God and Man

Read Through These Quotes When You’re Swimming In Self-Hatred

If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago...
Holly Riordan
February 7, 2017
“Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn't change the heart of others -- it only changes yours.”
— Shannon L. Alder, 300 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It's Too Late
Tagged: Anger, resentment, Jealousy
“When you realize you hate yourself so much, when you realize that you cannot stand who you are, and this deep spite has been the motivation behind your behavior for many years, your brain can’t quite deal with it. It will try very hard to avoid that realization; it will try, in a last-ditch effort to keep your remaining parts alive, to remake the rest of you. This is, I believe, different from the suicidal wish of those who are in so much pain that death feels like relief, different from the suicide I would later attempt, trying to escape that pain. This is a wish to murder yourself; the connotation of kill is too mild. This is a belief that you deserve slow torture, violent death.”
— Marya Hornbacher, Wasted Updated Edition: A Memoir of Anorexia and Bulimia(P.S.)
Tagged: Self-hatred, Death, Suicide
“If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago...”
— Cheri Huber, There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
Tagged: Self-hatred, Friends, Toxic
“Thou canst not think worse of me than I do of myself.”
— Robert Burton, The Anatomy of Melancholy(New York Review Books Classics)
Tagged: Self-hatred, Hate, Hatred
“I felt alone, my loneliness suffocated me, and I craved to scream, shout and kill me while seeing all this. However, self-hatred also occupied me.”
— Shaikh Ashraf, Friendship, Love & Sacrifice
Tagged: Self-hatred, Hate, Loneliness
“Self-hatred is worse than loneliness.”
— John Irving, In One Person: A Novel
Tagged: Self-hatred, Hate, Loneliness
“Self-hatred is self-imprisonment. Self-forgiveness is self-liberation. You have the right to suppress yourself, oppress yourself and depress yourself. You have the right to impress yourself too. Feel happy.”
— Israelmore Ayivor, Daily Drive 365: Daily thoughts for Positive Living
Tagged: Self-hatred, Imprisoned, Oppression
“When we don't know who to hate, we hate ourselves.”
— Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters
Tagged: Self-hatred, Hate, Confusion
“I've got a bad case of the 3:00 am guilts -- you know, when you lie in bed awake and replay all those things you didn't do right? Because, as we all know, nothing solves insomnia like a nice warm glass of regret, depression and self-loathing.”
— D.D. Barant, Dying Bites(Bloodhound Files) by D. D. Barant (2012-06-29)
Tagged: Self-hatred, Regrets, Depression
“Why are you lying awake, thinking that you’re a terrible person?”
— Rainbow Rowell, Attachments
Tagged: Self-hatred, Awake, Hatred
“He wished he could be anywhere else and anyone else but Here and Him.”
— James R. Silvestri, Hawthorn Road
Tagged: Self-hatred
“I won't sleep if that's what it takes to not wake up as myself.”
— Casey Renee Kiser, Hold Me Under: Poems to Drown to
Tagged: Self-hatred, Hatred, Sleeping
“Being here alone with nothing to do, I've been thinking about myself too. Trying to understand why I hate myself so badly.”
— Orson Scott Card, Ender's Game
Tagged: Self-hatred, Alone, Confused
“I care for no man on earth, and no man on earth cares for me.”
— Charles Dickens, A Tale of Two Cities
Tagged: Self-hatred, Selfish, Hatred
“Yes, you made a mistake. You're human. You don't have to do it like anyone else does. Fixing it and making amends will help. Self-loathing will not. Reach out to someone we trust--a person who has earned the right to hear our story and who has the capacity to respond with empathy.”
— Brené Brown, Rising Strong: The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution.
Tagged: Self-hatred, Mistakes, Loathing
“When you live with voices in your head, you are drawn inextricably to voices outside your head. Very often the voices work to confirm your worst suspicions. Or think of things you could never have imagined! There are only so many hours of the day to hate yourself.”
— Emma Forrest, Your Voice in My Head: A Memoir
Tagged: Self-hatred, Inner Voice, Hatred
“Perhaps the most liberating moment in my life was when I realized that my self-loathing was not a product of my inadequacy but, rather, a product of my thoughts.”
— Vironika Tugaleva, The Love Mindset
Tagged: Self-hatred, Loathing, Toxic Thoughts
“I write because there is nothing as joyful as writing, even when the writing is twisted and full of hate, the self-hate that makes writing not only possible but necessary. I hate myself, I hate the people around me, but what I crave is the fulfillment of some ideal.”
— Gary Shteyngart, Little Failure: A Memoir
Tagged: Self-hatred, Writing, Fulfillment
“This negative self-talk is something you probably aren't even aware of, but it eats away at you bit by bit and erodes that self-confidence you need to tackle your anxiety.”
— Robert Duff, Hardcore Self Help: F**k Anxiety
Tagged: Self-hatred, Negativity, Anxiety
“Try giving up all the thoughts that make you feel bad, or even just some of them, and see how doing that changes your life. You don't need negative thoughts. All they have ever given you was a false self that suffers. They are all lies.”
— Gina Lake, What About Now?: Reminders for Being in the Moment
Tagged: Self-hatred, Toxic Thoughts, Negativity
“It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I’d been taught about myself, and half-believed, before I was able to walk on the earth as though I had a right to be here.”
— James Baldwin, James Baldwin : Collected Essays : Notes of a Native Son / Nobody Knows My Name / The Fire Next Time / No Name in the Street / The Devil Finds Work / Other Essays(Library of America)
Tagged: Self-hatred, Hatred, Toxic Thoughts
“I am sorrowful. I am sorrowful that I happened to be born into a world where being disgusted with yourself was what you were supposed to be. I am sorrowful that my fellow countrymen feel that being human is something to repress, something ugly, something nasty. It's... It's just a fucking shame. It really is.”
— Robert Jackson Bennett, City of Stairs(The Divine Cities)
Tagged: Self-Hared, Sorrow, Disgusted
“Whenever insecurity whispers in your ear, telling you how much you suck, tell it to shut the hell up. Then keep going forward anyway.”
— Rebecca O'Donnell, Freak
Tagged: Self-hatred, Insecurity, Move Forward
“No one starts as a self-hater. But rack up all of your mistakes and take a large enough number of wrong turns in life and soon you stop trying to forgive yourself. Everywhere you look you find shame or failure staring back.”
— André Aciman, Harvard Square: A Novel
Tagged: Self-hatred, Mistakes, Shame, Failure
“I am still bullied occasionally. However, none of my current bullies really exist. They’re all in my head. Be your own best friend instead of your worst enemy.”
— Abiola Abrams, The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love: The 11 Secrets of Feminine Power
Tagged: Self-hatred, bullies, Best friend, enemies
“To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too.”
— Victoria Moran, Lit From Within: Tending Your Soul For Lifelong Beauty
Tagged: Self-hatred, Shortcomings, comparison
“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”
— Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral's Kiss
Tagged: Self-hatred, Hur, Pain
“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
— Louise L. Hay, You Can Heal Your Life
Tagged: Self-hatred, Criticism, Approval
“The mistake ninety-nine percent of humanity made, as far as Fats could see, was being ashamed of what they were; lying about it, trying to be somebody else”
— J.K. Rowling, The Casual Vacancy
Tagged: Self-hatred, Ashamed, pretending
“The mind thinks thoughts that we don't plan. It's not as if we say, 'At 9:10 I'm going to be filled with self-hatred.'”
— Sharon Salzberg, Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation: A 28-Day Program
Tagged: Self-hatred, Timing, Toxic Thoughts