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50 Quotes That Show You Shouldn't Feel Bad About Getting Down and Dirty

Having a casual hookup doesn't mean you're a slut. It doesn't mean you're a bad person.
Holly Riordan
August 17, 2016
“One-night stands are the perfect solution for women because they get all the good stuff and none of the bad. They get to go on the dates, enjoy the dinners and weekend getaways, and the rush of having sex with a new partner, without having to contend with compromising themselves for another person or what they deem to be annoying male habits.”
— Melissa LaRicca, Some Women Enjoy Casual Sex More Than Others. Here's Why.
Tagged: Casual Sex, one-night stands, dates, Sex
“Some women use casual sex as a way to forget their exes. They sleep with a variety of men in order to get over the hurdle of ending a relationship. They avoid loneliness like the plague and will do anything to fill the void that the breakup has left them with.”
— Melissa LaRicca, Some Women Enjoy Casual Sex More Than Others. Here's Why.
Tagged: one-night stands, Casual Sex, Sex, Lonely
“Some women just love sex. In fact, they love the act more than the guy they happen to be having sex with. For these women, sex is the ultimate pastime and they are going to get it as often as possible. They're hot to trot and want instant gratification.

Whenever the opportunity presents itself, they are going to take full advantage of it. Their motto is simply 'why not?'”
— Melissa LaRicca, Some Women Enjoy Casual Sex More Than Others. Here's Why.
Tagged: Casual Sex, Fun, Sex, Love
“Stop slut-shaming and assuming that not having sex qualifies you as a better girlfriend than someone who has slept with someone or even multiple people before. Because it literally doesn’t matter. The number of people you’ve slept with does not define you as a woman, whether it’s 0 or 602.”
— Chelsea Moudry, In Defense Of Girls Who Sleep Around
Tagged: Casual Sex, Slut Shaming, Sex, virgin
“Virginity in itself is simply a made-up concept. Everyone talks about losing your virginity, but it is not something to be lost! If anything, you’re gaining from it, whether that be pleasure, commitment, promise, experience, or whatever it is you want to receive from it.”
— Chelsea Moudry, In Defense Of Girls Who Sleep Around
Tagged: Virginity, Sex, Casual Sex, Pleasure
“The very fact that Vrangalova and others are seeking explanations for casual-sex behaviors suggests that our society views it as worthy of note—something aberrant, rather than ordinary. No one writes about why people feel the need to drink water or go to the bathroom, why eating dinner with friends is ‘a thing’ or study groups are ‘on the rise.'”
— Maria Konnikova, Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It - The New Yorker
Tagged: Casual Sex, Sex, abnormal, unusual
“The dirty little secret of casual sex today is not that we’re having it but that we’re not sharing our experiences of it in the best way.”
— Maria Konnikova, Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It - The New Yorker
Tagged: Casual Sex, Sex, Communication, Honesty
“In this day and age, more people recognize sex as an important component of a successful relationship, not something to be ashamed of.”
— Justin Lehmiller, 7 Proven Reasons Why It's Perfectly Okay To Have Sex On The First Date
Tagged: Sex, Casual Sex, Relationships, Dating
“Even if you eventually find out you hate this person, at least you haven't wasted your time. Stop stressing about how it appears and look on the bright side, you're getting it in!”
— Laura Argintar, 7 Proven Reasons Why It's Perfectly Okay To Have Sex On The First Date
Tagged: Casual Sex, Reputation, Sex
“We may not be able to change others’ sex-negative judgments immediately, but we can change how we react when we are sexually shamed. I once had a lover tell me a certain sexual position felt too ‘pornlike.’ My first instinct was to feel like I’d done something taboo, when I should have acknowledged that we each had different but equally valid opinions on the matter.”
— Rachel Kramer Bussel, Why Do We Feel So Ashamed About Sex?
Tagged: Casual Sex, Sex, Porn, Shame, Slut Shaming
“In theory, having sex every single day would make you fertile, live longer, never get sick, and have the brain of noted genius Beyoncé. Basically, sex makes you a superhero.”
— Lane Moore, 7 Scientific Reasons Why You Should Have Sex Every Single Day
Tagged: Casual Sex, Sex, fertile, sickness, Intelligence
“Sex increases your heart rate, burns calories, helps you sleep better and is even associated with less stress. Not to mention that it promotes a stronger immune system and may even help you live longer.”
— Aaron Anderson, 10 reasons why you should be having sex on a regular basis
Tagged: Casual Sex, Sex, Health, immune system
“You have to be comfortable with yourself. If you're embarrassed about your appearance or shy about asking for what you want, the bedroom can help you overcome these difficulties.”
— Aaron Anderson, 10 reasons why you should be having sex on a regular basis
Tagged: Casual Sex, Shy, embarrassed, comfortable
“Depending on how physical you get, sex can strengthen muscle tone, increase your heart rate, and get your whole body working.”
— Justin Lehmiller, 13 Reasons to Have More Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, Health, heart, muscles
“We can create a hook-up culture that doesn’t treat people as disposable.”
— Daniel Villarreal, 10 Lessons To Help You Embrace Your True Sexual Self | Unicorn Booty
Tagged: Casual Sex, hookup culture, Sex
“For years, I preferred one-night stands to real relationships, because I could get in and out, with as little small talk as possible, and be on my way. I didn’t have to sit through a boring date, ask questions and pretend to be interested just to be polite, or even have to text the next morning to say thanks.”
— Amanda Chatel, 9 Signs You Should Have A One-Night Stand
Tagged: Casual Sex, one-night stands, Relationships, dates
“One-night stands give us the opportunity to learn something new. Whether it’s something we learn about ourselves or some new sex technique that never crossed our mind before, there really are lessons to be learned during a one-night stand.”
— Amanda Chatel, 9 Signs You Should Have A One-Night Stand
“For some reason we live in society where one-night stands are totally cool for men, but women who have them are just awful. I call bullshit on that. If you believe the same and know you can go into a one-night stand without feeling guilty ― guilt that’s brought on by society's double standards, mind you ― then do your thing.”
— Amanda Chatel, 9 Signs You Should Have A One-Night Stand
Tagged: Casual Sex, Double Standards, Sex, Men, Women
“There is a lot to be learned about yourself through purely physical-based encounters, especially for women who are taught that sex is this precious gift that is only to be given away in the most idyllic circumstances.”
— Josey Vogels, One Night Stands: 8 Reasons To Have Them
Tagged: Casual Sex, one-night stands, Sex, Women
“Feeling bad about one night stands is pretty pointless. If you used protection, felt physically safe, and found the sex enjoyable, you have nothing to regret.”
— Jill Di Donato, One Night Stands: 8 Reasons To Have Them
Tagged: Casual Sex, one-night stands, safe sex, Regrets
“The point of this encounter is to have a little fun when the right person for each of you hasn't shown up yet. It can remind you that you've still got it and allow you to get your sexual needs met while saving you from dating people who aren't right for you because you long for physical closeness.”
— Jill Di Donato, One Night Stands: 8 Reasons To Have Them
Tagged: Casual Sex, one-night stands, Dating, Needs
“And as a single woman you have the luxury of playing around with an alter ego. Sometimes everyone needs a break from the routine of day-to-day life. A one night stand employing a fantasy persona is a break from being the fabulous woman you are and be another fabulous woman.”
— Jill Di Donato, One Night Stands: 8 Reasons To Have Them
Tagged: Casual Sex, one-night stands, alter ego, Fantasies
“Casual coitus means zero commitment. There is no wining, there is no dining—hell, certain situations flirting is overkill. You get in, get off and get out.”
— Cara Hessels, The Pros And Cons Of Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, Commitment, Flirting
“When you know you're never going to date this person, or see them again, the pressure to perform relaxes. Lower expectations allow you to really let go, be yourself (or someone else) and enjoy. So go ahead, get weird.​”
— Cara Hessels, The Pros And Cons Of Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, Expectations, pressure, Sex
“​It saves time. The I like you, you like me, we like sex mentality conserves precious minutes in your busy day. You're drunk, you're horny, it's 3 AM, and the last thing you want to have to do is impress someone.”
— Cara Hessels, The Pros And Cons Of Casual Sex
Tagged: Casual Sex, time saver, Drunk, Horny
“One common regret is not playing the field enough before settling down. If that regret follows you into a marriage, it can get dangerous.”
— Rich Santos, Pros and Cons of Sowing Your Wild Oats
Tagged: Casual Sex, Regrets, Marriage
“It convinces you that you're 'ready.' People seem more prone to get into relationships once they've purged the 'bad side' from their systems.”
— Rich Santos, Pros and Cons of Sowing Your Wild Oats
Tagged: Casual Sex, Relationships, Sex
“When you are having casual sex, there is no such thing as rejection or having a headache. If you are getting together, you both know what the plan is. Even if you have had a bad day, or worse yet, your partner has, that makes no difference. The sex is the carrot at the end of the day, not the power play.”
— J. Dallas, The Benefits Of Casual Sex vs. Monogamy, Because There's No Pressure About What's Next
Tagged: casal sex, Rejection, excuses
“Think about how badly you feel when you have let your partner unsatisfied when having sex. You don’t have to worry about that when you are in a casual relationship. A casual relationship is one that is based on independent satisfaction. You worry about getting yours and your partner worries about him/herself. It is a beautiful thing.”
— J. Dallas, The Benefits Of Casual Sex vs. Monogamy, Because There's No Pressure About What's Next
Tagged: Casual Sex, Pleasure, Selfish, Satisfaction
“If you have ever been in a serious relationship, you have encountered moodiness after a favorite team loses, a miserable day at work, or just 'cause. Say goodbye to that nonsense. If you are in a casual relationship those days are numbered. You never have to see him if that mode of thinking ensues. Simply say ‘I will see you in a week or two,’ and let your partner take it out on someone else in his life.”
— J. Dallas, The Benefits Of Casual Sex vs. Monogamy, Because There's No Pressure About What's Next
Tagged: Casual Sex, Moody, Stress, Casual Relationships