Evan Kirby

Should You Break Up With Your Friend? 20 Points To Consider If They Keep Hurting You

Friends are supposed to make you feel good, remember that.
Sade Andria Zabala
October 11, 2016
“Don’t trust people who don’t support you as you try to grow into a more mature and self-realized person. Don’t confide in people who aren’t as interested in your triumphs as they are in your downfalls.”
— Danielle Mertina, via Tumblr
Tagged: Relationships, Trust, Spilled Ink, Wisdom, Growth, Self love, Friendship
“Never forget: self-awareness is a sacred duty, one that rises above everything else. It would be selfish to think that you are no use to anyone and to waste your talents and energy following around people who don’t know what they want to do with their lives.”
— Martin Laird, Why Successful People Leave Their Loser Friends Behind
Tagged: Friendship, Break Up
“Friends should be like a good bra, lifting you up. Bad friends are like sports bras. They can do wonders when you go out dancing or during high-energy times, but one a day-to-day basis they really just smush down some of your greatest assets.”
— Mamrie Hart, You Deserve a Drink: Boozy Misadventures and Tales of Debauchery
Tagged: Best Friends, Friendship, Love
“I've decided that I'm not going to try to squeeze myself into a friendship that hurts me anymore. I'm going to let her go and just be friends with people who make me feel good about myself.”
— Zoe Sugg, Girl Online: On Tour
Tagged: Friendship, Happiness
“But then I wondered if sometimes our friendships are a bit like clothes and when they start feeling uncomfortable it's not because we've done anything wrong. It just means that we've outgrown them.”
— Zoe Sugg, Girl Online: The First Novel by Zoella
Tagged: Friendship, Moving On
“Surround yourself with people who are the ketchup to your french fries-they make you a better version of yourself. Yes french fries are amazing on their own, but combined with ketchup they are a force. Spend time with people who bring out your true flavors, but don't overpower you.”
— Grace Helbig, Grace's Guide: The Art of Pretending to Be a Grown-Up
Tagged: Friendship, Love
“If you continuously go out of your way to make someone happy and they don’t return the energy, leave them because they don’t consider you worthy of the same energy they are taking from you.”
— Anonymous, via Tumblr
Tagged: Self Worth, Friendship, Relationship, Dating
“You stop doing things to please other people and start doing things to please yourself. A lot of friendships will get trashed by this simple fact alone. Once you stop letting people treat you like garbage, most people don’t see a use for you anymore.”
— Gigi Engle, Why The Older You Get, The More You Hate Everyone (And Why That's OK)
Tagged: Friendship, Break Up, Toxic, Self Worth
“Friends will leave you. YOU will never leave you.”
— Gigi Engle, Why The Older You Get, The More You Hate Everyone (And Why That's OK)
Tagged: Friendship, Break Up, Alone
“But you are the average of the five people you associate with most, so do not underestimate the effects of your pessimistic, unambitious, or disorganized friends. If someone isn't making you stronger, they're making you weaker.”
— Timothy Ferriss, The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich
Tagged: Friends, Friendship, strength, Weakness
“Friendship- my definition- is built on two things. Respect and trust. Both elements have to be there. And it has to be mutual. You can have respect for someone, but if you don't have trust, the friendship will crumble.”
— Stieg Larsson, The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo
Tagged: Friendship, weird loving friendship, mutual, Respect, Trust, Values, elements, definition
“Today my mom told me.. ‘a person who values you, wouldn’t ever put themselves in a position to lose you.’ and that really hit deep.”
— yxngxanhoe, via Tumblr
Tagged: Tumblr, Love, Friendship, Relationships, Fight
“As you age, you lose other, even more important things, like friends--hopefully only bad friends, who maybe weren't as good for you as you once thought.”
— Meg Cabot, The Princess Diaries, Volume X: Forever Princess
Tagged: Aging, Friends, Friendship, Loss
“Friends are supposed to make you feel good about yourself. Just remember that.”
— KatyScar, The Artidote
Tagged: Friendship, Spilled Ink, Important
“Friends don't lie.”
— Eleven, Stranger Things, Stranger Things Season 1: Chapter One
Tagged: Stranger Things, Science, Friendship, lying
“You’re going to lose touch with a lot of your friends. With some people, it will be expected but with others it will feel like a punch to the stomach. No friendship is truly safe in your twenties. Don’t worry though. You’ll end up with the ones that matter. If someone’s no longer in your life, it’s for a reason.”
— Ryan O'Connell, 25 Things I’ve Learned In My 20s
Tagged: Friendship, Twenties, Losing Friends
“The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us to become the-best-version-of-ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. We become like our friends. No man becomes great on his own. No woman becomes great on her own. The people around them help to make them great.

We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose, and challenge us to become the-best-version-of-ourselves.”
— Matthew Kelly, via Facebook
Tagged: Companionship, Friendship, Growing Pains, Identity
“How someone reacts to your sadness says a lot about how long they’re going to be in your life.”
— Sue M. Zhao, The Artidote
Tagged: Sad, Depression, Friendship
“Stop calling people who don't call you. Stop visiting people who don't know where you live. Stop making time for people who don't have time for you. Stop spending on people who don't spend on you. Stop thinking about people who don't think about you. You will make yourself emotionally bankrupt. You can love someone from a distance and I am not just talking about romantic relationships, but all relationships: friends, family, etc. Treat people the way they treat you and stop over-exerting yourself and giving love where it's not returned. Life is difficult enough without having to beg people for their love and attention. The least you can do for yourself is surround yourself with people who genuinely love and care about you. And most importantly surround yourself with people that don't see you as an option. There is nothing worse that people who treat you like you are replaceable.”
— Unknown, via Facebook
Tagged: Friendship, Break Up, Relationship, Letting Go, Take Care Of Yourself, Take Back Your Life, Unrequited Love
“Here's the thing: best friends never talk bad behind your back no matter how bad shit gets.”
— Sade Andria Zabala, A Breakup Letter To My Best Friend
Tagged: Friendship, Betrayal, Gossip, Backstab