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50 Quotes For When You Want Sex, But Don’t Want A Serious Relationship

Whatever you do, don't cuddle. 
Holly Riordan
December 13, 2016
“If he's kind of annoying--BUT you have sexual fantasies about him nonetheless--that person would be a good candidate for a casual-sex partner. He himself will be a constant reminder about why the relationship could never work out. The minute he opens his mouth, the reason will be clear.”
— Maura Kelly, 6 Tips for How to Have Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, Fantasies, Annoying
“Make it clear to the other person--and yourself--up front that what you're having is a tryst. How to do this? Don't go out for dinner with the person, or for drinks. Do away with all the trappings of a romantic relationship.”
— Maura Kelly, 6 Tips for How to Have Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, romance, Dinner, dates
“Repeat to yourself before, after and during sex: This is not about love, nor will it ever be. Remind yourself that all the pleasure and happiness you are feeling is a CHEMICAL response. You are not special to the person who are shagging, and he is not special to you.”
— Maura Kelly, 6 Tips for How to Have Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, meaningless, Chemicals
“Pick your standards. What are you looking for in a casual bed partner? I'm not saying you need to lower your standards, but there are plenty of people I'd consider a casual hookup with even though I'd rather not date them.”
— Marianne, An Easy Guide to Casual Sex That Everyone Feels Good About In the Morning
Tagged: Casual Sex, Standards, hookups
“Respect your boundaries. If you head out to the club and you pick out someone you want to bone for the night and then you decide that, actually, you don't think you are going to respect yourself in the morning -- listen to yourself on that one. You can say no. That's not something you give up when you go looking for casual sex. In fact, remember that you are in control of your sexuality on this one.”
— Marianne, An Easy Guide to Casual Sex That Everyone Feels Good About In the Morning
Tagged: Casual Sex, Say No, Self-Respect, Control
“Don't obsess. Don't think that just because you had a good time, you might be able to turn this into a relationship. Remember your intentions! You're only going to break your own heart if you fixate on this person. Does it happen that one-night stands sometimes turn into relationships? Sure. But don't bank on it.”
— Marianne, An Easy Guide to Casual Sex That Everyone Feels Good About In the Morning
Tagged: Casual Sex, one-night stands, obsessions
“If your arrangement appears ongoing, it's best to establish some ground rules. Ask some or all of these questions of yourself and your partner: Is this actually casual for both of us? What happens if our feelings change? How often and when do you want this to happen? Do you expect a date beforehand? Are you cool that I'm also seeing other people? Is this a secret from friends and coworkers? Have you been tested? Do you like it when I put it there? How does that feel? Do you mind getting on top this time? Really? Right now? In the kitchen?”
— Ben Kassoy, 6 Unspoken Rules of Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, Questions, Rules, boundaries
“Don't lie to your partner.”
— Ben Kassoy, 6 Unspoken Rules of Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, Lies, pretending
“If you or your partner can't ignore your feelings, reconsider the arrangement. Casual sex should be unemotional, not sociopathic. Don't hurt anyone or set yourself up to be hurt—unless, you know, masochism is your thing.”
— Ben Kassoy, 6 Unspoken Rules of Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, Feelings, Sociopath
“Don’t fall for manipulation, and don’t manipulate your casual buddy. Don’t say things that can confuse them like ‘I can’t imagine not having you in my life, but I do want you to meet other people and fall in love with someone else…’”
— Sarah Summer, 10 Casual Relationship Rules to Keep It Just Casual
Tagged: Casual Sex, manipulation, Confusion
“Don’t say that you love this person. It’s very easy to feel intensely attracted to someone you’re having sex with and spending time often. If you feel like saying ‘I love you’ because they make you feel so good, hold that thought. Saying those three words will take your relationship to a whole new stage. Or it may even end the relationship for good.”
— Sarah Summer, 10 Casual Relationship Rules to Keep It Just Casual
Tagged: Casual Sex, Love, affection
“Don’t be controlled. A casual relationship involves two people. But almost always, one person has complete control over the other person. The dominant partner decides when to hook up, and when to avoid each other.

If you find your partner too dominant or controlling, chances are, you’re falling in love with them and agreeing to anything they say only because you can’t bear the thought of losing them or staying away from them. If you feel controlled or dominated, walk away before you get your heart broken.”
— Sarah Summer, 10 Casual Relationship Rules to Keep It Just Casual
Tagged: Casual Sex, Control, Power
“Be nice. Just because you’re never going to see someone again doesn’t mean that your manners should fly out the window.”
— Em Lo, 10 Tips For The Best Casual, No-Strings-Attached Sex EVER
Tagged: Casual Sex, kindness, Manners
“When it comes to the sex, don’t sulk if you don’t get everything you asked Santa for — only people in relationships are allowed to complain when things don’t go their way in bed (and even then they should stop focusing on the negative and just be grateful someone puts up with them).”
— Em Lo, 10 Tips For The Best Casual, No-Strings-Attached Sex EVER
Tagged: Casual Sex, Expectations, complaints
“Be safe. Always always always use protection correctly. And know that condoms may not always protect you from everything (herpes, HPV…), so ask questions too (e.g. ‘Do you always use protection?’ and ‘When’s the last time you were tested?’).

Oh, yeah, and don’t let a complete stranger tie you up during sex, either!”
— Em Lo, 10 Tips For The Best Casual, No-Strings-Attached Sex EVER
Tagged: Casual Sex, Safety, Protection, condoms
“Don't give in to pressure. Look, if you wanted to have a random make out session but your partner is pressuring you to go further, don't give in. Do what you're comfortable with and make the other person deal with it.”
— Ashley Reese, 10 Things You Should Know Before A Casual Hookup
Tagged: Casual Sex, pressure, Making Out
“It's a good idea to make sure that people know where you are, just in case.”
— Ashley Reese, 10 Things You Should Know Before A Casual Hookup
Tagged: Casual Sex, Safety, Location
“Find a place to yourself. Try to keep your hookup session as private as possible. For everyone's sake.”
— Ashley Reese, 10 Things You Should Know Before A Casual Hookup
Tagged: Casual Sex, Alone, Privacy
“Right from the get-go, tell your sexual partners that you’re only interested in casual sex and have no desire to be in a relationship. If applicable, make it clear that you’re dating multiple people at the same time. The more up-front you are on what you’re looking for and available for, the easier it will be to protect your heart.”
— Vanessa Marin, Can You Have Casual Sex Without Feelings? 9 Ways To Keep It No-Strings When You Tend To Get Attached
Tagged: Casual Sex, Honesty, Truth
“If intercourse is proving to be too difficult for you, you can try taking it off the table for casual hook-ups. You can still have a ton of fun without having intercourse. You may find it easier to stay emotionally detached if you stick with less intimate activities.”
— Vanessa Marin, Can You Have Casual Sex Without Feelings? 9 Ways To Keep It No-Strings When You Tend To Get Attached
Tagged: Casual Sex, Intercourse, Making Out, Intimacy
“One of the realities of casual sex is that the more time you spend together, the easier it is to become attached. It’s natural to develop feelings for someone with whom you’re spending a lot of time. You may want to consider not to seeing your sexual partner more than a couple of times a month.”
— Vanessa Marin, Can You Have Casual Sex Without Feelings? 9 Ways To Keep It No-Strings When You Tend To Get Attached
Tagged: Casual Sex, Time, Distance
“Have many friends in common? Avoid being sex buddies with the person. You’ll end up spending a lot of time washing dirty linen in public if the cat gets out of the bag. Worse, if you have a frenemy, you could easily be the next topic for spicy gossip.”
— Party Gal, 10 No-Nos In A Casual Sex Relationship
Tagged: Casual Sex, Friends, Frenemies
“If fun is what you want and not commitment, then you don’t want to get friendly with his family or vice versa. His folks and yours will end up getting hurt when the ‘relationship’ meets its natural end.”
— Party Gal, 10 No-Nos In A Casual Sex Relationship
Tagged: Casual Sex, Family, Parents
“Take a 'no' gracefully. Don’t be offended if he doesn’t oblige you when you’re in the mood for some either. He’s not at your beck and call.”
— Party Gal, 10 No-Nos In A Casual Sex Relationship
Tagged: Casual Sex, Say No, Rejection
“Check for symptoms of STIs and get tested before having sex with a new partner.”
— Adriana, 25 Rules to Keep Casual Dating Fun and Honest
Tagged: Casual Sex, STDs, Sex, Tested
“Avoid buying each other gifts.”
— Adriana, 25 Rules to Keep Casual Dating Fun and Honest
Tagged: Casual Sex, gifts, presents
“Don’t let anyone try to use casual dating against you. Slut shaming isn’t cool, and you still have feelings even if you don’t want to settle down.”
— Adriana, 25 Rules to Keep Casual Dating Fun and Honest
Tagged: Casual Sex, Slut Shaming, Feelings
“You can only fuck somebody you actually like. Like as in respect. Like as in, would introduce to your roommate if paths crossed in the kitchen the morning after. Like as in, wouldn’t actively go out of your way to be an asshole to. If you want a punching bag, go to the gym – not the bedroom.”
— Laura Jane Williams, 5 Unbendable Rules Of Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, Respect, kindness
“If you really don’t want a relationship, you need to say that at the beginning, out loud, and face-to-face.”
— Laura Jane Williams, 5 Unbendable Rules Of Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, Honesty, Truth
“Wear a condom. Have a safe word. Establish boundaries. Be playful.”
— Laura Jane Williams, 5 Unbendable Rules Of Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, condom, Safe Word, boundaries