50 Quotes That Show You Shouldn't Feel Bad About Getting Down and Dirty

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50 Quotes That Show You Shouldn't Feel Bad About Getting Down and Dirty

Having a casual hookup doesn't mean you're a slut. It doesn't mean you're a bad person.

Holly RiordanAugust 17, 2016

Feeling bad about one night stands is pretty pointless. If you used protection, felt physically safe, and found the sex enjoyable, you have nothing to regret.

— Jill Di Donato, One Night Stands: 8 Reasons To Have Them

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Whether you’re smooth and exfoliated or secretly rocking a brand-new bra and panty set, it's a lot of fun to take advantage of those times when you feel especially sexual. If you think about it, it would be a waste of money to let that wax grow in without someone enjoying it first, so do the responsible thing and start seducing that cute stranger.

— Tess Barker, 7 Times When Casual Sex Is Actually a Good Idea

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Stop slut-shaming and assuming that not having sex qualifies you as a better girlfriend than someone who has slept with someone or even multiple people before. Because it literally doesn’t matter. The number of people you’ve slept with does not define you as a woman, whether it’s 0 or 602.

— Chelsea Moudry, In Defense Of Girls Who Sleep Around

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One-night stands give us the opportunity to learn something new. Whether it’s something we learn about ourselves or some new sex technique that never crossed our mind before, there really are lessons to be learned during a one-night stand.

— Amanda Chatel, 9 Signs You Should Have A One-Night Stand

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A series of hook ups might lead you to the conclusion that you’re enjoying single life and not ready for anything longer-term, or may prove to you that you feel the best sexually and emotionally when you’re serious about someone. Either way, it will be a truth about yourself that you’ve tested out, not something you assumed out of fear.

— Monica Shores, 6 Reasons to Have Casual Sex

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One common regret is not playing the field enough before settling down. If that regret follows you into a marriage, it can get dangerous.

— Rich Santos, Pros and Cons of Sowing Your Wild Oats

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When I think back to my high-school sex ed classes, the message was always very clear: 'Don't have sex, but if you are going to do it, make sure you love the person and are in a relationship.' While that's decent advice, it's not necessarily realistic. Sex in a relationship is great, but life doesn't always work out that way. Maybe you haven't found 'the one' or maybe you're not looking. In the meantime, as long as you're playing safe and not hurting anyone, there's nothing shameful or wrong about having sex because you enjoy it.

— Simone Katerine, Five Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Casual Sex

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Want to be better at sex? Well then you have to have sex, silly! When it comes to fooling around, the best way to work on your skills is to actually do, not just read or talk about it. Have a little casual sex in order to become amazing at is so that when you find the person you want to be in a relationship with, you'll shock them with how good you are!

— Jessica Booth, 8 Reasons It's Okay To Have A Casual Hookup - Gurl.com

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Even if the sex wasn't great, you never have to see him again anyway! No pressure, no obligation, no awkward cup of coffee after he treated your vag like a Tilt-A-Whirl. Just you, alone, watching TV and smiling like a boss.

— Lane Moore, 10 Reasons Why Your One-Night Stand Was Actually a Great Thing

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The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. Or on top of them. Or beside them. Whichever way you flip it, a nice steamy ‘palette cleanser’ can be the perfect way to finally get the taste of an ex out of your mouth for good.

— Tess Barker, 7 Times When Casual Sex Is Actually a Good Idea

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Now, with apps like Tinder and online dating, you can find like-minded people who just want to shoot fluids in each other without strings attached. The digital world means you can get more hook-ups than a Wall Street broker with a bag of cocaine at a party.

— Bread Foster, The Five Benefits To Hook Up Culture

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Forget your morning swipe of blush and overly expensive face serums. With increased blood circulation and oxygenation of the blood, a post-coital glow means a temporary brighter complexion.

— Jocelyn Voo, 10 Health Benefits of Having Sex

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When you are having casual sex, there is no such thing as rejection or having a headache. If you are getting together, you both know what the plan is. Even if you have had a bad day, or worse yet, your partner has, that makes no difference. The sex is the carrot at the end of the day, not the power play.

— J. Dallas, The Benefits Of Casual Sex vs. Monogamy, Because There's No Pressure About What's Next

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It's OK to develop feelings... or not develop feelings. There is no one way to feel about the people you get naked with.

— Simone Katerine, Five Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Casual Sex

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When you know you're never going to date this person, or see them again, the pressure to perform relaxes. Lower expectations allow you to really let go, be yourself (or someone else) and enjoy. So go ahead, get weird.

— Cara Hessels, The Pros And Cons Of Casual Sex

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Some women don’t need a deep spiritual connection in order to enjoy carnal pursuits and some men do; the old stereotypes aren’t useful in navigating your own needs, and breaking anachronistic expectations through experience could lead you to a better understanding of your own sexuality.

— Monica Shores, 6 Reasons to Have Casual Sex

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Having sex with almost strangers is a huge adrenaline rush. Whether you’re a girl or a guy, a one-night hook-up has a feeling of conquering and accomplishment. There are few things that feel better than knowing a complete stranger is willing to risk an STD to treat you like a piece of meat for a few hours.

— Bread Foster, The Five Benefits To Hook Up Culture

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There is a lot to be learned about yourself through purely physical-based encounters, especially for women who are taught that sex is this precious gift that is only to be given away in the most idyllic circumstances.

— Josey Vogels, One Night Stands: 8 Reasons To Have Them

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You don't have to meet his potentially garbage friends. Meeting your soul mate and sleeping with them among candlelight and Band of Horses songs? So good. Having sex with a guy and never having to meet his buddies from his recreational kickball league who are all named Tyler? Priceless.

— Lane Moore, 10 Reasons Why Your One-Night Stand Was Actually a Great Thing

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For years, I preferred one-night stands to real relationships, because I could get in and out, with as little small talk as possible, and be on my way. I didn’t have to sit through a boring date, ask questions and pretend to be interested just to be polite, or even have to text the next morning to say thanks.

— Amanda Chatel, 9 Signs You Should Have A One-Night Stand

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And as a single woman you have the luxury of playing around with an alter ego. Sometimes everyone needs a break from the routine of day-to-day life. A one night stand employing a fantasy persona is a break from being the fabulous woman you are and be another fabulous woman.

— Jill Di Donato, One Night Stands: 8 Reasons To Have Them

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Depending on how physical you get, sex can strengthen muscle tone, increase your heart rate, and get your whole body working.

— Justin Lehmiller, 13 Reasons to Have More Sex

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Sex increases your heart rate, burns calories, helps you sleep better and is even associated with less stress. Not to mention that it promotes a stronger immune system and may even help you live longer.

— Aaron Anderson, 10 reasons why you should be having sex on a regular basis

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In theory, having sex every single day would make you fertile, live longer, never get sick, and have the brain of noted genius Beyoncé. Basically, sex makes you a superhero.

— Lane Moore, 7 Scientific Reasons Why You Should Have Sex Every Single Day

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We may not be able to change others’ sex-negative judgments immediately, but we can change how we react when we are sexually shamed. I once had a lover tell me a certain sexual position felt too ‘pornlike.’ My first instinct was to feel like I’d done something taboo, when I should have acknowledged that we each had different but equally valid opinions on the matter.

— Rachel Kramer Bussel, Why Do We Feel So Ashamed About Sex?

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Casual coitus means zero commitment. There is no wining, there is no dining—hell, certain situations flirting is overkill. You get in, get off and get out.

— Cara Hessels, The Pros And Cons Of Casual Sex

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We can create a hook-up culture that doesn’t treat people as disposable.

— Daniel Villarreal, 10 Lessons To Help You Embrace Your True Sexual Self | Unicorn Booty

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Sex feels good. And when you feel good, you feel happier, right? Right. If you feel like having sex, and the opportunity presents itself, why not? Sometimes we really don't need a reason for something other than we want to because we like it. And that's okay! You don't need to prove yourself to anyone.

— Jessica Booth, 8 Reasons It's Okay To Have A Casual Hookup - Gurl.com

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Even if you eventually find out you hate this person, at least you haven't wasted your time. Stop stressing about how it appears and look on the bright side, you're getting it in!

— Laura Argintar, 7 Proven Reasons Why It's Perfectly Okay To Have Sex On The First Date

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The dirty little secret of casual sex today is not that we’re having it but that we’re not sharing our experiences of it in the best way.

— Maria Konnikova, Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It - The New Yorker

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The very fact that Vrangalova and others are seeking explanations for casual-sex behaviors suggests that our society views it as worthy of note—something aberrant, rather than ordinary. No one writes about why people feel the need to drink water or go to the bathroom, why eating dinner with friends is ‘a thing’ or study groups are ‘on the rise.'

— Maria Konnikova, Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It - The New Yorker

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You have to be comfortable with yourself. If you're embarrassed about your appearance or shy about asking for what you want, the bedroom can help you overcome these difficulties.

— Aaron Anderson, 10 reasons why you should be having sex on a regular basis

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Virginity in itself is simply a made-up concept. Everyone talks about losing your virginity, but it is not something to be lost! If anything, you’re gaining from it, whether that be pleasure, commitment, promise, experience, or whatever it is you want to receive from it.

— Chelsea Moudry, In Defense Of Girls Who Sleep Around

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Some women use casual sex as a way to forget their exes. They sleep with a variety of men in order to get over the hurdle of ending a relationship. They avoid loneliness like the plague and will do anything to fill the void that the breakup has left them with.

— Melissa LaRicca, Some Women Enjoy Casual Sex More Than Others. Here's Why.

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Dry spells are like pits of quicksand. The deeper you fall into one, the harder it is to get out. Don’t let yourself fall too deep into no-man’s land. Do the deed with someone, and welcome yourself back into the land of the sexually active.

— Tess Barker, 7 Times When Casual Sex Is Actually a Good Idea

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In addition to providing enhanced blood flow to the body, sex also increases blood flow to the brain, delivering an extra boost of glucose that it uses as energy. So, if you've got a buildup of e-mails to read or really want to finish your crossword puzzle, sex might just be the jump-start you need. Afternoon delight, anyone?

— Jocelyn Voo, 10 Health Benefits of Having Sex

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Think about how badly you feel when you have let your partner unsatisfied when having sex. You don’t have to worry about that when you are in a casual relationship. A casual relationship is one that is based on independent satisfaction. You worry about getting yours and your partner worries about him/herself. It is a beautiful thing.

— J. Dallas, The Benefits Of Casual Sex vs. Monogamy, Because There's No Pressure About What's Next

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One-night stands are the perfect solution for women because they get all the good stuff and none of the bad. They get to go on the dates, enjoy the dinners and weekend getaways, and the rush of having sex with a new partner, without having to contend with compromising themselves for another person or what they deem to be annoying male habits.

— Melissa LaRicca, Some Women Enjoy Casual Sex More Than Others. Here's Why.

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If you practice safe sex, feel comfortable with yourself and the person you're with, you can have really great sex without the "L" word entering into the equation. There's nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality on your own terms!

— Simone Katerine, Five Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Casual Sex

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If it's someone you have had your eye on, you can live without any more what ifs in your head. No more wondering what sex with Jeremy will be like, because now you know exactly what sex with Jeremy was like and it was not worthy of a second round. Peace, sucka!

— Lane Moore, 10 Reasons Why Your One-Night Stand Was Actually a Great Thing

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Having a casual hookup doesn’t mean you’re a slut. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It means you want to have no-strings-attached sex, and that’s your right! You should never let anyone make you feel bad about that.

— Jessica Booth, 8 Reasons It's Okay To Have A Casual Hookup - Gurl.com

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Given our culture’s obsessive promotion of narrow beauty aesthetics and even narrower sexual practices, one might never suspect that people have wildly divergent preferences, arousal triggers, and responses to touch. Variety in partners makes it nearly impossible to maintain the ‘one size fits all’ mentality, while never experiencing more than one partner might actually reinforce it.

— Monica Shores, 6 Reasons to Have Casual Sex

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No one looks down on sexualized women, unless they post it all over twitter. No one really cares what freaky stuff people cram into their bodies anymore as long as it makes everything feel tingly. Hookup culture means letting your freak flag fly.

— Bread Foster, The Five Benefits To Hook Up Culture

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If you have ever been in a serious relationship, you have encountered moodiness after a favorite team loses, a miserable day at work, or just 'cause. Say goodbye to that nonsense. If you are in a casual relationship those days are numbered. You never have to see him if that mode of thinking ensues. Simply say ‘I will see you in a week or two,’ and let your partner take it out on someone else in his life.

— J. Dallas, The Benefits Of Casual Sex vs. Monogamy, Because There's No Pressure About What's Next

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It convinces you that you're 'ready.' People seem more prone to get into relationships once they've purged the 'bad side' from their systems.

— Rich Santos, Pros and Cons of Sowing Your Wild Oats

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It saves time. The I like you, you like me, we like sex mentality conserves precious minutes in your busy day. You're drunk, you're horny, it's 3 AM, and the last thing you want to have to do is impress someone.

— Cara Hessels, The Pros And Cons Of Casual Sex

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The point of this encounter is to have a little fun when the right person for each of you hasn't shown up yet. It can remind you that you've still got it and allow you to get your sexual needs met while saving you from dating people who aren't right for you because you long for physical closeness.

— Jill Di Donato, One Night Stands: 8 Reasons To Have Them

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For some reason we live in society where one-night stands are totally cool for men, but women who have them are just awful. I call bullshit on that. If you believe the same and know you can go into a one-night stand without feeling guilty ― guilt that’s brought on by society's double standards, mind you ― then do your thing.

— Amanda Chatel, 9 Signs You Should Have A One-Night Stand

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In this day and age, more people recognize sex as an important component of a successful relationship, not something to be ashamed of.

— Justin Lehmiller, 7 Proven Reasons Why It's Perfectly Okay To Have Sex On The First Date

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Some women just love sex. In fact, they love the act more than the guy they happen to be having sex with. For these women, sex is the ultimate pastime and they are going to get it as often as possible. They're hot to trot and want instant gratification.

Whenever the opportunity presents itself, they are going to take full advantage of it. Their motto is simply 'why not?'

— Melissa LaRicca, Some Women Enjoy Casual Sex More Than Others. Here's Why.

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