The number one reason that marriages fail is the lack of communicating with each other. Couples need to make sure that they spend as much time listening as they do talking. Although we all wish our spouses could be mind readers, we have to give up that myth. Sorry! Let your spouse know what you need and want. The more specific the better. Blaming, finger pointing, accusing and all that stuff does nothing except cause your spouse to become self protective and defensive.