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50 Pieces Of Anal Sex Advice That'll Encourage You To Experiment In Bed Tonight

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Holly Riordan
July 27, 2016
“Anal sex will NOT irreparably loosen you up. Think of it this way: your anus is a muscle. The more you exercise said muscle, the stronger it becomes—like pumping iron for your sphincter. While you may find it easier to allow various objects the more comfortable you get with anal play, you’ll find it has much more to do with the Sexual Triad than with the threat of anal collapse.”
— Cynthia McKelvey, The 5 biggest myths about anal sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, Understanding Anal Sex, Loose
“You will not be covered in shit after sticking a tiny finger up someone’s bum. In fact, your anus isn’t even where poop is stored—it’s actually stored in your colon at the end of your large intestine.”
— Cynthia McKelvey, The 5 biggest myths about anal sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, Anal Fingering, Poop
“When he goes in, it’s going to feel strange at first. Actually, anal sex always feel strange. It’s hard to explain but the whole thing just feels wrong. I don’t mean that in a moralistic or bad way. I mean, it just literally feels unnatural because you’re using an exit as an entrance. Funnily enough though, that’s how you derive a lot of enjoyment from it. The unnatural feeling enhances the pleasure.”
— Ryan O'Connell, What It Feels Like To Get F***ed In The Ass
Tagged: Anal Sex, The Joy of Anal Sex, Is Anal Unnatural?
“As the taboo around anal sex – and particularly, ladies loving anal sex in a genuine, not ‘pretending to love it to make my boyfriend happy’ kind of way – dies a long-overdue death, we’re learning more about how many people are doing it, how they’re doing it, and why they love it, on a more anatomical level. Some women can only come from clitoral stimulation (and a lot of anal sex fans are understandably in favor of combining the two), but others have more complex means of achieving orgasm.”
— Jessica Blankenship, Sex Is Hard: Answers To Questions About Anal Orgasms, Swallowing, And Pubic Hairdos
Tagged: Anal Sex, Complex Orgasms
“Here’s something I don’t feel is often discussed when we talk about anal sex: It can actually be really intimate. A friend of mine who’s married swears that her and her husband’s increased regularity of anal sex has made their sex life far more exciting and satisfying, and has brought them closer together. But, she says, ‘It’s because when we have anal sex, he lets me do the steering.’ Essentially, crossing the butt boundary with a partner can be really exciting, and a major bonding moment, but you have to know what you’re doing.”
— Karley Sciortino, Breathless: Is Anal Sex No Longer Taboo?
Tagged: Anal Sex, Anal Sex and Intimacy, Ways To Generate Intimacy
“Don’t go straight from thrusting into her ass to thrusting into her pussy. That can spread a shit-ton of germs. If she ends up with an infection, she’s never going to let you near her ass again.”
— Holly Riordan, 15 Anal Sex Tips That’ll Convince Your GF To Actually Do It Again
Tagged: Anal Sex, Sex, infections, germs
“Getting the tip in hurts the most, because the head of the penis is the widest part. Once you're past that and up to the shaft, it'll feel a little better. Remember how much regular sex hurt at first, for some of us?”
— Anna Breslaw, A Complete Beginner's Guide to Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, Pain, penis
“You can lie flat on your stomach, get in doggy-style, or do missionary — and that is the order of what will hurt the least to the most. At least, in my (minimal) experience.”
— Anna Breslaw, A Complete Beginner's Guide to Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, sex positions, missionary, doggy style
“Your anus has thousands of sensitive nerve endings in and around it that can give you pleasure. Most of these nerve endings are concentrated around the opening, but the outer part of the rectum also has them. With the inner part of the rectum, what feels good during sex is mostly the pressure and fullness that comes with being penetrated. While most people need their genitals to be touched during anal sex in order to orgasm, some people can orgasm just from anal penetration.”
— Emma Kaywin, 14 Anal Sex Tips For Women, Because You Need To Prepare If You Want To Have Fun
Tagged: Anal Sex, orgasm, penetration
“One of the first misconceptions about anal sex is that it’s unclean because it involves butts. In actuality, your anus has natural bacteria that helps fight infection, and if you clean your body regularly, your butt is as clean as the rest of you. So you don’t need to wash yourself right before you check out anal penetration, although by all means, do so if it will make you or your partner more comfortable. However, you should definitely wash whatever implement you're using (a toy, a penis) so that it doesn't infect you with anything.”
— Emma Kaywin, 14 Anal Sex Tips For Women, Because You Need To Prepare If You Want To Have Fun
Tagged: Anal Sex, Bacteria, cleanliness
“The most important thing is to get really turned on and comfortable. Your anus is surrounded by a ring of muscle called the anal sphincter, which is designed to keep in feces. Your sphincter needs to be relaxed to allow something to pass through it. So do whatever works for you to get yourself feeling fantastic. Some people say that having an orgasm before you try anal sex is a good way to get super relaxed.”
— Emma Kaywin, 14 Anal Sex Tips For Women, Because You Need To Prepare If You Want To Have Fun
Tagged: Anal Sex, Relaxation, orgasm
“For those just starting out, I think getting on all fours might be a little too intense, because she doesn't have as much control. Lying on your side in the spooning position won't allow penetration that's as deep. It's also a more relaxing position. When you become more comfortable, the doggie is the easiest way for a woman to orgasm.”
— Jill Provost, An Anal Sex Expert Answers 20 Questions You've Been DYING To Ask
Tagged: Anal Sex, spooning, sex positions
“You don't start out with the penis. Work your way up, stimulating the outside with a finger or tongue and then slowly use your finger to enter the anus. And then once she get used to that, you can go on to bigger and better things.”
— Jill Provost, An Anal Sex Expert Answers 20 Questions You've Been DYING To Ask
Tagged: Anal Sex, stimulation, penis
“Although you don’t need to clean inside your anus, too, this anal sex tip is something you might want to do. You can use an enema with warm (not hot) water to clean inside. You would keep filling your rectum with water and then passing it into the toilet until the water comes out clean.”
— Sean Jameson, 11 Ways You Can Learn To Orgasm From Having Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, cleanliness, enema
“This anal sex tip has you pre-stretching your anus by loosening it up with a butt plug. You can put in the butt plug yourself, or he can put it in for you. Butt plugs both help you feel the pleasures of anal sex, and help relax your muscles before the act. You need to use lube with butt plugs just as you will when you have anal sex.”
— Sean Jameson, 11 Ways You Can Learn To Orgasm From Having Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, sex toys, butt plugs
“Use a dildo or vibrator on yourself while he’s having anal sex with you. Although some women can orgasm from anal alone, most times, they need other forms of stimulation to climax. Using a dildo or a vibrator on yourself while having anal sex is a great way to ensure you and your man are both having a good time.”
— Sean Jameson, 11 Ways You Can Learn To Orgasm From Having Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, orgasm, sex toys
“In addition to the stigma associated with seeking rump pleasure, there is the myth that anal sex is—nay—must be painful. While dipping one’s toes (or fingers, penis, or sex toy) into the anal waters can involve momentary discomfort, pain should not be a prerequisite for experiencing the joys of anal sex. In fact, our bodies are wired for it.”
— Patrick Howell O'Neill, The 5 biggest myths about anal sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, Myths, Pain
“Unlike other body parts that become ooey-gooey all on their own, the anus is not a self-lubricating organ. But due to the wonders of modern science, this need not be a problem. Lube—whether water, silicone, or flaxseed based—solves that problem for us. And be sure to go slow, communicate throughout, and re-apply that lube whenever necessary.”
— Patrick Howell O'Neill, The 5 biggest myths about anal sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, lube, Communication
“A partner who is pushy, not tuned in to your pleasure, or clumsy is probably not the right one to explore anal with, unless they devote themselves to learning more about being a good lover.”
— Carol Queen, Why Some People Enjoy Anal Sex—And Others Really Don't
Tagged: Anal Sex, Trust, Communication
“Put a vibrator on your clitoris if you’re a girl. If you’re a guy, you should have your lover stimulating your penis, your balls, or whatever feels good... Work the parts of your body that are tried and true; that you know feel good. Those areas are very often neglected.”
— Susan Block, Why Some People Enjoy Anal Sex—And Others Really Don't
Tagged: Anal Sex, sex toys, stimulation
“Unlike the vagina, the rectum is not a straight tube, but has a subtle curve to it. These curves are part of the reason that anal penetration should be slow and gentle, especially at first. Each person's rectum and its curves are unique, and it is best to feel your way inside the rectum slowly, following its curves, rather than jamming anything straight inside.”
— Tristan Taormino, Why Some People Enjoy Anal Sex—And Others Really Don't
Tagged: Anal Sex, Vagina, rectum
“The minimum preparation for enjoying external anal play is a regular bowel movement followed by complete external cleansing. Washing the external anal area with warm soap and water is often enough to allow you to feel at ease.”
— Charlotte Mia Rose, Anal Hygiene For Pleasurable Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, cleanliness, preparation
“Be horny. It helps to be really excited, so get ready with tons of foreplay. Whether you go down on each other, engage in some sensual massage or touching, it’s all good as long as it turns you on. Also, try stimulating the area surrounding the anus before diving in with fingers, toys or penises. The anus is nervous, you don’t want to just dive right in or it will tighten up like a clam shell with discomfort and frustration likely ensuing.”
— Tess Danesi, A Beginners Guide to Awesome Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, foreplay, stimulation
“Experiment with different positions. In seated position, you can try lowering yourself onto the cock and going at your own pace. If you’re in a doggie position, back up onto the cock. Feeling in control is another great way to alleviate anxiety and relax.”
— Tess Danesi, A Beginners Guide to Awesome Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, Experimentation, sex positions
“Push. While this may seem counter-intuitive, bearing down relaxes your muscles. Try it. When you press in or squeeze, your muscles tighten, when you bear down muscles ease. If you’re almost but not quite there, before giving up, try to push against the object entering your bottom. Pushing is another reason that doing a light anal douche can help you relax, you’ll be sure that nothing unexpected will be making an appearance.”
— Tess Danesi, A Beginners Guide to Awesome Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, Relaxation, muscles
“The best way to start anal is when you’re on your stomach and he’s kind of on top of you, like laying on top of you and sliding it in. Probably the most relaxed position to be in. It helps if he kisses your neck, ears, caresses your head. It helps it feel good as soon as the initial ‘ouch’ is over.”
— Madison Moore, 24 People Reveal The Secret To Excellent Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, Pain, Kissing, Relaxation
“Vaginal sex makes babies and anal sex obviously doesn’t. If you don’t want to have babies right now, birth control is 99% effective with condoms or contraceptives, which honestly, can slightly decrease the amount of pleasure in sex. So the back door cures all of that since your man can come in there safely.”
— Belle Aria, Why Women Should Have Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, vaginal sex, birth control, Pregnancy
“Every woman has a little wild streak in them and a desire to be a bad girl. Who wants to always be the goody two shoes? There’s something alluring and mysterious about the dark side, dangerous and edgy. If I was any good at acting, I’d want to play your basic bad bitch because it just so much more fun to be devilishly mischievous and wear tight black leather. The fact that your tight little back door is ‘forbidden’ and ‘taboo’ makes that wild kinky side come out in the bedroom.”
— Belle Aria, Why Women Should Have Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, kinky, Taboo, Forbidden
“Men love to be trusted. They love to hear us say yes to their desires and lay our pleasure in their hands. It feeds into their primal instinct to protect and naturally dominate. Women want to give, so handing over the ‘ I trust you with my a-card’ is something rare and novel. Trust is a gift to both parties and creates a whole other level of intimacy, which is something we ladies always want.”
— Belle Aria, Why Women Should Have Anal Sex
Tagged: Anal Sex, Trust, Intimacy
“It’s imperative that the guy who’s going to be penetrating me is trustworthy and gentle, and not an asshole. Assholes don’t mix with my asshole. I’m going to be getting in sexual positions where my body will look fleshy and revolting. It will seem like I’ve magically gained 20 pounds somewhere for no real reason so this guy needs to be understanding of everything.”
— Ryan O'Connell, What It Feels Like To Get F***ed In The Ass
Tagged: Anal Sex, sex positions, Weight, Trust