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26 Honest Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Before You Can Admit You're Ready For A Relationship

We are often attracted to people we want to fix as a way of avoiding what needs to be fixed in our own lives. 
Kirsten Corley
September 19, 2016
“What specific kind of man are you looking for? (For example, funny? Hardworking? Generous?)”
— Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Tagged: Honest Questions, True To Self, Relationships
“How do you expect to be pursued? (Do you want regular phone calls? Text messages? Dates at least three times a week? Do you want him to always pick up the tab?)”
— Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Tagged: Expectations, Honest Questions, Relationship
“What level of commitment do you expect? (Do you want an open relationship? Or to date exclusively? Should it be up for discussion?)”
— Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Tagged: Relationship Advice, Dating, Honest Questions
“What kind of financial security do you expect this man to have? (Do you want him to be rich? Do you want him to make more money than you? Are you okay with a blue-collar worker?)”
— Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Tagged: Dating, Honest Questions, Relationships
“Do you want a man who wants kids and is family oriented?”
— Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Tagged: Dating, honest, Relationships
“Does he have to be religious/ spiritual?”
— Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Tagged: Relationships, honest, Dating
“Do you mind if he’s a divorcé or has kids?”
— Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Tagged: Dating, Relationships
“Can you help a man build his dream? Can you adapt to his plan?”
— Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Tagged: Dating, Honest Questions, Relationships
“What should he be willing to do to woo you? (Should he pursue you? Give you expensive gifts?)”
— Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
Tagged: Dating Advice, Relationships, Guys
“Am I ready? Relationships take time and energy. Make sure your current lifestyle is ready for the commitment. If you have a new job, if you’re in pursuit of a dream, or if you are endearing a family emergency, it might not be best to throw another human being into the mix.”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: honest, Ask Yourself, Relationship
“ Am I truly over my ex? To make #1 more specific, ask yourself this. Do not enter a new relationship if your answer is no, and you secretly want your ex back.”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, Honest Questions, Relationships
“What did not work in past relationships?
Perhaps you sacrificed too much for your last partner. Perhaps it lacked trust or honesty. Maybe your relationship didn’t work because of the distance. Make a list of all the things that went wrong in your prior relationships and find solutions.”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, Relationships, honest
“What kind of relationship am I looking for?
In other words, how serious do you want it to be? This is important, not only for your own sake, but for the sake of your new, potential partner. Are you looking for a fun fling? Or are you ready to settle down?”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, honest, Relationships
“Do they share my morals? How do they treat other people in their life? How do they look at the world? What are they passionate about? And if you’re looking to settle down with this person: What will they teach their children? Is it the same thing you would want your own children to learn?”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating Advice, honest, Relationships
“What do I want out of this relationship?
Maybe you’re looking for support. Maybe you’re looking for companionship or love. Maybe you’re looking for a best friend. Maybe you’re simply looking for a ‘good time.’ Again, it’s important to determine these things before entering into a new relationship.”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, honest, Relationships
“Do I love myself? If you don’t feel deserving of love, you might doubt or deny the love you receive from someone else, which can be extremely frustrating for them.”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, Relationships, honest
“What characteristics am I looking for in a partner?
Confidence? Sense of humor? Humility? Kindness? Motivation? Hard work? Does your prospective partner embody most of these characteristics?”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: honest, Relationships, Dating
“Does this person bring out the best in me?
How do you feel when you’re with them? How do you behave? Are you able to be your complete self?”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, Relationships
“Am I really interested in this person?
I, for one, have made the mistake of dating someone just because. I was bored and confused and blinded to the fact that they were completely wrong for me. They were great; they just weren’t great for me. I was more interested in telling them about myself, than learning about them.”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, honest, Relationships
“Would I be proud to introduce this person as my partner?
When you get into a new relationship, eventually, you’ll have to introduce them to everyone in your life. Are you excited about this? If the answer is no, I’d run.”
— Patrick Banks, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, honest, Relationships
“Do my friends and family like this person?
Usually, the people who know you best also know what’s best for you.”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, honest, Relationship
“Do I even want to be in a relationship?
If you’ve been in lots of relationships, if you’ve recently gotten out of a draining one, or if you just love being single, maybe you should be. And there’s nothing wrong with that.”
— PATRICK BANKS, 14 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, honest, Relationship
“You love yourself?

I mean, for real. Spend a day in your own shoes, and listen to the things you tell yourself.

Do you put yourself down often? If you cannot speak to yourself in a kind way, why would you expect someone else to treat you kindly?”
— Nicole Parry, 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Jumping Into A New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, Honest Questions, Relationships
“You committed to the things you are passionate about?

Is there even anything in your life you are passionate about other than finding a relationship?

Have you ever put off your morning run or been late for work because you wanted to continue cuddling?

Commitment to yourself is something you must master before your next relationship.

We attract what we are, so if you are uncommitted to yourself, you will most likely attract someone who has commitment issues.”
— Nicole Parry, 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Jumping Into A New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, Relationships
“Do you know who you are looking for, or will you settle for the first person who pays attention to you?

As a human, I know you love attention, but you are better than that.”
— Nicole Parry, 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Jumping Into A New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, Relationships, honest
“Are you just looking for someone to fill a void? Are you always after people who could potentially be your next projects?

We are often attracted to people we want to ‘fix’ as a way of avoiding what needs to be ‘fixed’ in our own lives.

They are great distractions but, there is no one out there who can fill a void forever.

Make self-care a priority in your life, and practice looking at the areas of your own life that may need improvement.”
— Nicole Parry, 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Jumping Into A New Relationship
Tagged: Dating, Relationships