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Shahida Arabi

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Bestselling Author. Content Writer for Thought Catalog. Quotes about empowerment, healing, victory.
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800 quotes curated by Shahida Arabi:

“The difference in our bodies’ responses may make male-female connection especially tricky in such moments: this one simple difference in female reaction to different ways of being spoken to is one enormously significant reason that so many sexual approaches from men to women in long-term relationships become derailed, to the great sorrow and frustration of both men and women.”
— Naomi Wolf, Vagina: Revised and Updated
Tagged: Female Desire, Female Sexuality, Pleasure, Female Orgasm, Neuroscience, Pleasure and the Brain, Your Brain On Orgasm, Biochemical High, Trance State, Sexual/Love Transcendence, Emotional Safety, Toxic Stress, Sex, Gender Differences
“Just as being valued and relaxed can heighten female sexual response, “bad stress” can dramatically interfere with all of women’s sexual processes.”
— Naomi Wolf, Vagina: Revised and Updated
Tagged: Female Desire, Female Sexuality, Pleasure, Female Orgasm, Neuroscience, Pleasure and the Brain, Your Brain On Orgasm, Biochemical High, Trance State, Sexual/Love Transcendence, Emotional Safety, Toxic Stress, Sex
“To enter the transcendental state that takes the female brain into “high” orgasm, you absolutely need to feel safe; safe from “bad stress,” in the sense of knowing you are entering a trance state in the presence of someone who will protect you if necessary at the very least, and not endanger you or put you in circumstances out of your control.”
— Naomi Wolf, Vagina: Revised and Updated
Tagged: Female Desire, Female Sexuality, Pleasure, What Gets Excluded From The Narrative, Female Orgasm, Neuroscience, Culture and Society, feminism, Pleasure and the Brain, Your Brain On Orgasm, Biochemical High, Trance State, Sexual/Love Transcendence, Emotional Safety, Toxic Stress, Consent, Consent Not Coercion
“One could say that she actually becomes, biochemically, a wild woman or a maenad. She becomes so disinhibited and impervious to pain that it is as if she is in a state of altered consciousness. Women in “high” orgasm go more deeply into this trance state than at any other time. Judgment is suspended in this state, and women do not even feel pain in the same ways as in normal consciousness.”
— Naomi Wolf, Vagina: Revised and Updated
Tagged: Female Desire, Female Sexuality, Pleasure, What Gets Excluded From The Narrative, Female Orgasm, Neuroscience, Culture and Society, feminism, Pleasure and the Brain, Your Brain On Orgasm, Biochemical High, Trance State, Sexual/Love Transcendence, Wild Woman
“The autonomic nervous system also responds to a woman’s sense of safety or danger. It sends the signals to the brain and then to the body that one is safe, so one can relax, eat, and digest; or relax and sleep; or relax and make love.”
— Naomi Wolf, Vagina: Revised and Updated
Tagged: Female Desire, Female Sexuality, Female Sexuality In The Male Gaze, Pleasure, What Gets Excluded From The Narrative, Female Orgasm, Neuroscience, Culture and Society, feminism, Pleasure and the Brain, Your Brain On Orgasm, Biochemical High
“The full melting response or “high orgasm” in women—which I would define (though our language around female sexual response is so inadequate) as that kind of orgasm that most intensely induces the most complete possible trance state and that most involves all the body systems, so that afterward the woman feels the most replete and also experiences the highest level possible for her of the positive brain chemicals’ activities.”
— Naomi Wolf, Vagina: Revised and Updated
Tagged: Female Desire, Female Sexuality, Female Sexuality In The Male Gaze, Pleasure, What Gets Excluded From The Narrative, Female Orgasm, Neuroscience, Culture and Society, feminism, Pleasure and the Brain, Your Brain On Orgasm, Biochemical High, Female Pleasure
“Gradually, I reexperienced the sense of deep emotional union, of postcoital creative euphoria, of joy with one’s self and with one’s lover, of confidence and volubility and the sense that all was well in some existential way, that I thought I had lost forever.”
— Naomi Wolf, Vagina: Revised and Updated
Tagged: Female Desire, Female Sexuality, Female Sexuality In The Male Gaze, Pleasure, What Gets Excluded From The Narrative, Female Orgasm, Female Pleasure, Sex, Lovemaking
“That’s what explained vaginal versus clitoral orgasms? Neural wiring? Not culture, not upbringing, not patriarchy, not feminism, not Freud?”
— Naomi Wolf, Vagina: Revised and Updated
Tagged: Female Desire, Female Sexuality, Female Sexuality In The Male Gaze, Pleasure, What Gets Excluded From The Narrative, Female Orgasm, Neuroscience, humor, Freud, Patriarchy, Culture and Society, feminism
“So it was not just that orgasm might heighten creativity in women; maybe creativity also heightened orgasm.”
— Naomi Wolf, Vagina: Revised and Updated
Tagged: Female Orgasm, Female Pleasure, Creativity, Sex, Muse
“I am the bitch with the hot guitar
I am the air, the sun and stars”
— The Runaways, I Wanna Be Where The Boys Are
Tagged: Song Lyrics, Lyrics