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50 Signs That You're Coming Across As Desperate And Clingy

You lower your standards.
Holly Riordan
November 15, 2016
“Double texting when you don’t hear a response.”
— Nick Notas, 10 Mistakes That Make You Look Desperate
Tagged: Desperate, double texting, Texting
“Asking if [he] got your last message or confronting [him] about not responding.”
— Nick Notas, 10 Mistakes That Make You Look Desperate
Tagged: Desperate, Texting, Confrontation, Anger
“Professing your feelings outright without flirting or creating attraction.”
— Nick Notas, 10 Mistakes That Make You Look Desperate
Tagged: Desperate, Flirting, Attraction, blunt
“Desperate daters fish for compliments. Desperate daters need outside encouragement at every turn. They are so desperate to feel good about themselves that they become masters of creating compliments out of thin air. Self-deprecation is the most common tool.”
— eHarmony Staff, 7 Signs of a Desperate Dater | eHarmony Advice
Tagged: Desperate, Self-deprecation, compliments
“Desperate daters drop their friends. If you NEED a relationship, then nothing is going to stand in the way, right? Certainly not the friends who love you and will probably forgive you for dumping them. So goes the logic of the desperate mind.”
— eHarmony Staff, 7 Signs of a Desperate Dater | eHarmony Advice
Tagged: Desperate, Friends, Friendship, Abandon
“Desperate daters rationalize bad treatment. When you are desperate for love you’ll take a lot of gruff. In fact, you often don’t even notice the poor treatment because acknowledging that you’re being treated badly is the first step down the road to walking away.”
— eHarmony Staff, 7 Signs of a Desperate Dater | eHarmony Advice
Tagged: Desperate, Abuse, disrespect
“Like anything else, too much flirting is too much of a good thing and can make you appear desperate. The key to flirting with someone you are attracted to is to be aware of the timing, frequency, duration, location and response.

Avoid flirting in places where it is not appropriate, such as at work during office hours. When you do flirt, do so in a private place, without distraction and without being obvious. Flirting in a way that is not desperate is not obvious and can include a gentle, brief touch of the arm, a friendly smile or a genuine compliment.”
— Maura Banar, How to Not Appear Desperate to Someone You Are Attracted To
Tagged: Desperate, Flirting, Work, Moderation
“If you find out your crush loves A Day to Remember, don't pretend that they're your favorite band in order to get him to like you.
He'll eventually find out that you were lying, and when he does, it'll make you seem undesirable to him. No one wants to date a liar, which is why you should always be yourself.”
— Holly Riordan, THINGS THAT'LL MAKE YOU LOOK DESPERATE AND UNDESIRABLE ...
Tagged: Desperate, Lies, pretending
“On a first date, stick to light topics about celebrities and your favorite foods. If you mention marriage or babies, then the guy is going to make an excuse to bail on you.”
— Holly Riordan, THINGS THAT'LL MAKE YOU LOOK DESPERATE AND UNDESIRABLE ...
Tagged: Desperate, Conversation, Marriage, babies
“Don't "like" every single one of his Facebook and Instagram photos. Don't reblog all of his tweets, either. If you look obsessed with him online, then he's going to assume that you're obsessed with him in reality.”
— Holly Riordan, THINGS THAT'LL MAKE YOU LOOK DESPERATE AND UNDESIRABLE ...
Tagged: Desperate, Facebook, Instagram, Social Media
“We all know that social media stalking and looking up everything there is to know about him on Google is a bad idea, but repeating it to him (even accidentally) is worse. If he hasn’t said it with his mouth in front of you, it probably isn’t something you should bring up over dinner. It kind of makes you look crazy.”
— Chelsey Lynn, 10 Seemingly Innocent Things That Make You Look Desperate AF
Tagged: Desperate, Google, stalking, Social Media
“If it’s a new relationship, PLEASE do not just show up anywhere because he mentioned to you that he’d be there. When you guys are new or not even really together, this makes you seem like a stage 5 crazy and then you’ll be back at zero because he’ll run like he’s being chased by something vicious that wants to eat him alive. Seriously. If you weren’t specifically invited, save the surprises until you’re official.”
— Chelsey Lynn, 10 Seemingly Innocent Things That Make You Look Desperate AF
Tagged: Desperate, stalking, Surprises, Chasing
“He asks if you want to get dinner this week and you immediately reply that any night is fine with you. Big mistake. That makes it seem like your life already revolves around him — or at the very least, like you don’t have much going on in your life besides him. It’s better to ask what night he had in mind and maybe to mention that you have other things to do earlier in the week so he knows he has to fit into your schedule and not that he’s the only thing on it.”
— Chelsey Lynn, 10 Seemingly Innocent Things That Make You Look Desperate AF
Tagged: Desperate, schedule, Timing, Mistakes
“Don’t pretend to be someone else just to get attention. Dress the way you want to be treated. Your look is part of your self-expression, not a billboard to scream your latest crisis. Give yourself a makeover to signal your new life but to thine own fabulosity be true.”
— Abiola Abrams, 7 Ways To Not Seem Desperate (When You Sorta Are)- Gurl.com
Tagged: Desperate, dressing, Be yourself, Makeover
“Don't rip down anyone else to impress a guy or to feel better about yourself. Being catty and bitchy is a false high. The temporary boost you might get wears off and then there’s just you with your low self-esteem again.”
— Abiola Abrams, 7 Ways To Not Seem Desperate (When You Sorta Are)- Gurl.com
Tagged: Desperate, Catty, other women, comparison
“The fastest way to seem desperate is to not have a life. If all you talk about is who you used to date, why you broke up and who you’re going to date next, you probably come across as desperate. Why not join a new club, get that job you always wanted or take up a new sport instead?”
— Abiola Abrams, 7 Ways To Not Seem Desperate (When You Sorta Are)- Gurl.com
Tagged: Desperate, Exes, Dating, Hobbies
“I do agree with not texting before noon. However, we can take it to the next level if you really want to be the opposite of clingy: Don't ever text him first. Just respond. Have some fun with it and he'll wish you were texting him before noon in no time.”
— Sadie Murray, We’ve got a stage five clinger
Tagged: Desperate, Texting, Patience
“I would refrain from mothering your man if he's only making a trip to the grocery store. He wants to maintain a certain image — invincible, manly man. Don't remind him to wear his seat belt, put on sunscreen, not speed and to be careful.”
— Sadie Murray, We’ve got a stage five clinger
Tagged: Desperate, Mothering, Babying, nagging
“Needing to know every detail of his/her day. As relationships grow you learn more and more about the other person; what they like, who they hang out with, where they go regularly. This should be a natural process that develops over time. When you demand to know all of these details up front it can make you appear insecure and controlling.”
— Amber Lewter, 7 Dating mistakes that make you look Desperate
Tagged: Desperate, Questions, Control
“Including your new partner in family and personal events too soon. If you invite the girl/guy you’ve been dating to a family function too soon, it may scare them away.”
— Amber Lewter, 7 Dating mistakes that make you look Desperate
Tagged: Desperate, Family, Invitation
“When you accept everything, (your date showing-up an hour late with no phone call, him/her being too busy to help you out in a genuine emergency, or cancelling plans last minute because there is something else he/she would rather do) regardless of how you feel about it—you come off as needy.”
— Amber Lewter, 7 Dating mistakes that make you look Desperate
Tagged: Desperate, low standards, needy, disrespect
“If you’re texting him every 10 minutes or fewer and he isn’t responding, you’ve fallen deep into the clingy zone.”
— Iris Goldsztajn, 7 Signs You’re Being Too Clingy
Tagged: Desperate, Clingy, Texting
“Beware of excessive liking or commenting.”
— Iris Goldsztajn, 7 Signs You’re Being Too Clingy
Tagged: Desperate, Facebook, Instagram, Social Media
“Agreeing with everything he says, giving him little gifts and cards for no reason or simply being too nice to him when he doesn’t treat you as nicely are just some of the signs that you’re trying too hard.”
— Iris Goldsztajn, 7 Signs You’re Being Too Clingy
Tagged: Desperate, Effort, gifts
“When you’re at a party or a bar together do you literally cling to his arm the entire time?”
— Megan Bostic, 14 Signs You’re Being Way Too Clingy And Will Ultimately Scare Him Away
Tagged: Desperate, Clingy, contact, Closeness
“The ultimate sign… he’s filed a restraining order.”
— Megan Bostic, 14 Signs You’re Being Way Too Clingy And Will Ultimately Scare Him Away
Tagged: Desperate, Restraining Order, scary
“Do you stalk your own phone every five minutes (or less) to find out if he’s responded to your texts, Facebook message, Tweet, or any of the other 50 ways you tried to reach him?”
— Megan Bostic, 14 Signs You’re Being Way Too Clingy And Will Ultimately Scare Him Away
Tagged: Desperate, Twitter, Facebook, Texting
“Cool: Sympathizing with his dislike for his ex-girlfriend.

Clingy: Expressing disdain for his attractive female colleague.”
— Clint Carter, 6 Telltale Signs Guys Think You're Clingy
Tagged: Desperate, ex-girlfriend, Jealousy, other women
“Cool: Turning down a friend's invite because you've already made plans with your guy.

Clingy: Blowing off your friends every time your guy casually suggests hanging out.”
— Clint Carter, 6 Telltale Signs Guys Think You're Clingy
Tagged: Desperate, Clingy, Friends
“Cool: Texting when he's 10 minutes late for a date.

Clingy: Texting 'what's up?' every time you're bored.”
— Clint Carter, 6 Telltale Signs Guys Think You're Clingy
Tagged: Desperate, Texting, Bored, late