Set the mood: The kind of arousal you need is subjective, but one thing a woman needs is a calm, relaxing environment where she can simply unwind and think sexy thoughts. So try to set the mood, light some candles, draw a relaxing bath, play some sexy music and if you like, pick up an erotic novel. Most importantly, remember to lock your door so that you are not disturbed, unless you live alone, that is. Another good preparatory tip is to have soft and inviting lights along with a clean, soft bed sheet. While this might sound silly, the right lighting and a bed sheet that feels wonderful against your naked skin can make all the difference.