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25 Tips For Bettering Your Relationships And Making Yourself That Person Everyone Loves

Nothing will turn someone off to you like a mid-conversation text message. 
Mélanie Berliet
August 22, 2016
“Appeal to people's perceived selves. In other words, encourage them in what they seem interested in. For example, if somebody identifies with fitness, praise their abs, say that they are in a good shape. Stroke their ego. It is very important to be genuine. If somebody is not in shape, don’t lie. That’s not charisma; that’s people pleasing. So rule number one – be honest. Find something you can truly appreciate in that person.”
— Zoe McKey, Build Social Confidence: Maximize Your Social Likability, Handle Tough Conversations Easily, Get Along with Everybody - Proven Hacks to Boost Your Charisma
Tagged: Be Nice
“You need to accept responsibility for your interpersonal interactions. That is the first step toward improving them.”
— Patrick King, People Tactics: Become the Ultimate People Person - Strategies to Navigate Delicate Situations, Communicate Effectively, and Win Anyone Over
Tagged: Social Interactions
“The fix here is to realize, appreciate, and understand that it's your job to make the conversation interesting. It's your responsibility. Pretend that you are a talk show host and ask questions about them to figure out why they do the things they do. Ask questions about the opinions they hold. Make it your goal to find common ground or an interesting tidbit about their life.”
— Patrick King, People Tactics: Become the Ultimate People Person - Strategies to Navigate Delicate Situations, Communicate Effectively, and Win Anyone Over
Tagged: Good Advice, Social Tactics, How To Be A Conversationalist
“When you are in a situation that presents an opportunity to make an acquaintance, you don’t have the resources to rummage through a repertoire of strategies. Instead you just need to make it your norm, where you can strike up a conversation in an instant. Do not worry about what the other person thinks of you. This will only serve to spark fear and anxiety, and that will completely throw you off.”
— Tom Benfield, Conversation: A Comprehensive Tool For Mastering Small Talk, Building Trust and Forging Relationships
Tagged: Social, Being Social
“The golden rule is, be social but not familiar. Be polite but not meek, and be confident but not arrogant in your language and choice of topic. Other than that, there are no rules.”
— Tom Benfield, Conversation: A Comprehensive Tool For Mastering Small Talk, Building Trust and Forging Relationships
Tagged: Social Golden Rules, small talk, Winning Small Talk
“Always look for what you have in common when you meet people and always be on the lookout for common goals, concerns or worries.”
— Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone
Tagged: How To Be Social
“A better way to look at meeting people is to look for matches, that is to look for people you have something in common with instead of wanting to be liked by everyone.”
— Peter W. Murphy, Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone
Tagged: Meeting People, Dating Tips
“A good conversation is something where every word is effortless and is a right thing to say. To choose good words, you have to be stress-free, and there should be no signs of anxiety at all. It is more about focusing on how you connect with the other person mentally, and in an instant is the way where you know what the good words are.”
— James Holtenson, Conversation skills: Conversation tactics to master communication The art to connect with people and succeed in relationship
Tagged: Social
“Focus on the conversation and the people in the social situation. Do not focus on your own feelings, symptoms or performance, especially do not focus on what you think others are thinking about you.”
— Angel Greene, Social Anxiety: Ultimate Guide to Overcoming Fear, Shyness, and Social Phobia to Achieve Success in All Social Situations
Tagged: Social Anxiety
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
— Dale Carnegie, How To Win Friends and Influence People
Tagged: Social Anxiety, Social, Friends, Self Help
“Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.”
— Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends & Influence People
Tagged: Friends, Friends Tips, Making Friends
“Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”
— Dale Carnegie, How To Win Friends and Influence People
Tagged: Friends Tips, Relationships, small talk
“We are interested in others when they are interested in us”
— Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends & Influence People
Tagged: Enhancing Relationships, Social Skills, Relationship
“The secret of his success? ‘I will speak ill of no man,’ he said, ‘. . and speak all the good I know of everybody.”
— Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends & Influence People
Tagged: Relationships, Friendships, Enhancing Relationships
“IN A NUTSHELL SIX WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU PRINCIPLE

1 Become genuinely interested in other people. 

2 Smile. 

3 Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

4 Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

5 Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

6 Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.”
— Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends & Influence People
Tagged: Social Tips, Making Friends, Relationship Advice
“A key part of communication is listening to others and giving them the opportunity to speak.”
— Kira Kot, How to Win Friends and Influence People: A Practical 'How To' Guide for Success Contents
Tagged: Enhancing Relationships, small talk, Relationship Advice
“The biggest mistake people make when it comes to listening is they’re so focused on what they’re going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect them that they fail to hear what’s being said.”
— Travis Bradberry, 13 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People
Tagged: Success Tips, Winning Friends, Enhancing Relationships
“Ask a lot of questions. People like to know you’re listening.”
— Travis Bradberry, 13 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People
Tagged: Winning Friends, Enhancing Relationships
“Nothing will turn someone off to you like a mid-conversation text message or even a quick glance at your phone.”
— Travis Bradberry, 13 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People
Tagged: Winning Friends, Enhancing Relationships, Bettering Yourself
“Being genuine and honest is essential to being likeable. No one likes a fake.”
— Travis Bradberry, 13 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People
Tagged: Making Friends, Mastering Small Talk, Enhancing Relationships
“Being open-minded makes you approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen.”
— Travis Bradberry, 13 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People
Tagged: Enhancing Relationships, Bettering Yourself, Mastering Small Talk
“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.”
— Bryant H. McGill, 15 Quotes to Inspire You to Become a Better Listener
Tagged: Enhancing Relationships, Bettering Relationships
“Most of the successful people I've known are the ones who do more listening than talking.”
— Bernard Baruch, 15 Quotes to Inspire You to Become a Better Listener
Tagged: Enhancing Relationships, Bettering Yourself, small talk
“When people talk listen completely. Don't be thinking what you're going to say. Most people never listen.”
— Ernest Hemingway, Across the River and Into the Trees
Tagged: Enhancing Relationships, Bettering Relationships, Listen, Communication
“We have two ears and one tongue so that we would listen more and talk less.”
— Diogenes, 15 Quotes to Inspire You to Become a Better Listener
Tagged: Enhancing Relationships, Bettering Yourself, Listening