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50 First-Time Sex Tips For Girls Who Like Girls

There are a lot more options than just dildos and vibrators. 
Holly Riordan
November 22, 2016
“A good way to learn more about vaginas is by putting a mirror between your legs and having a good look. Women's outer vaginas vary in appearance (so don't be shocked if hers doesn't look much like yours at all) but delve a little deeper and you'll find the important bits are generally in a similar area.”
— Charlotte Dingle, 10 sex tips for your first time with a woman
Tagged: Lesbian, Vagina, Sex
“Start gentle – some women's boobs are more sensitive than others. Cup them delicately, trace them lightly with your fingers, kiss them softly... Try not to grab. If all is going well, then try licking her nipples, using circular movements interspersed with sucking (not too hard).”
— Charlotte Dingle, 10 sex tips for your first time with a woman
Tagged: Lesbian, breasts, Kissing, sucking
“Get those nail clippers out NOW. See those 'lesbians' in porn films? I'm pretty sure 90% of their million-decibel screams and moans are because their co-star has snagged a crimson talon somewhere the sun don't shine.”
— Charlotte Dingle, 10 sex tips for your first time with a woman
Tagged: Lesbian, nails, fingers, Porno
“Yes, you need to talk about STDs. Lesbians get them and give them to other women.”
— Mary Gorham Malia, 6 Ways to Have Good Lesbian Sex for the First Time
Tagged: Lesbian, STD, Sex, disease
“Sex toys are great but not for your first time. Be present with your new lover’s body, her breathing, her scent and her sounds. Save toys for later. Toys are great. I love them, but I don’t need them for a first time experience with any woman.”
— Mary Gorham Malia, 6 Ways to Have Good Lesbian Sex for the First Time
Tagged: Lesbian, sex toys, Vibrators, Strapons
“Touch her all over and don’t just lunge for her crotch. Slow yourself down and really enjoy the experience. Slowly take her clothes off.”
— Mary Gorham Malia, 6 Ways to Have Good Lesbian Sex for the First Time
Tagged: Lesbian, touching, undressing, Vagina
“The Electric 69: Your basic 69, but with vibrators in place of tongues. Get up close and personal.”
— Samantha Allen, I Tried Cosmo’s New Lesbian Sex Tips
Tagged: Lesbian, 69ing, tongue, Vibrators
“The Naughty Student: Bend over the bed and have your partner penetrate you from behind with a strap-on dildo.”
— Samantha Allen, I Tried Cosmo’s New Lesbian Sex Tips
Tagged: Lesbian, sex toys, Strapon
“The Figure 8: Lie on top of your partner and penetrate each other with your fingers simultaneously.”
— Samantha Allen, I Tried Cosmo’s New Lesbian Sex Tips
Tagged: Lesbian, fingering, Sex, penetration
“Take the time to read her a sexy story and get both your imaginations and your juices flowing.”
— Kathy Belge, Tips for Lesbians to Improve Their Sex Lives
Tagged: Lesbian, erotica, Reading, Stories
“There are a lot more options than just dildos and vibrators. Browse a lesbian friendly vendor like Babeland or Good Vibrations and pick something out to take your loving to the next level.”
— Kathy Belge, Tips for Lesbians to Improve Their Sex Lives
Tagged: Lesbian, sex toys, Vibrators, dildos
“Don’t just focus on her breasts, her lips, and her clitoris. Kiss her toes, behind her knees, the small of her back and her fingertips. If you’ve never tried anal sex, discuss it with your partner and see if she’d be open to giving it a try.”
— Kathy Belge, Tips for Lesbians to Improve Their Sex Lives
Tagged: Lesbian, Kissing, breasts, Lips, clitoris
“Mouths aren’t just for oral sex! They’re for talking, too. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying things like, ‘Just FYI, I’ve never gone down on a vagina before.'”
— Ali, How To Have Lesbian Sex 102: Cunnilingus Edition
Tagged: Lesbian, oral, Sex, Honesty
“Be clear with your partner that you’re totally into feedback in the moment. As in, ‘a little to the left,’ ‘harder’ or ‘keep doing that.’ Remember: harder is not always better. It depends entirely on the person, but don’t assume that hard and fast always wins the race ’til you hear it from your partner.”
— Ali, How To Have Lesbian Sex 102: Cunnilingus Edition
Tagged: Lesbian, oral, Sex, Communication
“Using pillows or furniture to get the perfect position is a great way to go. Or you can have them sit on your face if your neck gets tired.”
— Ali, How To Have Lesbian Sex 102: Cunnilingus Edition
Tagged: Lesbian, oral, Sex, pillows, Comfort
“Don't pull out 'moves.' Be earnest and calm. I'd say that until you can gauge by moans and whimpers what they like the best (which hopefully you will, unless the girl makes zero noises, which sucks) just start by making your tongue really soft and wide, flatten it out on the pussy, and then proceed with slow and steady laps, like you're enjoying the best ice cream cone ever.”
— Kelly McClure, A Lesbo's Guide to Eating Vagina | VICE | United States
Tagged: Lesbian, oral, Sex, Patience
“If you remember only ONE thing, remember that that weird sucking thing you do hurts, and blowing into a vagina is a really bad idea.”
— Kelly McClure, A Lesbo's Guide to Eating Vagina | VICE | United States
Tagged: Lesbian, oral, Sex, sucking
“If you're doing some crazy nonsense down there and hear something like, 'come here, I wanna kiss you,' that means you fucked up.”
— Kelly McClure, A Lesbo's Guide to Eating Vagina | VICE | United States
Tagged: Lesbian, oral, Sex, Kissing
“I only have one tip: Let your hair sort of trace her back longitudinally from her buttcheeks up to her neck, then carry on with whatever. I fucking go insane.”
— Riese, How to Have Lesbian Sex Tips from NSFW Sunday
Tagged: Lesbian, hair, Sex
“Earlobes, nipples, and the area right below the belly button are direct links to the vagina.”
— Riese, How to Have Lesbian Sex Tips from NSFW Sunday
Tagged: Lesbian, Vagina, nipples, Ears
“Eye contact can seal the deal.”
— Riese, How to Have Lesbian Sex Tips from NSFW Sunday
Tagged: Lesbian, Eye Contact, Intimacy
“If you want even more of a trial run before doing anything physical, try flirting with women out in public or putting a profile up on an online dating site. See how taking these additional steps makes you feel.”
— Vanessa Marin, How To Experiment With Another Girl: Tips For Exploring Bi-Curiosity For the First Time
Tagged: Lesbian, Flirting, Dating sites
“You don’t have to spill your entire story to your hook-up partner, but if you want to go further than just a little making out, you may want to consider sharing that it’s your first time with a woman. Whatever you decide, be respectful and kind to the gal you’re messing around with. Don’t make her feel like a subject in a lab experiment.”
— Vanessa Marin, How To Experiment With Another Girl: Tips For Exploring Bi-Curiosity For the First Time
Tagged: Lesbian, Honesty, hookups
“Start by exploring the idea of hooking up with another woman using your imagination. This may sound like an overly simplistic piece of advice, but it can be quite useful.”
— Vanessa Marin, How To Experiment With Another Girl: Tips For Exploring Bi-Curiosity For the First Time
Tagged: Lesbian, Fantasies, masturbation
“There are a lot of ways to put bodies together that feel good, no matter the gender of partners involved, and there really is little lesbians can't do which male-male or male-female couples can: everyone can engage in making out, petting, massage, frottage (sometimes called dry sex or, with women in particular, tribbing), mutual masturbation, manual sex (fingering), oral sex, forms of anal sex and, when a female partner is involved, forms of vaginal intercourse (which for lesbian couples, is usually done with manual sex -- hands and fingers -- or a dildo). The idea that female couples are limited in sexual activities or can't have 'real sex,' is false.”
— Heather Corinna, How do I have sex with another woman without a vibrator?
Tagged: Lesbian, Sex, Making Out, fingering, oral
“Some women can only get off with a vibrator or other sex toy. Some women prefer to. Some women just really like vibrators or dildos included sometimes. Some women prefer not using them, or sometimes don't want to use them.”
— Heather Corinna, How do I have sex with another woman without a vibrator?
Tagged: Lesbian, Vibrators, sex toys
“We can stimulate the clitoris with our fingers, hands, mouths and even other parts of our bodies.”
— Heather Corinna, How do I have sex with another woman without a vibrator?
Tagged: Lesbian, clitoris, hands, Mouths
“Some women won't give, but will only receive, and others vice versa, but usually both women take an equal role and take their turn when it comes to roles during sex.”
— Rebecca Jane Stokes, 5 Questions About Lesbian Sex You Were Too Scared To Ask(So We Did)
Tagged: Lesbian, Equality, give and take
“Fisting is actually just the insertion of four fingers into the vagina, slowly and steadily with the thumb working the clitoris. Fist has such a violent connotation.”
— Rebecca Jane Stokes, 5 Questions About Lesbian Sex You Were Too Scared To Ask(So We Did)
Tagged: Lesbian, Fisting, Vagina, clitoris
“Scissoring is when the partners come together, one on top, with their legs splayed (you know, like scissors) in order to align their genitals for the best possible contact to stimulate them using friction. I made it just sound as clinical AF but it is actually intensely hot.”
— Rebecca Jane Stokes, 5 Questions About Lesbian Sex You Were Too Scared To Ask(So We Did)
Tagged: Lesbian, Scissoring, genitals, stimulation