Ruthie Martin

For Every Woman Scared Of Love, This Is What You Need To Hear

"Somehow we’ve been convinced that we are protecting ourselves, that life is better and easier by holding tightly to our love. Sometimes it is easier. But it is never better." - Alison Motroni
Marisa Donnelly
December 22, 2016
“Because the truth is, if you want that big, passionate, all-consuming love, you’re going to have to go after it. You’re going to have to fight for it. You’re going to have to be willing to put yourself out there in a way that could potentially humiliate or break you. 

And at the end of the day, it might. 

But if you’re not willing to stick your neck out for love, than you’re never going to meet anyone else who is willing to, either. 

And frankly, if you’re not willing to give out the big, scary kind of love you’re searching for – then maybe you don’t deserve to find it at all.”
— Heidi Priebe, If You Want Big Love, You’re Going To Have To Go After It
Tagged: Finding Love, Going All In, Big Love, real love, Truth About Love, Passionate, Fearless Love
“It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.”
— Eleanor Roosevelt, Inspiring Love Quotes
Tagged: Eleanor Roosevelt, Love, Pain
“And even when you fear that the whole world knows too much, or that you’ve revealed your deepest secrets, or that you’ve given away a huge chunk of yourself only to be broken again—close your eyes, take a deep breath, and let go. This is the beauty of vulnerability. It’s standing on the edge of a cliff with the definite possibility of falling, but giving away your heart anyways, because there’s an even bigger chance of the wind grabbing ahold of you, and you learning to fly.”
— Marisa Donnelly, This Is For The Girls Who Aren’t Afraid To Be Vulnerable
Tagged: vulnerability, Love, Fearless, Letting Go
“I think she was afraid to love sometimes. I think it scared her. She was the type to like things that were concrete, like the ocean. Something you could point to and know what it was. I think that's why she always struggled with God. And I think that's why she also struggled with love. She couldn't touch it. She couldn't hold on to it and make sure it never changed.”
— Carrie Ryan, The Dead-Tossed Waves (Forest of Hands and Teeth)
Tagged: Hard To Love
“The reason relationships are falling apart in modern times, is because we now have choice. And we’re choosing to be scared. We’re choosing to run from our own vulnerability. We’re choosing to blame others instead of seeing the truth – the opportunity to look inside and grow.”
— Kiara O'Leary, Here’s The Heartbreaking Truth About Why Modern Relationships Are So Easily Discarded Today
Tagged: Love, Truth About Love, Love & Relationships, 21st Century Love, Contemporary Love, Half Love, Letting Someone In, Fear Of Love, The Digital Age
“Maybe there’s something you’re afraid to say, or someone you’re afraid to love, or somewhere you’re afraid to go. It’s gonna hurt. It’s gonna hurt because it matters.”
— John Green, Will Grayson, Will Grayson
Tagged: Saying What's On Your Mind, Speaking From The Heart, Afraid To Say, Afraid Of Love, hurt, Pain, Matters
“I don't trust easily, and I don't give second chances. I'm messy. I'm emotional. I love hard and get upset about little things. I take everything personally. I want to fix everyone, even if they're not broken.”
— Rachel Brathen, @yoga_girl
Tagged: Trust, Emotional, Messy, broken, Fixing
“You don't have to be afraid of falling. Just close your eyes, let go, and know that I'll always be here with arms outstretched, ready to catch you.”
— S.L Jennings, Fear Of Falling
Tagged: Fear Love, Relationship Advice, Vulnerable
“We are all afraid, but on the other side of fear and rejection is everything we've ever hoped for, if only we can muster the courage to pursue it.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Fear Love, Rejection, Hope
“Sometimes my emotional switch remains off. You can't get hurt if you feel nothing.”
— R.H. Sin, Whiskey Words & a Shovel II
Tagged: Love, Feelings, Numb
“I'm so afraid of losing something I love, that I refuse to love anything.”
— Jonathan Safran Foer, Fear Of Love Sayings and Quotes
Tagged: Fear Of Love, Relationships
“Sometimes I sit alone under the stars and think of the galaxies inside my heart and truly wonder if anyone will ever want to make sense of all that I am.”
— Christopher Poindexter, via Tumblr
Tagged: Alone, Under The Stars, 3am Thoughts, Understanding Your Self, Searching For Answers
“Me? I’m scared of everything. I’m scared of what I saw, I’m scared of what I did, of who I am, and most of all I’m scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I’m with you.”
— Baby, Dirty Dancing
Tagged: Romantic Speeches, Love, romance, Feeling, Scared
“She isn’t afraid to be the first person to say ‘I love you.”
— Ella Cerón, 21 Signs The Woman You’re Dating Is A Keeper
Tagged: Big Personalities, The Right Kind Of Woman, Women, Strong Women, Love & Relationships, Keeper, She's A Keeper
“Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”
— Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
Tagged: Imperfection, Fear, Bravery, Worthiness, Self-Love, Self-Acceptance
“You’ll never have that kind of relationship in a world where you’re afraid to take the first step because all you see is every negative thing 10 miles down the road.”
— Robin Williams, Good Will Hunting
Tagged: Love, Imperfections, Taking Risks
“As you grow up, you will learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when you had yours broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for the things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back. Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.”
— Unknown, Paul Hudson Facebook
Tagged: Learning, Growing, Fear, Love, chances
“We’re afraid of losing before we’ve even lost anything at all. So afraid that we hold ourselves back from having it in the first place.”
— Brianna Wiest, If You’re Afraid Of Love Because You’re Afraid Of Loss: This Is For You
Tagged: Fear Love
“You’re afraid of something you don’t have any control over.

You’re afraid of letting someone in. You’re afraid they are gonna find out everything about you and they’re gonna take off. So you beat them too it.”
— Kirsten Corley, To My Fellow Women, When Love Finds You Please Stop Running From It
Tagged: Fear Heartbreak
“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.”
— Jim Morrison, Interview
Tagged: Pain, Human Experience, Truth About Being Human, Truth About Life
“You are an independent woman. A woman with a strong heart and passionate soul. You cannot let go of that part of you, the part that decides for herself, finds strength in her ability to stand alone. Yet you cannot be afraid to love. You cannot be afraid to embrace that ridiculously emotional side of you, the side that blends your strength with your passion. The side that makes you whole.”
— Marisa Donnelly, Read This If You Are Fiercely Independent But Also Ridiculously Emotional
Tagged: Sensitive People, Being Sensitve, Sensitive, Emotional People, Love, How You Love, How She Loves, Emotional Women, Strong Woman
“I know you, I know your type. You tip-toe around the people who show potential interest. You keep a fair distance from the people who brush their fingers against yours and the ones who look at you in the way everyone wants to be looked at. You do all you can to push away the people that could love you and you keep close the ones you know that don’t care.

You’re afraid, and that’s okay. It’s not a secret that people are fickle. That people will tell you to leave with the same mouths they used to press kisses along the length of your neck. That people will count your ribs with the same fingers they’ll use to shove under the bones and pull.

And so, you stay away. You stay away because it’s logical. because you’ve always been the logical person. The one that weighs out the pros and cons of being in a relationship. You’re the person that wants to be independent, to have a career to not be tied down by someone who will hurt you and then leave you. So, you think that if you keep people at arms length and refuse to stay the night or to spill out of your mouth your darkest fears, that you won’t fall in love. Here’s the thing though, you don’t have a choice in love. You’ll fall in love and you’ll fall hard.”
— Addriey Jones, Don’t Be The Type Of Person Who’s Afraid Of Love
Tagged: Don't Be Afraid, Fear Of Love, Love, Diving In, Falling Into Love
“I used to think that only the weak wear their hearts on their sleeves and fall in love. But now I know, it’s not the ones that are in love who are weak but instead the ones who are too afraid to. So, don’t be afraid of love. Fall in love, fall hard and when you’re lying on the ground, bruised and broken, pick yourself up and repeat until you find the person who will tell you in the late of night I’m here to stay.”
— Addriey Jones, Don’t Be The Type Of Person Who’s Afraid Of Love
Tagged: Don't Be Afraid, Fear Of Love, Love, Diving In, Falling Into Love
“I won’t be timid, won’t overthink, won’t stand on the edge and hold myself back. Because even if I end up at a loss, I gave my everything to something I wanted, someone I wanted. And that’s still beautiful.”
— Marisa Donnelly, I’m Not Afraid To Be The Girl Who Loves More
Tagged: Not Afraid Of Love, Fearless In Love, Love, Falling In Love
“Don’t be frightened to give your love away. Don’t think that to give love away means to use it up. Don’t buy the lie that if you are too generous with your love it will run out. It won’t. You don’t have to ration it or hold it tight to your chest. Loosen your grip. Every time you choose to give love away your capacity for it grows deeper.”
— Alison Motroni, Don’t Be Afraid To Fall In Love
Tagged: Don't Be Afraid, Don't Be Afraid Of Love, Afraid Of Love, Fear Of Love, Love, Falling Into Love
“We work so hard to keep our hearts from getting hurt. We stay in our hometowns so as to guarantee we never love a new place. We become attached to routines that leave no room for our hearts to get involved. And we keep our hearts hidden from people we want to love. By playing hard-to-get-me games with the real intent of protecting our own hearts. By relying on our technology and our comforts to keep us from stepping off a maybe-scary ledge. We choose judgment and apathy over love because it’s easier. It’s less risk. But it’s bullshit. We have spent our lives believing lies.”
— Alison Motroni, Don’t Be Afraid To Fall In Love
Tagged: Don't Be Afraid, Don't Be Afraid Of Love, Afraid Of Love, Fear Of Love, Love, Falling Into Love
“Somehow we’ve been convinced that we are protecting ourselves, that life is better and easier by holding tightly to our love. Sometimes it is easier. But it is never better. And sometimes it takes making a choice every day, every moment, but it’s worth it. Choosing the thrill, the vulnerability, the self-abandonment is always worth it.”
— Alison Motroni, Don’t Be Afraid To Fall In Love
Tagged: Don't Be Afraid, Don't Be Afraid Of Love, Afraid Of Love, Fear Of Love, Love, Falling Into Love
“You aren't afraid of love. You're afraid of all the junk you've yoked to love. And you've convinced yourself that withholding one tiny word...will shield you from that junk. But it won't. We are obligated to the people we care about and who we allow to care about us, whether we say we love them or not.”
— Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things
Tagged: Love, Afraid Of Love, Not Afraid Of Love, vulnerability