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“Was in a horrible marriage with a man who abused both me and our child. I met another man who made me realize my child and I deserved better. Left my abusive husband for him and we are currently married with 4 children. Not proud of how I handled the whole thing, but when beaten down and feeling like nothing matters anyway, people do things they normally wouldn't.”
— weedle_weedle, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“I was married for a couple of years when I left my wife. The relationship I had with my wife was that of a friendship. There was no chemistry and no sex. The woman that I left her for had her own complications. So how did this work out? I will answer that in two ways.

First, it sped up a divorce that was going to happen regardless. Because our decision to separate was quick, there was no time for us to make the poor decision to have kids at that time. She and I are still friendly when we see each other. It was a great decision, No matter the circumstance.

Second, the relationship I left for has had many ups and downs. This relationship started 5 years ago and is still going on today. While we have gone through hell for each other — it has taken a lot of time to get to a place where we can truly be a strong couple. We both needed to unwind from our own lives and be on our own for a time. We did not expect it to be so hard, but now that we are in a strong place, it has been so worth it.”
— Dontjudgemeforever, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“I was married to my wife for 21 years and had two wonderful daughters. I was seriously unhappy for the last 11 or 12 years of the marriage and she never saw it, everyone else did but not her.

It came to a head when my mother asked me one day when I was going to leave her because I was way too young to be unhappy for the rest of my life. I had a friendship with another lady that was much more compatible, and once I was separated we began a romantic relationship.

I have been married to the new lady for just over a year now and I am happier than I have ever been. Nowadays my new wife and I travel with my ex-wife to our daughters sporting events (my new wife has a daughter the same age) and we are friends. Looking back it was the best thing I could have ever done, we are all happier now than we were.”
— IdahoPatMan, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“The other person and I are married and couldn't be happier. We both came from unhealthy/dead marriages. I do regret how the whole separation/divorce went with my ex but I never regretted leaving and I never will even if things between my now husband and me shouldn't work out.”
— andthentherewerefour, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“Backstory: My ex and I were best friends for 12 years, dated for 8. We weren't married because it was illegal at the time (gayyyyyy). Near the end of our relationship I did actually ask her to marry me because it was becoming legal in some states. Her response was to write me a letter, telling me she'd cheated.

We always prided ourselves on being a very trustworthy couple and it was all a complete lie on her part, but I loved her. I understand people make mistakes. So I asked her if there was anything else she wanted to tell me and she started spewing things from her mouth that only Satan would do. So horrible I locked myself in the bathroom for an hour, sobbing and dry heaving at how horrible of a person I'd loved.

She is married now to a man and he has no idea. I never told anyone but I'm not sure there's anything that can legally be done. I don't have any contact with her nor do I Facebook stalk her, but sometimes someone will send me a pic or post. She apparently is getting her dream job and has the best marriage. They got married after only 2 months of dating right out of a 8 yr relationship. I feel so bad for the dude.

I'm not sure what she is saying is true because she's a liar and I know that she'd never let anyone know if her relationship sucked. Nobody even knew we'd broken up until months after, that's how private we were. Every time I see how supposedly great her life is I think about how I could ruin it all, but I don't. I just really want Karma to rear its ugly head.

As for me, I am amazing. I met a wonderful, intelligent, passionate woman almost two years ago. I honestly didn't know relationships could be this great. I sometimes can't believe I wasted so much time on the wrong person, but my girlfriend tells me it was fate just so I could meet her. I've never been so sure about a person in my 29 years of life and I'm (secretly) looking to propose over Thanksgiving. She's about to graduate in Dec so I think it'll be a nice little holiday surprise.
The best part though is that I also took the dog and cat from my previous relationship. So I get a great woman and two cute af animals.

How the hell could I not be happy!?”
— AskMe_If_ICare, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“I got married young at 19, to someone I had been with for a year but friends with throughout school. The marriage was not the best thought out idea (we were both quite immature teenagers who absolutely believed we were the most mature two people on the planet. Hindsight.) though we got along really well, he is a great person.

We had our daughter a couple of years later, when we were both at college and went on to university, so stuff was intense and hard work. A few months after I had began dating him I met one of his friends and felt an instant connection, a kind of "Jesus, I've never felt like this before" connection. Put it to the back of my mind but had on/off discussions with this person over the following few years about how we felt (turned out the connection was mutual). I felt like I had been emotionally unfaithful by having these conversations and attempting to pursue a friendship, which sucks just as bad as being physically unfaithful and I have learned to accept that.

When my daughter was two I reached a point of thinking, "Am I delaying the inevitable"? I've had these feelings for years, they don't seem to be going away even through periods of absolutely zero contact with the person, even when investing all my energy into making my relationship work. Is it better to leave now whilst my daughter is young enough not to have any memories of me and her father together, or leave when she's older and risk fucking her up completely.

The person I had these feelings for had always said "focus on your family" and never tried to push me into any decisions, but would be honest about his own feelings (and how much they were fucking him up too I guess). So I came clean and told my husband that I was unhappy because of these feelings that I couldn't overcome and I felt like staying in the marriage would be denying him the opportunity to find someone who is 100% devoted to him. I felt like I was wasting his time. I should reiterate that my husband (soon to be ex) is a really good person, he has loads of positive qualities and is a fantastic father too. I respect him and I want him to have all the happiness he deserves, he deserved more than what I was able to give him. We were living like good friends, after my daughter's conception we were no longer intimate (he went pretty much two years without sex). That isn't the way a successful relationship should be.

He took it really well, I think he knew deep down all along. We had had conversations throughout the relationship about this other person and our friendship, so it wasn't a surprise to him. We manage to completely share our daughter equally and even when things have been rough we've managed to put her needs first. We are amicable, mainly for the sake of our child. Me and my now S/O live together and it's as I expected, which is really well. He gets on great with my child and she adores him, though the boundaries are clear in that she doesn't need a second dad or step-father figure, her real dad is brilliant so we would never enforce that.

My ex has found someone else too, she seems lovely. I've become a better partner because of this too, I'm better at communicating (which was a massive issue in my marriage) and have a complete honesty policy. If I have an issue, I don't just bottle it up and hope it will go away of its own accord. I spend more time thinking about decisions rather than just acting on impulse. I'm not sure if that is down to learning from the previous relationship, or just generally growing up a bit.

With hindsight, I shouldn't have rushed into my marriage so young, I should definitely have been more open and honest at the time, when me and husband were dating before letting it get to the point it did. That was really shitty of me, I guess I just thought I needed to ride it out, that the feelings would disappear over time if I just buried them really deep. Obviously, continuing sporadic contact with the person was never going to aid that, so again that is something I have accepted was not the right way to go about things. At the same time though, I don't really regret anything because I have a beautiful daughter out of my previous relationship, and my husband and I did have some really good times.

Feelings cannot be helped but it is the way in which we deal with them that counts. I should have dealt with them better. There are no excuses for that, being a dumb teenager doesn't excuse it, being a coward doesn't excuse it. On the whole, the situation was a lot less messy than I thought it would be. I'm lucky in a lot of ways. It does feel rubbish knowing that I left my husband for another man, it isn't a nice label to have and the negative things that happened because of it (losing friends, disappointing family) are probably well deserved. I have to own that, but I don't want it to define me.”
— mtwtfssrepeat, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“Met my wife online, married 14 years. She left me because marriage was getting stale as well. Left me, my son and daughter (her biological children, my stepchildren). Held on as long as I could in the house we rented because we had 6 dogs at the time.

My children, in time, moved in with their mom because she lived in a small town up in the mountains, and they liked the atmosphere up there. My STBX had a boyfriend, but was abusive and she dumped him. She's now seeing someone else, I think, or at least trying to. Oh, she mentioned that she might have some kind of bone cancer something. I don't know.

Me? I moved back in with my parents with my dogs because I couldn't afford to live on my own. It's great now. I have a goal to save money for myself and the divorce proceedings, paying off debt, and I'm looking forward to go back to school. I contribute at home and help my parents whenever they command. LOL

I miss taking care of someone, but I realize that it's much more than that. The lesson I learned is that you have to find that someone that understands that "commitment" means that, and not to just give up. I really don't think that I'm going to get together with a woman again. I'm going to take care of myself and my family first before that happens.”
— mcatech, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“I left an abusive lazy fiance (I was 21 then) for a man who was 59. I saw he had something of interest to me for sale online. I rode my motorbike 120kms to pick up the item one night. He greeted me at the doorway and I found him very attractive! (A sort of thrashed out Matthew McConaughey)... he was very kind and had a rough charm about him.

He invited me in, we started talking about rock and metal music and all the live concerts he'd seen in his youth, had lots of laughs, we really clicked. Hours later we wound up on the floor of his lounge room in-front of the fire. It was honestly the best night ever...felt like a real wild woman.

Rode home the next day to tell my fiance it was off. Wasn't easy as I knew he'd want revenge and to possibly physically harm me. Long story short I moved in with my much older lover, we had a great time, lived comfortably for about 6 months...he told me he had aggressive stomach cancer.

It was the end of the line for him only 1 month after he found out. He passed away in hospital.

Was it all worth it? Absolutely! Had a short time together but enjoyed every day with him, and I'm glad I was able to put some spark back into the rest of his life he had left.”
— Rideronthestorm27, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“I was in a bad marriage, wasn't abusive; but toxic and controlling. We didn't agree a lot on things, no similar hobbies, I couldn't spend time with family or friends without him getting jealous. Not to justify what I did, but our marriage was dead.

I met someone online through a gaming forum and we hit it off instantly. We became best friends, and talked daily (while husband was at work so it was behind his back). After a year of chatting via Skype and text I decided to go meet up with him.

It was love at first sight, called my husband and told him I was leaving him, it happened that fast. It's been almost 6 years and no regrets, we are still very much in love and I love my new life. Ex husband and I became friends through the divorce process oddly enough and we still talk now. I feel we are better as friends than we were husband and wife, unfortunately we had to get married and divorced to figure that out.”
— Inmysguin, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“Marriage was stale, living parallel lives, blah blah blah. Ran into "the one that got away" on FB. Chatting led to flirting led to a tryst in a city between us. It was meant to be a once-and-done, to get it out of our system. What we didn't plan on was falling in love.

Knowing I'd want to see her again, I confessed to my wife and moved out, ultimately divorcing. Over the next two years I learned that:

1) Long distance relationships don't work, 
2) The "one that got away" got away for a reason.

It was all a big mistake, but none of it can be fixed. I date others, but miss my wife and marriage every day.”
— Scrappy_Larue, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“I left my wife for someone who I felt was my best friend. We tried living together and it was a complete disaster. All I did was compare her to my wife, in retrospect I regret all of it.

The emotional toll is something you cannot fully express. A bad situation like that never has any chance of working out. The person was better off as a friend but in a situation like that you can never be friends like that.”
— ELMachoMetro, Married redditors who left their SO for the other person, hows it going? any regrets or lessons to be learned? • /r/AskReddit
Tagged: Reddit, Marriage, Love, breakup, Aftermath of Leaving Your Husband/Wife
“If Calvin Harris can’t make it work with Taylor Swift, what hope do any of us chiseled, 6’6” DJs have?””
— Conan O'Brien, via twitter.com
Tagged: Taylor Swift, calvin harris, Attractive, breakup
“I hope that the thought of me eats you alive.”
— Ten Word Story, Ten Word Story
Tagged: Dating, Relationships, breakup, Sad, Ten Word Story
“Here you are now, calling me up, but I don't know what to say
I've been picking up the pieces of the mess you made
People like you always want back the love they pushed aside
But people like me are gone forever when you say goodbye.”
— Taylor Swift, All You Had To Do Was Stay
Tagged: Dating, breakup, Relationships
“And I guess we fell apart in the usual way.
And the story’s got dust on every page,
But sometimes I wonder how you think about it now.
And I see your face in every crowd.

Cause darling, it was good never looking down.
And right there where we stood was holy ground.

Tonight I’m gonna dance for all that we’ve been through.
But I don’t wanna dance if I’m not dancing with you.”
— Taylor Swift, Holy Ground
Tagged: Taylor Swift, Heartbreak, breakup
“When you go out of your way to make someone jealous, whether it snapping your whole life after a breakup, using insta to show you're out with someone or texting them useless shit just to see if they answer, what you are really doing is further confirming their decision to have ended it. If you decide to do none of those things and live your life not advertising it, what they are gonna do is wonder what they hell you are up to and who you are with.
Trying to make someone jealous does the complete opposite. Trust me. I've lived it. ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Relationship Advice, Dating Advice, breakup
“We've gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain't kids no more”
— Adele, 25
Tagged: Love, Endings, breakup
“Thanks for making me single just in time to finally date my high school crush. After you treated me poorly, I realized I deserved the absolute best and went with it.”
— Anonymous, Things You Never Said To Your Ex
Tagged: Exes, breakup, goodbye
“your memories have worn me out”
— M. Ocean, Let Her Go
Tagged: Letting Go, Loving On, Memory, Past and Future, breakup
“Losing me will hurt; it will be the kind of pain that won't feel real at first, and when it does, it will take her breath away.”
— Gayle Forman, If I Stay
Tagged: breakup, Heartbreak, Relationship, Loss, Losing Love, hurt

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