All Quotes tagged Sex Tips(105)

First and foremost: I'm not actually made of China, regardless of this bone China skin tone. While tenderness has its moments, so does raw, animal fucking. I'm not going to shatter, I promise you.

There are a lot of factors you probably wouldn't even think of that affect a woman's natural lubrication, so don't take it personal if we need some help once in a while, especially if we've been busy for some time!

When using your mouth on her lady bits, use your whole mouth. Flicking your tongue like a snake is all right, but alternate it with long slow licks from a flattened tongue and tiny kisses and light sucking and even light nibbling (though I'd recommend sticking with the labia for that on most women). And don't be afraid to get your fingers involved.

You know in porn movies when the guy jams his fingers in the girl and goes to town all hard and fast like he's scrubbing the decks? It's a good bet most of those women aren't squealing and trying to wriggle away because it's so intensely pleasurable. Please, for the love of all that is good, don't take your cues from the average porn movies. The best way I've found for that is to run your fingers down over the clit, then inside, then back. Stimulating both areas is always going to lead to a positive reaction.

My ex could make me beg...and I mean sincerely beg. Starting with a light hand spanking, just enough to get the juices flowing, then the stroking that I described above, followed by a bit of tongue action until I was writhing. Then he'd kneel so he was right up against me, lubing his dick with my juices and sliding it between the lips in long slow strokes until I was pleading for him to give it to me. One hard thrust later, I was usually already having my first orgasm, which was almost always followed by a couple more before he had his own.

Don't limit yourself to just your dick! I can't even count the number of times gals I know have complained that their men seem to go dead from the waist up when they're on top. Kiss, bite, lick, talk. I will do the same.

I understand the nature of the penis.

I have been with enough guys that I am not weighing my self-esteem on every dip and bend that happens over the sexual experience. I've had partners go soft early, middle and late game. I get that the erection that starts the party might not be the same one you finish with. I understand that what does it for you one day is not the same thing that spins your crank the next. Sometimes I have to work for it and I don't mind at all. If we're doing something complicated, time-consuming, and/or something that takes the focus off of you for a while I am not going to balk if your dick takes a time out. I am not offended.

If you second-guess that, if you get hung up on the fact that I am judging you (I'm not) and if you proceed to panic in an attempt to rally you will fail. More than just failing, you will make it near impossible for me to help you rally. If your mind is with me, the body will follow. It might take time, it might not work 100%, but I can jump that hurdle. What I can't do is bring your head back when you start self-destructing.

And I am really, really good at the rally. So long as I am not tied up or otherwise incapacitated, when it comes time to fuck I will be there for you. I will get you there. But I cannot get you there if you are all in your head about the failure. I don't think of it that way but I have been with some guys who essentially ban themselves from interesting sex because they can't deal emotionally with the fact that some things are going to pretty much necessitate that they lose their erections at one point or another.

If the rally fails, be it for reasons of alcohol, sleepiness, or some other cosmic cock block, it will still be okay. I will hit you up in the morning. We will reprise when you get home from work. Not all sex needs to end in an orgasm—male or female—but the option to pass is always voluntary. Unless you tell me otherwise I will be gunning for you in the very near future.

And ladies, this goes for you too. I've inherited many a man who has this hangup because some other woman treated a flagging penis as a game-over sign. The fault however it twofold because guys, rather than using that moment to educate their partner, will just roll with it like that's an acceptable POV. They too believe the porn myth that staying hard throughout marathon sex is easily accomplished. And guys don't want to talk to other guys about the reality of the situation.

Techniques, personal taste, and all the trimmings I can teach. But getting rid of someone's investment in their own masculinity is much more difficult and cuts off so many roads I would otherwise travel.

• Take the time to pleasure every inch of our body. Our vaginas, boobs and asses aren't our only erogenous zones.

• Tease us...no need to rush. Take your time on each spot and pay attention to how we react to know whether you should move on or stay there a while longer.

• Don't rush straight for the clit. You need to warm us up first. Our entire vulva is sensitive to touch. Lick, kiss, nibble, stroke, blow on, and flick your tongue over each and every part of it. And hum/make noise! We don't care how stupid you sound, but those vibrations that travel up from your throat and onto our bits feel like the best vibrator ever.

• Speaking of the clit... it's not just that nub that pokes out from under the clitoral hood….It's wishbone shaped, so stimulate all of it, not just the button.

• Jackhammering away at us does feel good, but only for so long and after a good while of warming up with the less intense thrusting.

• Simply thrusting your cock in and out won't do much for us. It's all about angles; try to thrust toward the G-spot or the anterior fornix but also see what other angles you can get and spots you can hit on us.

• Don't be lazy with your hands. Touch us! Whether it's our face, breasts, bums, stimulating our clits, holding us around the neck (gently unless she asks for you to be more aggressive)...it feels amazing when a guy is doing more than just using his penis in us.

• If there's something you want us to do, ask. Sadly, we can't read your minds.

• Tell us how great it feels, how sexy we are and let us know when we're hitting the right spots.

• Sex does not have to stay in the bedroom. Use all the rooms of your house, the car, the beach, the woods, public bathrooms, swimming pools/hot tubs/showers...wherever the both of you enjoy it and can get access to. Sex outside the bedroom is hot.

• As great as foreplay and the more sensual sex is, quickies can be just as much fun and exciting. Grab us from behind and fuck the shit out of us without even taking our underwear off. If we're wearing a skirt and have opportunity to go for it, take that as an open invitation (obviously only if you're already in some sort of a relationship).

• Anal feels fucking amazing if you take your time to work us. Don't just stick it in without asking and go for the gold. Foreplay (licking, fingering, toys), lots of lube and then you can enter us. Start off slow, but then you can usually pound away just as hard as when you're in the vagina (some girls do differ with this so make sure to get the 'okay' before you go for it).

• Don't shove our heads down to your penis when you want us to blow you. Either ask or let us just go there on our own. You can subtly position yourself in a way that brings her face closer to your torso than your face so we get the hint.

• Sex does not end just because you've ejaculated. It ends when both people are satisfied (which doesn't necessarily mean orgasm)

• Eat lots and lots of pineapple. We will crave your cum if you do.