reflect on all the good times you have when you’re together.

— Jonathan Gaurano, 55 Ways To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

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Get out of the habit of texting during fights—en lieu of calling—to clear the air. There's more room for miscommunication and misunderstandings via text, so being able to provide context and explain yourself either via video or a phone call is always preferable.

— Lori Keong, 10 Secrets to Success in a Long-Distance Relationship

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Skype is the easiest way to have a face-to-face hands-free chat. You know, so you can use your hands for other things. Take some time before your chat to slip into something skimpy and get the lighting just right.

— Krissy Brady, How to have super-hot long-distance sex when it seems impossible

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Have an end game. A long distance relationship is not a permanent lifestyle choice. Eventually, you need an end date. This part is difficult. Eventually one (or both) of you will likely need to leave a job, network, and/or preferred city to be with the other.

— Erin, 9 Tips to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work | Well Plated by Erin

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Even Words With Friends can be sexy as long as you set the right rules. Do certain letters mean you have to take off certain clothes? Are there rewards for numbers of points? Now apply this to multi-player video games, or apps, or literally anything that the two of you can participate in, and you’ll find the competition has a whole new meaning.

— Kathryn Lindsay, 17 Steamy Sex Hacks For People In Long-Distance Relationships

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To make the best of the time you do spend together, take time to plan an 'intimacy goal' for each visit. One weekend might be all about staying in bed to develop physical intimacy. Another might be about showing your partner the details of your everyday routine. The next visit might be about meeting local friends. When you design your visits with an intent to increase intimacy, the visits will likely feel much more fulfilling, and bring you much closer than they would otherwise.

— Rebecca A. Marquis, 10 SMART Ways To Be Closer Than Ever In A Long Distance Relationship

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Avoid excessive communication. It is unwise to be overly ‘sticky’ and possessive. You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going.

— Keay Nigel, 21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

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We made a couple Tumblr blog where we would put up funny jokes, date ideas, and pictures of cute couples. We also did challenges where you had to answer random questions once a day. Not only was it a great way to get to know each other better, but getting a sweet note once a day was also a really great treat!

— Kaila, Rock Your LDR!

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Throwback Thursday. The day notorious for posting pictures of the diaper days can also serve as a nice reminder of your relationship. Sometimes it is hard to remember what life was like together after a while apart. Find forgotten pictures of you two and send it on Thursday or any day you see fit.

— Kelley Lord, 10 Ways To Keep Your Long-Distance Relationship Exciting

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We wrote letters to each other a lot and sent care packages which gave us something to look forward to. Counting down the days until you get to see each other also really helps — even if the number is scarily big!

— Megan Amirghiasvand, 20 Life Saving Tips For Anyone In A Long Distance Relationship

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Pay attention because your pain might not only be from missing them. You had other needs before meeting them, you still do now. Stay healthy, give voice to your other needs and enjoy being present wherever you are.

— Samuel Basden, 14 Things You Will Not Expect About Long Distance Relationships

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Learn a language. If you’re both sitting at the computer at a loss for new conversation topics, you might as well open a language learning program and go through it together, lesson by lesson.

— Escape Normal, Long Distance Relationship Activities: The Ultimate List

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Compose one long sexy message in your head where you convey your longing for physical intimacy. Be as racy and as detailed as you can be with this message. Now, send this message in parts, or by phrases. Send the first four words through a social media messaging platform such as Facebook or Twitter. Then send the next four words through a chat application like Viber, Whatsapp or iMessage. Continue doing this until you have sent the whole message to tease and excite your other half.

— Geninna Ariton, 10 Naughty Games for Long Distance Relationships

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Something as simple as watching the same porn video can help foster intimacy. Knowing your partner sees what you’re seeing is a major turn on, and if you combine it with phone or video chat, the experience becomes even more intense.

— Kathryn Lindsay, 17 Steamy Sex Hacks For People In Long-Distance Relationships

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Make sure that you always say good night and good morning, even if it’s just a text with a sun because you’re hungover. Also, having a scheduled time to talk helps us since I have a crazy busy schedule.

— Azure Arnot, 20 Life Saving Tips For Anyone In A Long Distance Relationship

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Don’t give in to jealousy. It’s a reality of long distance that your partner will be spending more time with other people than he or she does with you. Don’t resent him or her for it.

— Erin, 9 Tips to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work | Well Plated by Erin

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Do not cheat!

— Jonathan Gaurano, 55 Ways To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

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You're out with your people and your partner's out with his or her people, but there's a world of distance between the two clubs. Call the bar and use your credit card to order a round of drinks, then FaceTime or Skype a quick kiss and toast together. Not only is it super thoughtful and romantic, but you'll score points with the friends.

— Teresa Newsome, 9 Date Ideas For Long-Distance Relationships That Will Bring You Closer

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Set up sexy email accounts for the two of you to write erotic love notes to each other (otherwise known as the longest foreplay saga in history). It worked for Anastasia and Christian, right?

— Krissy Brady, How to have super-hot long-distance sex when it seems impossible

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My boyfriend and I have ordered each other pizza to have delivered!

— Lillie, Rock Your LDR!

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Develop rituals. Having things the two of you share when you're apart will make you feel closer.

— Susan Razmic, 10 Tips To Make Your Long-Distance Relationship Work

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Sometimes long distance is going to suck. That’s just a fact. Don’t be afraid to cry to your partner about how hard it is—chances are they feel the same way, too.

— Sarah Gouda, 10 Tips for Making a Long-Distance Relationship Work

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Send each other naughty texts. Send voice recordings of you reading erotica out loud. Skype each other while you masturbate, or play a round of online strip poker.

— Vanessa Marin, 12 Ways To Keep Your Long Distance Relationship Happy

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Instead of trying to forget about the physical intimacy you can't have while you're apart, fantasize about it. Let your mind create stories that you can share with your partner, and consider acting them out next time you meet.

— Rebecca A. Marquis, 10 SMART Ways To Be Closer Than Ever In A Long Distance Relationship

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There will be eye-rolling and snickering and shockingly stupid comments. People are going to think you’re nuts and maybe it is a bit nuts to date someone you only see every few weeks. If 'love' meant 'common sense' then we’d all be married to our third grade boyfriends. Prepare yourself for the haters and send them to the left.

— Allison Bowsher, I Survived A 5-Year Long Distance Relationship (And You Can, Too, With These 8 Tips)

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Distinguish among different kinds of closeness—mental, emotional, cultural, spiritual, as well as physical—and explore ways to increase each of them.

— Roni Beth, 10 Ways to Make a Long-Distance Relationship Work

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Alternate visits on each other’s turfs. Whenever possible, try to keep the efforts you both put forth traveling to see each other equal, ideally alternating visits to each other’s places.

— The Frisky, 7 Long-Distance Relationship Tips Inspired By The Movie “Like Crazy”

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Do some online shopping and see if there are any sex toys, X-rated comic books, or DVDs your partner might enjoy on their own. Have it gift wrapped and sent to their house, with a little note attached that encourages them to think of you whenever they're playing around all alone.

— Gina M. Florio, 8 Sex Tips For Long Distance Relationships, Because Distance Makes The Heart Grow Hotter

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Charge your electronics so you don't get cut off just before you arrive at orgasm central.

— Megan Amirghiasvand, 20 Life Saving Tips For Anyone In A Long Distance Relationship

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There are also some great new sex toys that can make the distance not seem like such a big factor. They're Bluetooth-enabled, which means you can use them even when you're separated.

— Vanessa Marin, 12 Ways To Keep Your Long Distance Relationship Happy

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Tell them you miss them.

— Jonathan Gaurano, 55 Ways To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

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Enjoy your time with family and friends and with yourself too. Just because you are alone doesn’t mean you need to be lonely.

— Erin, 9 Tips to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work | Well Plated by Erin

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Don’t be afraid to send photos. It may seem egotistical, or you may be uncomfortable with selfies, but they do want to see your face and there is never enough of your face to see, so keep sending them those photos. It varies from person to person, but sharing an intimate moment, while awkward at first, can really help.

— Yukio Aqualine Kirk Owen, 20 Life Saving Tips For Anyone In A Long Distance Relationship

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Both of you need to be clear with what you expect of with each other during this long distance relationship. Set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise. For instance, are you two exclusive? Is it alright for the other person to go on dates? What is your commitment level?

— Keay Nigel, 21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

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Consistency is important. There is nothing better than knowing you can expect a text every morning when you wake up, or getting the daily selfie, sharing a new love song… those little everyday things keep your connection alive.

— Samuel Basden, 14 Things You Will Not Expect About Long Distance Relationships

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Choose a night you are both free, buy the same bottle of wine, pick the same movie and spend a relaxing night together.

— Kelley Lord, 10 Ways To Keep Your Long-Distance Relationship Exciting

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You know that role playing game where you meet your guy at the bar and pretend to be strangers who seduce each other? Try the cyber version by meeting in an adult chat room and picking each other up. Get your flirt on, then go into a private chat room for some steamy old-school cyber-sex.

— Krissy Brady, How to have super-hot long-distance sex when it seems impossible

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Stay clear about your schedule. It doesn’t feel great to send a barrage of texts only not to hear from your partner for four hours. Make sure you’re clear on each other’s schedules so you’re not assuming the worst when in actuality your S.O. is just in a client meeting.

— Sarah Gouda, 10 Tips for Making a Long-Distance Relationship Work

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Staying positive, or at least managing to get through an entire day without crying is a huge achievement when you’re constantly missing your significant other. You got this.

— Allison Bowsher, I Survived A 5-Year Long Distance Relationship (And You Can, Too, With These 8 Tips)

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Send sexy photos exposing intimate parts of your body. The best thing is not to tell it, and just send it out of nowhere. The surprise factor will be really enticing.

— Geninna Ariton, 10 Naughty Games for Long Distance Relationships

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Take personality quizzes together. There are quizzes and personality tests out there for every topic under the sun. Pick a few quizzes that interest you – anything from determining your spirit animal to which Hogwarts house you belong in, and compare results with your partner.

— Escape Normal, Long Distance Relationship Activities: The Ultimate List

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Before we separate this fall, my boyfriend and I are recording little voice memos on our iPhones saying things like 'I love you,' goodnight messages, 'I miss you,' or each others’ names. When we're feeling lonely, we can listen to the recordings to feel like we're together!

— Lina, Rock Your LDR!

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Go on a virtual tour. If your partner knows what your house, neighborhood, work, school, and favorite hangouts look like, it will be easier for him or her to picture you going about your daily life. This kind of stuff makes you feel closer and more a part of each other's lives.

— Teresa Newsome, 9 Date Ideas For Long-Distance Relationships That Will Bring You Closer

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While masturbation is a go-to solution when you’re feeling lonely, there’s no reason you should be the only one involved. Giving each other sex tasks (like masturbating at specific times or using a new toy) means you’re always there in spirit, and it adds a little thrill to the day when you know your partner is miles away thinking about you.

— Kathryn Lindsay, 17 Steamy Sex Hacks For People In Long-Distance Relationships

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