Women masturbate in a lot of different ways, but a lot of my clients have found it useful to get a sense of what the process tends to entail. In general, most women masturbate by stimulating their clitorises. Research has found that women are most likely to reach orgasm by stroking diagonally across the clitoris. Women usually need a fair amount of time to warm up, and require repetitive, consistent stimulation to climax. On average, women take about 20 minutes to orgasm.