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13 Quotes About What It Takes To Find And Maintain Love

Love is hard and requires a lot of work. These quotes prove it. 
Mélanie Berliet
December 20, 2016
“The only proof of love may be the ease with which it can be betrayed.”
— Simon Critchley, Stay, Illusion!: The Hamlet Doctrine
Tagged: Love
“I am no longer alone with myself, and I can only artificially recall the scary and beautiful feeling of solitude. This is the shadow side of the fortune of love.”
— Carl Jung, The Red Book: A Reader's Edition (Philemon)
Tagged: Alone, Love, Solitude
“What are you thinking? How are you feeling? Who are you? What have we done to each other? What will we do?”
— Amy Dunne, Gone Girl
Tagged: Dating, Relationships, The Other
“When you’ve lived alone for a number of years, I’m afraid that you begin to realize how hard it would be to accommodate to living with someone else, adjusting to or even indulging his desires and his life.”
— Katharine Graham, Personal History
Tagged: Living Alone
“Is there some truth that is revealed when lovers argue? No. Arguing is to a relationship what masturbation is to sex.”
— Simon Critchley, ABC of Impossibility
Tagged: Relationships
“I am furious with you, but I love you very dearly.”
— Vladimir Nabokov, Letters to Véra
Tagged: Love
“He indulged it at first, trying to be a good man, trying to live up to an ideal image that he, too, still had of himself, but there was finally no way around it: endless discussion with a humorless twenty-three-year-old bored him. During the day, when they were apart, he kept picturing her solemn gaze, but when he came home he found a person with no resemblance to the object he’d desired.”
— Jonathan Franzen, Purity: A Novel
Tagged: This Is Love, Ideals, Fantasy
“Movies love to imply that the man and woman held each other all night long, but you can’t do it. You have to roll away.”
— David Shields, How Literature Saved My Life
Tagged: real love, Love
“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”
— Tom Robbins, The Perfect Love
Tagged: Philosophy, Love
“For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”
— Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters To a Young Poet
Tagged: Love, Philosophy, The Person You'll Become
“For when you cling, what you offer the other is not love but a chain by which both you and your beloved are bound. Love can only exist in freedom. The true lover seeks the good of his beloved which requires especially the liberation of the beloved from the lover.”
— Anthony De Mello, The Way to Love
Tagged: Freedom, Expand Love, Liberation
“Most people want to get married. Is there anything else that people do in such huge numbers, with such a terrible success rate?”
— Iain Reid, I'm Thinking of Ending Things
Tagged: Marriage, Failed Relationships
“The story of human intimacy is one of constantly allowing ourselves to see those we love most deeply in a new, more fractured light. Look hard. Risk that.”
— Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
Tagged: Love, How to be good at love