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20 Ways Modern Dating Makes It Hard To Find Real Love

It's very easy to confuse physical attraction with a real connection. 
Rania Naim
September 30, 2016
“We live in a world where people are afraid to feel anything genuine, or at the very least, are afraid to show it.”
— Melissa Moeller, Why Modern Dating Makes Me Want To Punch Myself In The Throat
Tagged: Intimacy, Modern Dating, Fear, Feeling
“I could earn my masters degree with the amount of time and energy it takes to determine whether or not my casual hookup actually has feelings for me.”
— Melissa Moeller, Why Modern Dating Makes Me Want To Punch Myself In The Throat
Tagged: Modern Dating, Hooking Up, Tinder
“Asking a new person to go on a romantic outing has never been easy. It means declaring your attraction to someone and putting yourself out there in a huge way, while risking the brutal possibility of rejection -- or, in the modern era, even an unexplained, icy-cold silence.”
— Aziz Ansari, Modern Romance
Tagged: Dating, Modern Romance, Relationships, Rejection
“We were never good mornings because to have a good morning you have to stay the night. We were never just between us smiles because there was never really an us to begin with. We were never holding hands because one of us was always pulling away.”
— Kendra Syrdal, Maybe In Another Lifetime We Decided To Stop Running Away
Tagged: Heartbreak, Lost Love, Almost Relationships, Relationships
“Often, when you’re out in the single world meeting people, you meet someone you like, get their number, and put it right in your phone, transforming them into an ‘option’ that lives in your device. Sometimes you and that option engage in some phone-based interaction and you meet up in person. But sometimes that exchange never happens. That potentially cool, exciting person dies there, buried in your phone.”
— Aziz Ansari, Modern Romance
Tagged: Modern Romance, Aziz Ansari, Modern Dating, Dating, Communication, Options
“How many of us are still heartbroken over a guy we never dated? How many of us still go through old text messages, trying to figure out exactly where everything changed? How many of us replay old conversations and think of what we should’ve said to make us sound more chill, more laid back, less intense?”
— Ashley Jones, Why Do We Continue To Give Our Hearts To Those Who Hand It Back To Us?
Tagged: Modern Dating, Almost Relationships, Dating, Love
“Want them when you can’t have them, because this is what you’re used to. And wish they were harder to get when they’re standing right in front of you, placing their beating heart into your hesitant hands.”
— Kim Quindlen, This Is What We Expect From Modern Love
Tagged: Modern Dating, Modern Love, Dating
“When a man tells you that he is not ready to commit, believe him the first time. You can't convince him that he is ready. You will only be fooling yourself.”
— Mr. Amari Soul, Reflections Of A Man
Tagged: Man, Woman, Relationships
“When he texts you, he's thinking about you.
When he calls you, he misses you.
When he shows up, he wants you.
When he suddenly stops doing all of the above for you, he's doing it for someone else.”
— Mr. Amari Soul, Reflections Of A Man
Tagged: Man, Woman, Relationships
“If he really cared about you it wouldn’t be an almost thing.”
— Isabelle Zanzer, Why An 'Almost Relationship' Is Nothing But A Waste Of Your Time
Tagged: Almost Relationships, Does He Care?
“Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you.”
— Greg Behrendt, He's Just not That Into You
Tagged: Almost Relationships, Almost Love
“Someone toying with your heartstrings just because they can isn’t love.”
— Kirsten Corley, This Is What Almost Dating Is Really Doing To You
Tagged: Almost Relationships, Almost Love, Almost Lover, Best Of Me
“You want to play me, I can see your moves. Little do you know, I'm not a toy. This is not a game.”
— Mirtha Michelle Castro, Letters, To The Men I Have Loved
Tagged: Love, Heartbreak, Games
“Sadly, we've become a generation content with being in love with a love that isn't real.”
— R.H. Sin, Whiskey Words & a Shovel II
Tagged: Love, Modern Romance, Modern Love
“Hell on earth will always be trying to maintain a relationship with someone who is too weak to remain loyal to the idea of a forever with you.”
— R.H. Sin, Whiskey Words & a Shovel II
Tagged: Love, Modern Love, Loyalty
“how far have you walked for men who’ve never held your feet in their laps?
how often have you bartered with bone, only to sell yourself short?
why do you find the unavailable so alluring?
where did it begin? what went wrong? and who made you feel so worthless?”
— Warsan Shire, Questions for the Woman I was Last Night
Tagged: Unrequited Love, Poetry
“It’s very easy to confuse physical attraction with a real connection.”
— Josh Hartnett, 40 Days and 40 Nights
Tagged: Dating, Movie Advice, Relationship Advice
“A 'friends with benefits' in reality is telling you to your face that you're good enough to fuck, but not good enough to invest feelings in.”
— Unknown, Almost Love
Tagged: Almost Relationships, Dating, Relationships
“We're desperate to love. And because we're so desperate, we find ourselves falling for people who we realize aren’t worthy of our love.”
— Paul Hudson, How To Know When You Aren't Just Eager To Love, You're Ready To Love
Tagged: Dating, Relationships, Love
“And here’s the incredible thing about women I don’t quite understand: you know when a man is not feeling you yet you still give your all, you continue to try to make it work. Why play that game? Why not just weed out, up front, all the men you know are going to do nothing but cause you heartache and disappointment, and wait for the one who is going to do right by you? Please understand, he’s out there. There isn’t a man living who can do without a good woman. Most men are going to get married. One of them will marry you. A real man won’t be able to fulfill his destiny as a man without you.”
— Steve Harvey, Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man
Tagged: Dating, Relationship Advice, Guy Advice