When I say ‘women,’ I just mean ‘not men,’’ I have heard people protest when these issues are brought up — and I get that. It’s easier. It’s simple: 'women’ equals 'not men.’ But for many of us, neither are applicable terms. And when groups refuse to acknowledge or engage in conversations about marginalization, the setting can start to feel like a bar where non-binary people are allowed to come inside so long as we don’t drink, dance, or socialize. We aren’t to question the environment — in fact, it’s as if we’re supposed to feel grateful we were even allowed in the door.