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The Unedited Truth Of Why People Cheat And How Sometimes You Can't Blame Them For It

Cheating happens and these quotes explain how cheating happens, and what motivates people to do it. 
Jane Drinkard
July 14, 2016
“Affairs usually start when a man feels misunderstood, like the areas of his life that are important to him are being criticized or deemed not important. Then he finds a woman appreciates him, who gives him something he isn’t getting from his primary relationship…and he strays.”
— Sabrina Alexis, The Real Reason Men Cheat That Has Little To Do With You
Tagged: Affairs, Cheating, Why Do People Cheat
“Choosing a married man can be safer than having a real relationship. Married men can bring to the table attention, passion, time, experience, and create a bubble of erotic and emotional pleasure without the daily grind of household management, child raising and checkbook balancing.”
— Tiffany Anton, Why The Other Woman Slept With Your Man
Tagged: Cheating, Why People Cheat, Why People Cheat With Married Men
“Men who have casual sex without emotional attachment outside of their relationships, in addition to improving their understanding of women, may even find out that the main reason they were unhappy in their current relationship was because they weren’t satisfied with their sex life. Maybe nature is telling you that monogamy is just not for you. You figure that out by cheating.”
— Chris Haven, 6 Reasons To Cheat On Your Girlfriend
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating, Monogamy, Monogamy Is Bad
“I cheated because I was desperate for someone to love me with the same ferocious first-love intensity that I’d given my husband.”
— Lindsay T., Women Reveal What Drove Them To Cheat On Their Husbands
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating, Bad Marriage, Looking For Love Again
“I’m waiting to find another girl to form a relationship with before I dump her, so that I can make the process of dumping her less painful for myself.”
— Zitandspit99, 22 Cheaters Explain “What Drove Me To Cheat”
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating
“After telling my husband I was lonely and unhappy for years, he continued to travel for months at a time until I finally found someone else. Having that fling forced me to admit I wanted a divorce and to tell him in no uncertain terms that I was done.”
— Andrea H., Women Reveal What Drove Them To Cheat On Their Husbands
Tagged: Why People Cheat
“Having an affair only results when one or both partners don’t realize that the intense ‘butterflies in your stomach’ feeling that they feel initially won’t last forever.”
— John Alex Clark, The Truth Behind What Makes Someone Cheat
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating, Infidelity
“Thousands of years ago, man spread his seed freely, without the spectre of ‘cheating’ hovering over him. Its what nature intended.”
— Chris Haven, 6 Reasons To Cheat On Your Girlfriend
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating, Monogamy
“People who have affairs just want to find some real happiness and love in their lives.”
— Mira Kirshenbaum, When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships
Tagged: Cheating, Why People Cheat, Looking For New Love, Looking To Leave You, Why People Break Up
“Having an affair seems like such a big decision. Of course, it’s really a series of small choices.”
— Anna Sale, Cheating Happens.
Tagged: Cheating happens, Death, Sex, Money, affair, Reason, Relationships, Dating, Why People Cheat
“It became more painful to not do it and to just test the waters and say, maybe this is the only guy that I’ll ever be in love with and for me to deny myself that -- that would be terrible.”
— Ali, Cheating Happens.
Tagged: Cheating happens, Death, Sex, Money, affair, Reason, Relationships, Dating, Why People Cheat
“My husband and I had been together for so long and I came to realize that he in a lot of ways had stopped paying attention. I think to a certain extent we were both sort of invisible to each other.”
— Sheri, Cheating Happens.
Tagged: Cheating happens, Death, Sex, Money, affair, Reason, Relationships, Dating, Why People Cheat
“So when a secret affair is revealed, it’s devastating, destructive, and something we all would like to avoid -- but it’s also a moment that can make us finally, fully honest about what’s been missing, and what’s worth saving.”
— Anna Sale, Cheating Happens.
Tagged: Cheating happens, Death, Sex, Money, affair, Reason, Relationships, Dating, Why People Cheat
“Delusion detests focus and romance provides the veil.”
— Suzanne Finnamore, Split: A Memoir of Divorce
Tagged: Divorce, Cheating happens, romance, Love, Why People Cheat
“Would I cheat to save my soul?
No.
But to save my G.P.A.?
Yes.”
— Julie Anne Peters, Luna
Tagged: Cheating happens, Reason, Relationships, Why People Cheat
“When a man cheats, it is said it is because he is a dog. When a woman cheats, it is said it is because her man is a dog.”
— Mokokoma Mokhonoana, Divided and Conquered: An Analysis of Man-made Weapons of Mass Separation
Tagged: Cheating happens, Reason, Relationships, Men, Women, Why People Cheat
“She knew, even though she was too young to know the reason, that indiscriminate desire and unselective indulgence were possible only to those who regarded sex and themselves as evil.”
— Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged
Tagged: Cheating happens, Reason, Why People Cheat
“I cheated on my girlfriend because I could. I never had a lot of sexual options through high school and college, but after school, I really hit my stride. For the first time, women were hitting on me, and I was drunk on the feeling.”
— D.H, Why Do People Cheat? We Got 11 Cheaters to Confess
Tagged: Cheating happens, Why People Cheat
“What we wanted out of our sex life was very different. We had some issues in our relationship that had been slowly pushing us apart.”
— Adam, Why Do People Cheat? We Got 11 Cheaters to Confess
Tagged: Cheating happens, Why People Cheat
“Spouses cheat because of problems in their relationship. Something is missing, passion has faded, partners feel lonely, a partner finds someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more than their current spouse, and so on.”
— Truth About Deception, Truth About Deception
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating happens
“Men are more likely than women to commit infidelity, largely because men have more testosterone, which is responsible for the strong desire to have sex.”
— Kelly Campbell, Why People Cheat
Tagged: Cheating happens, Why People Cheat
“The nature of a person’s employment is also related to infidelity—individuals whose work involves touching other people, having personal discussions, or a great deal of one-on-one time are more likely to have an affair.”
— Kelly Campbell, Why People Cheat
Tagged: Cheating happens, Why People Cheat
“SELF-GRATIFICATION > INTIMACY = CHEATING”
— Mark Manson, Why People Cheat in Relationships
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating happens
“If a person values self-gratification more than the intimacy they gain from a relationship, then they will stop sacrificing for the relationship and are likely to end up cheating.”
— Mark Manson, Why People Cheat in Relationships
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating happens
“Happiness plays more of a role with women, who are in fact a lot likelier to cheat if they feel lonely in their marriage or partnership.”
— Ellie Zolfagharifard, The science of why people cheat revealed
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating happens
“Adultery has existed since human beings began entering into relationships”
— Dawn Serra, Why do people cheat? A look at infidelity. | Dawn Serra
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating happens
“At the heart of an affair, you will often find a longing and a yearning for an emotional connection, for novelty, for freedom, for autonomy, for sexual intensity, a wish to recapture lost parts of ourselves or an attempt to bring back vitality in the face of loss and tragedy.”
— Esther Perel, Transcript of "Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved"
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating happens
“...it isn't always our partner that we are turning away from, but the person that we have ourselves become. And it isn't so much that we're looking for another person, as much as we are looking for another self.”
— Esther Perel, Transcript of "Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved"
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating happens
“Now, all over the world, there is one word that people who have affairs always tell me. They feel alive.”
— Esther Perel, Transcript of "Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved"
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating happens
“While no one knows precisely what went through this mind or motivated him, there was at least one thing that could have hinted at what drove Armstrong to cheat: He was a winner.”
— Roberto A. Ferdman, Why People Cheat
Tagged: Why People Cheat, Cheating happens