11 Ways Jealousy Is Ruining Your Happiness And How to Avoid It

11 Ways Jealousy Is Ruining Your Happiness And How to Avoid It

A key ingredient to genuine happiness is gratitude.

Kirsten CorleySeptember 21, 2016

A key ingredient to genuine happiness is gratitude—being happy with what you have. A key ingredient to being miserable is coveting what someone else has, and thinking you aren’t enough.

— Sabrina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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We don’t have access to their real lives; instead, we have access to the idealized, filtered, highlight reel of their lives. And even though we know that what we see on social media isn’t ‘real,’ it can really have a strong, often negative, effect on us.

— Sabrina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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Jealousy is an impulse, an emotion that sometimes leads to action. If it doesn’t, then it just festers within us and causes misery. You never feel at ease; you can never fully appreciate what you have; there is always that sense of lacking, a void that demands to be filled.

— Sabrina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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There will always be someone with a better body (especially those fitness bloggers!), a nicer home, a bigger wardrobe, shinier hair, smoother skin, perfect makeup techniques, and some girl on a perfectly sanded beach somewhere gorgeous and exotic with a piña colada perched between her thigh gap.

— Sabrina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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I’ve seen just how sad a lot of people are deep down. Just how much they wish their life was some other way. We’re all going in circles being jealous of what others have. As the saying goes, the grass is always greener…

It’s a really miserable way to live.

— Sabina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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Jealousy usually stems from a feeling of lack within yourself. You feel like there is some sort of void within you and that once you fill it, you’ll be complete and happy. The best way to counteract this feeling is to focus on appreciating what you have…but this isn’t always easy.

— Sabina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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But no matter what you’re struggling with, it’s important to recognize that jealousy usually stems from a void. The best way to cure it is to fill the void with other things and to really try and hone in on how good you have it, because you probably have a lot going on in your life that other people wish and pray they had.

— Sabina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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Happiness doesn’t come from the perfect body or being in a relationship, even with a guy who does all sorts of romantic, hashtag-worthy things. These things can enhance your level of happiness, but that’s not really where happiness comes from—not the real stuff, anyway. Happiness starts within you.

— Sabina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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What we all need to realize is that we were given a unique toolbox to be the person we’re meant to be. And there is no one else like you in the entire world, just like there are no two snowflakes that are exactly the same.

We all have different gifts; that’s what makes the world run as it does.

— Sabina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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Jealousy is an emotion, and like other emotions, it can be controlled. You can choose to not give in to your jealous feelings. You can choose to be happy with what you have instead of wishing you had what someone else does.

When you feel that green monster being roused, you have two options. You can either feed it with thoughts such as, ‘Why can’t I look like that/have that/be that?’ and then feel really bad about your life. Or you can say, ‘Wow, that’s awesome for that person, good for them,’ and go about your life.

— Sabina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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Usually when we become jealous in a relationship it’s not because of something that is, but because of something that we fear.

— Sabina Alexis, How to Stop Being Jealous

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