James Bates

19 Brutally Honest And Raw Quotes About The Realities Of Love

It’s a very dangerous state. You are inclined to recklessness and kind of tune out the rest of your life and everything that’s been important to you. It’s actually not all that pleasurable.
Katie Mather
October 5, 2016
“I can't talk, so I stutter
what I probably shouldn't say
I'm becoming too honest for my own good these days
I can't talk, I can't breathe
cause your tongue's in my mouth
I can't find my bra, I think it's somewhere in your couch”
— Brenda Weiler, Weave My Way
Tagged: Falling In Love, Song Lyrics, Poetry
“Why do we all say we prefer honesty but rarely give that courtesy to others? Maybe in our hearts we all want to give others honesty, but in practice it’s just too damn hard. Honesty is confrontational. Crafting the ‘honest’ message takes a lot of time and thought. And no matter how delicately you do it, it feels cold and mean to reject someone. It’s just easier on many levels to say nothing or pretend to be busy until people get the picture.”
— Aziz Ansari, Modern Romance
Tagged: Dating, romance, Love, Marriage, love and romance
“Fall in love with a guy who makes an effort. The guy who doesn’t throw in the towel when things get hard, who doesn’t storm away and run when you have a disagreement. A guy who is willing to sit down and talk through shit, even when it’s uncomfortable or hard. A guy who is always honest, always direct, and speaks kindly.”
— Jacob Geers, Fall In Love With A Guy Who Shows The Fuck Up
Tagged: Love, Relationships, expression, Falling In Love
“Go after her. Fuck, don’t sit there and wait for her to call, go after her because that’s what you should do if you love someone, don’t wait for them to give you a sign cause it might never come, don’t let people happen to you, don’t let me happen to you, or her, she’s not a fucking television show or tornado. There are people I might have loved had they gotten on the airplane or run down the street after me or called me up drunk at four in the morning because they need to tell me right now and because they cannot regret this and I always thought I’d be the only one doing crazy things for people who would never give enough of a fuck to do it back or to act like idiots or be entirely vulnerable and honest and making someone fall in love with you is easy and flying 3000 miles on four days notice because you can’t just sit there and do nothing and breathe into telephones is not everyone’s idea of love but it is the way I can recognize it because that is what I do. Go scream it and be with her in meaningful ways because that is beautiful and that is generous and that is what loving someone is, that is raw and that is unguarded, and that is all that is worth anything, really.”
— Harvey Milk, An Archive of Hope: Harvey Milk's Speeches and Writings
Tagged: Forever With You
“You
were the sun
and loving you
was photosynthesis.”
— Aman Batra, MissFit Poetry
Tagged: Brutally Honest, Love, True Love, Sun, Light, Happiness
“It’s a very dangerous state. You are inclined to recklessness and kind of tune out the rest of your life and everything that’s been important to you. It’s actually not all that pleasurable. I don’t know who the hell wants to get in a situation where you can’t bear an hour without somebody’s company.”
— Colin Firth, 20 of the Most Inspiring Quotes About Love
Tagged: Brutally Honest, Love, True Love, Reckless
“What I wanted was the most honest part of your soul and what I received was everything I was trying to avoid.”
— R.H. Sin, Whiskey Words & a Shovel II
Tagged: Love, Heartbreak, Disappointment
“All you can do is be honest and real with him as you get to know each other. Deciding not to play games is the best way to go because it keeps things simple: If he messes it up by playing around with your heart, you'll know he doesn't deserve you. You were real with him, and he didn't return the courtesy. Someone else will!”
— Taylor Swift, Taylor Swift's Rules on Love: A Comprehensive List
Tagged: Relationship Advice, Guy Advice, Taylor Swift Advice
“We were together. I forget the rest.”
— Walt Whitman, Leaves Of Grass
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, Together, couple
“Love is so short, forgetting is so long.”
— Pablo Neruda, The Poetry of Pablo Neruda
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, Forgetting
“It’s always going to be you, even when I’m busy pretending to love somebody else.”
— Laura Jane Williams, We Never Happened, And That Has To Be Okay
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, pretending, Somebody Else
“I was glad I wasn’t in love, that I wasn’t happy with the world. I like being at odds with everything. People in love often become edgy, dangerous. They lose their sense of perspective.”
— Charles Bukowski, Women: A Novel
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, In love, danger, Edgy, Perspective
“You will break someone’s heart if you fall in love with someone’s potential and then blame them for not living up to it. You will break someone’s heart if you fall in love with the changed version of them you have in your head, instead of the version they are, right now, in this moment.”
— Jamie Varon, How To Break Someone’s Heart
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, Breaking Hearts, Potential
“It is not so incomprehensible as you pretend, sweet pea. Love is the feeling we have for those we care deeply about and hold in high regard. It can be light as the hug we give a friend or heavy as the sacrifices we make for our children. It can be romantic, platonic, familial, fleeting, everlasting, conditional, unconditional, imbued with sorrow, stoked by sex, sullied by abuse, amplified by kindness, twisted by betrayal, deepened by time, darkened by difficulty, leavened by generosity, nourished by humor and ‘loaded with promises and commitments’ that we may or may not want or keep.”
— Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, Romantic, Platonic, Betrayal, Commitment
“I haven’t changed my mind. That’s the point! I want to spend my life with you even though it’s totally irrational. And you have short earlobes. Socially and genetically there’s no reason for me to be attracted to you. The only logical conclusion is that I must be in love with you.”
— Graeme Simsion, The Rosie Project: A Novel
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, In love, Spend Life Together
“All I am saying is that when you really, really like someone, when you feel like they’re the only person you want to see at the end of a long day, when you’ve really gotten to know them and you feel like they’ve gotten to know you, ask them. When you’re no longer interested in pursuing other relationships and other people, or when you’re ready to focus your attention on one person, or when you feel like you can’t stop smiling because this person sparked something within you, ask.”
— Kim Quindlen, When Are You Supposed To Drop The “What Are We” Bomb?
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, What Are We?, smiling, Spark
“So what I’m trying to say is you should text me back.
Because there’s a precedent. Because there’s an urgency.
Because there’s a bedtime.
Because when the world ends I might not have my phone charged and
If you don’t respond soon,
I won’t know if you’d wanna leave your shadow next to mine.”
— Marina Keegan, The Opposite of Loneliness: Essays and Stories
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love
“In the flush of love’s light, we dare be brave. And suddenly we see that love costs all we are, and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free.”
— Maya Angelou, The Complete Poetry
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, Bravery, Free
“This is not my escapism.

This is my honesty.

You are the shot of whisky that turns my throat from a body part to a cathedral.

I am broken sparrow who flies back to your window because I heard you like my singing.

You are land mines of potential.

I am not afraid of the explosion.”
— Ari Eastman, I Promised You I Wouldn't Write This
Tagged: Honest Love, True Love, Escape, Truth, Potential