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Shahida Arabi

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Bestselling Author. Content Writer for Thought Catalog. Quotes about empowerment, healing, victory.
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800 quotes curated by Shahida Arabi:

“There was potential with Grace’s story: the conversations that followed could have given us a real shot at cracking away at the imbalanced sexual power structures that plague us—the power structures that tell us a man’s desires are more significant than a woman’s, and that conditioned Grace not to “slap” a 34-year-old celebrity who she says took it too far.”
— Julianne Escobedo Shepherd, Babe, What Are You Doing?
Tagged: Sexual Coercion, MeToo, #metoo, The Culture of Consent, The Complexity of Consent, Prioritizing Male Desire, The Male Gaze, Power Structures, Imbalance of Power, Gender Socialization
“The great enemy of perception, and thus of accurate predictions, is judgment.”
— Gavin De Becker, The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence
Tagged: The Gift of Intuition, Inner Voice, Inner Guidance, Internal Dialogue, Gut Instinct, Judgment vs. Intuition, Perception, Predictions, Fear, Assessing Danger
“When a person requires something unattainable, such as total submission to an unreasonable demand, it is time to stop negotiating, because it's clear the person cannot be satisfied.”
— Gavin De Becker, The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence
Tagged: The Gift of Intuition, Inner Voice, Inner Guidance, Internal Dialogue, Gut Instinct, Excessive Entitlement, Don't Negotiate With A Predator
“Early on in these meetings, I say, 'No theory is too remote to explore, no person is beyond consideration, no gut feeling is too unsubstantiated.' In fact, as you are about to find out, every intuition is firmly substantiated.”
— Gavin De Becker, The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence
Tagged: The Gift of Intuition, Inner Voice, Inner Guidance, Internal Dialogue, Gut Instinct
“We will follow my client's intuition until I have 'solved the mystery.' I'll be much praised for my skill, but most often, I just listen and give them permission to listen to themselves.”
— Gavin De Becker, The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence
Tagged: The Gift of Intuition, Inner Voice, Inner Guidance, Internal Dialogue, Gut Instinct
“when the full moon howls,
i howl back.”
— Sabrina Benaim, Depression & Other Magic Tricks
Tagged: Inner Wolf, Nature Is A Part Of Us
“if
the ocean
can calm itself
so can you.
we are both
salt water
mixed with
air.”
— Nayyirah Waheed, salt.
Tagged: We Are Nature, Nature Is Us, The Natural Flow, Ebb and Flow, meditation, calm, Poetry, Poems, POC Poetry
“The situation in the post is actually pretty clear cut. People claim to need “more explicit” refusals, but they really just want to find a way to blame an assault victim for being in the room with her assailant. It’s the same thing we always do, and it’s garbage.”
— Sady Doyle
Tagged: Coercion Not Consent, Escalation of Coercion, manipulation, Systematic Erosion of Boundaries, MeToo, #metoo, The Myth of The Perfect Victim, victim-blaming, victim-shaming
“3) “But why didn’t she leave?!” Because - and this is crucial - he kept telling her he was going to stop. He systematically paused right before she fully freaked out, made her feel safe again, then resumed assaulting her, at a greater level of assault each time.”
— Sady Doyle
Tagged: Coercion Not Consent, Escalation of Coercion, manipulation, Systematic Erosion of Boundaries, MeToo, #metoo, The Myth of The Perfect Victim
“Yet it was in that vale that her sorrow had taken shape, and she did not love it as formerly. Beauty to her, as to all who have felt, lay not in the thing, but in what the thing symbolized.”
— Thomas Hardy, Tess of the D'urbervilles
Tagged: Inner Landscape, Internal Landscape, The External vs. Internal, Mindscape, Trauma, Memory, beauty, Beauty in Symbolism, Symbolism, Sorrow, Pain, Grief, Loss of Innocence