Allegra Messina

30 Reminders For Anyone Who's Ever Felt That They're Unlovable

You are terrifying, strange, and beautiful. Something not everyone knows how to love.
Sade Andria Zabala
September 20, 2016
“I never used to be bothered by how small I was. 
Then something happened… and I was. 
Then I fell in love with myself again, and I wasn’t bothered anymore. 
I never will be again.”
— Quinta Brunson, Tumblr
Tagged: feminism, Self-Love, Loving Yourself, Self-Image, Independence
“I am a woman with thoughts and questions and shit to say. I say if I’m beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story — I will.”
— Amy Schumer, Gloria Awards
Tagged: feminism, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Putting Yourself First, Owning Yourself
“You are hard to look at 
not because you glow, 
but because you are the drop off of a skyscraper. 
You are the distance to the ground, 
you are what people fear to fall into, 
you are what people risk their lives to see. 
And when someone does finally see you,
it is because they were courageous enough to look”
— Lillian Shelton, Untitled
Tagged: Poetry, Jealousy, Inspirational, Love, Identity, Self love, strength
“To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too.”
— Victoria Moran, Lit From Within: Tending Your Soul For Lifelong Beauty
Tagged: Self-Love, imperfect, beauty, Confidence
“You aren’t a lot to handle. You’re magnificent. You aren’t a lot to handle. You’re just fine. You aren’t a lot to handle. You’re just YOU.”
— Kendra Syrdal, Here’s To The Girls Who Are A Lot To Handle
Tagged: Self-Acceptance, Loving Yourself, Be yourself
“Don’t you see? You were born a revolution. Not all men were made to join you in your brilliance. Not all men can handle fire. Some men will run, too afraid of the flames.”
— Ari Eastman, Reminder: You’re Too Brilliant For His Bullshit
Tagged: Self love, Break Up, Moving On, Self Worth, Empowering
“It is not your responsibility to turn a coward into a champion.”
— Ari Eastman, Reminder: You’re Too Brilliant For His Bullshit
Tagged: Self love, Break Up, Moving On, Self Worth, Empowering, Fear, Courage
“Does the sun ask itself, ‘Am I good? Am I worthwhile? Is there enough of me?’ No, it burns and it shines. Does the sun ask itself, ‘What does the moon think of me? How does Mars feel about me today?’ No it burns, it shines. Does the sun ask itself, ‘Am I as big as other suns in other galaxies?’ No, it burns, it shines.”
— Andrea Dworkin, Our Blood
Tagged: beauty, Self Worth, Self love, Vanity
“I hope that you do not let the world condemn you for being too loud, too expressive, too soft; that you do not let it convince you to be perfect instead of real. I truly hope that you celebrate the fact that you are not for everyone, that you are not impressing the kinds of people who were built on the foundations of a sad world. If there is anything you do, please, let yourself rejoice in the fact that you do not fit in, that you think differently, because there is a chaos that laughs inside of you and it is going to change lives. It is going to make even the cynics believe again. It is going to grow love from thorn and glass.”
— Bianca Sparacino, You Are Not For Everyone
Tagged: Soft, unique, Self love, Positivity, Optimism, Hope
“It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I’d been taught about myself, and half-believed, before I was able to walk on the earth as though I had a right to be here.”
— James Baldwin, James Baldwin : Collected Essays : Notes of a Native Son / Nobody Knows My Name / The Fire Next Time / No Name in the Street / The Devil Finds Work / Other Essays (Library of America)
Tagged: Don't Go Back, Self-Love
“If you want to change the way others treat you, you should first change the way you treat yourself.”
— Elif Shafak, The Forty Rules of Love: A Novel of Rumi
Tagged: Self-Respect, Self-Love, Love Yourself
“It's really comfortable when you start loving yourself enough. You stop settling for less. You stop forcing yourself to do something you don't want to. You stop being with someone who makes you feel bad. You stop comparing yourself to anyone or anything around. You become a whole kingdom yourself.”
— Shahd El Hadidy, Roadtrip
Tagged: Self-Love, Self Esteem
“love will come
and when love comes
love will hold you
love will call your name
and you will melt
sometimes though
love will hurt you but
love will never mean to
love will play no games
cause love knows life
has been hard enough already”
— Rupi Kaur, milk and honey
Tagged: Finding Love, Looking For Love
“Practicing self-love means learning how to trust ourselves, to treat ourselves with respect, and to be kind and affectionate toward ourselves.”
— Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
Tagged: Self-Love, Self-Esteem
“He loves me, he loves
me not? I’m not a flower.
I’m the fucking sun.”
— Sade Andria Zabala, WAR SONGS
Tagged: Love, Single, Dating, haiku, Unrequited Love
“Realize that loving yourself is more important than having a line of boys ask you out on a date.”
— Sade Andria Zabala, WAR SONGS
Tagged: Self love, Dating, Relationship
“Greater things await you. Yes, you deserve them. Yes, you are capable.”
— Sade Andria Zabala, WAR SONGS
Tagged: Self love, Dating, Relationship
“You are not hard to love if you can love yourself
and no one has the authority to break you
except you.”
— Sade Andria Zabala, WAR SONGS
Tagged: Self love, Alone, Empowering
“I am the book you pick up
but never buy.
I am the book you open
but never finish to read and that’s okay.
I write for myself anyway.”
— Sade Andria Zabala, WAR SONGS
Tagged: Self love, Alone, Empowering
“I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU.
Say it when no one says it to you,
like a prayer you give for the dead”
— Sade Andria Zabala, WAR SONGS
Tagged: Self love, Alone, Empowering
“No one will ever accept anything. I think the goal is to not want anyone's acceptance.”
— Nicki Minaj, via Tumblr
Tagged: Acceptance, Relationship, Self love, Spilled Ink, Inspirational
“You not finding me attractive is not going to stop me from being attractive.”
— farfrompaid, via Tumblr
Tagged: Spilled Ink, beauty, Confidence, Self Confidence, Empowering
“You either like me or you don’t. It took me twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else.”
— Daniel Franzese, A quote by Daniel Franzese
Tagged: Spilled Ink, Self love, Acceptance
“Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you.”
— Rumi, A quote by Jalaluddin Rumi
Tagged: Self love, Lonely, The Universe, Zen, Spilled Ink
“Sometimes you need to remind yourself that you were the one who carried you through the heartache. You are the one who sits with the cold body on the shower floor, and picks it up. You are the one who feeds it, who clothes it, who tucks it into bed, and you should be proud of that. Having the strength to take care of yourself when everyone around you is trying to bleed you dry, that is the strongest thing in the universe.”
— Anonymous, via Tumblr
Tagged: Self love, Spilled Ink, strength, Heartbreak, Moving On
“If they don’t need you, it’s okay, you do not live for other people.”
— Anonymous, via Tumblr
Tagged: Spilled Ink, anonymous, Self love, Relationship, Break Up, Alone
“how far have you walked for men who’ve never held your feet in their laps?
how often have you bartered with bone, only to sell yourself short?
why do you find the unavailable so alluring?
where did it begin? what went wrong? and who made you feel so worthless?”
— Warsan Shire, Questions for the Woman I was Last Night
Tagged: Unrequited Love, Poetry
“Be kind to yourself while blooming. I know sometimes it feels like your soul doesn’t always fit. It’s all a part of the process.”
— Emery Allen, Untitled
Tagged: Growth, Growing Pains, Outcast