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21 Pieces Of Dating Advice Given To Real People That Will Also Help You

On the other side of fear and rejection is everything we could have ever hoped for. 
Kirsten Corley
August 29, 2016
“One of my favorite pieces of relationship advice to follow is if a guy says he's not the relationship type...believe him. He's not the right guy for you. Because when you meet the right person even if he wasn't into relationships before you, he changes. He changes because he doesn't want anyone else to be with you.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: The Right Guy, Relationships, The Right Relationships
“Emotionally abusive relationships thrive on being power hungry. Maybe there are parts of their life they can't control and take it out on you. But don't ever think, 'if I didn't mess up, we'd be together.' He's telling you that to control you. Give your best to someone who deserves it.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Relationships, Abusive Relationships
“I think it takes losing ourselves to decide who it is we want to be. Once you decide that it's your job to become a little more of that person each day.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Bettering Yourself, Change Your Life, Better Changes
“The past will haunt you if you let it.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Past and Future, Regret, Mistakes
“It almost seems like the best people in the world endure the hardest things sometimes doesn't it. But that's the reason those people are so beautiful. I promise your life will get better. And years down the road you'll look back at this and be happy you chose not to end your life. The world needs you.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Suicide Awareness, Struggle, Pain, Heartbreak
“If any relationship leaves you feeling empty it's your job to find the courage to walk away from it. You have to remember you don't deserve someone's half hearted love. ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Love, Relationships, You Deserve More
“I'm a firm believer in giving second chances. I think everyone has the potential to be better than they were. But you also have to take into consideration, the risk factor. That thought will always be in the back of your mind, 'will they hurt me again?' Although, I think sometimes people come back because they have changed. That's all we hope for isn't it? Just follow your heart and you won't go wrong.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Second Chances, hurt, Pain, Follow Your Heart
“There's a fine line between 'friends' and someone not caring enough to call you their girlfriend. You don't deserve someone who keeps you around solely to boost their own ego, when they have no one better to call. I know you think letting him go feels like you're losing the love of your life. But letting someone like this go, will really bring you one step closer to someone who actually is. Because real love isn't a grey area. Real love is respect and loyalty and treating you the way you deserve. Don't think this is love. Love is so much more. And I hope one day it finds you. ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: real love, The Friend Zone, Just Friends
“I know there are bound to be really bad days in your life. But remember a bad day doesn't make for a bad life. ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Bad Day, Bad Life, Bright Side
“You have to remember the worst times of your life later reveal themselves as the best times. And in those moments where you don't recognize yourself define who it is you want to be later. Feel through every ugly emotion until you can walk away from it. So often we repress intense emotions out of fear of the person we'll become if we reveal it. But to know yourself also means to know who you are at your worst and learning how to bounce back from that.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Darkness, Fear, best, worst
“You gotta stop allowing other people's opinions of you define your happiness. Because however you change and whatever you do to appease someone, someone else won't be happy about it.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Be Happy, Happiness
“I think one of the most important things to realize is it's a person that hurt you and not love. Don't mix up the two. Don't allow anyone to taint your views on what love actually is. Because real love isn't pain.  ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Relationships, Define Love
“We are all afraid, but on the other side of fear and rejection is everything we've ever hoped for, if only we can muster the courage to pursue it.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Fear Love, Rejection, Hope
“One thing I've learned from my own relationships is it doesn't matter how busy someone is or how much they have on their plate. If you matter, they will make time for you.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Relationships, Priority
“When you end things gracefully people are always gonna wanna come back. Eventually the smoke will clear, emotions will simmer. But if you kept your cool as best you could even when they went off the wall, one day they'll realize how poorly they handled the situation and want to make right for their own peace of mind.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Relationships, Ending, goodbye
“Anger I believe is a wasted emotion. Because under the surface of that emotion is really pain, disappointment, confusion. People would rather curse you off then admit you hurt them. But what I realized is if you want the last word and if you want it to matter, 'Fuck you' doesn't do that. Don't allow anger to consume you. Anger hurts only you in the end. ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Advice
Tagged: Anger, Pain
“Guys will pull away just to see how you respond to it. If you go bat shit crazy they run for the hills...So for now let him go. I promise you he'll come back if you just stand still. Remember anything you chase runs further. ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Guy Advice, Relationship Advice
“When you go out of your way to make someone jealous, whether it snapping your whole life after a breakup, using insta to show you're out with someone or texting them useless shit just to see if they answer, what you are really doing is further confirming their decision to have ended it. If you decide to do none of those things and live your life not advertising it, what they are gonna do is wonder what they hell you are up to and who you are with.
Trying to make someone jealous does the complete opposite. Trust me. I've lived it. ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Relationship Advice, Dating Advice, breakup
“You should never feel bad or guilty about caving and texting them. Guilt is derived from our conscious which directs us to do the right thing. When you feel a sense of guilt when it comes to relationships that's your subconscious sending a red flag this way you don't feel hurt or rejected. You gotta trust yourself more and follow it. ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Relationships, Healthy Relationships
“I always compare healthy relationships to rubber bands. They will always have equal tension on each opposite side. But breakups are someone letting go of their end of it. And we want to hold on, we want to fix it but in reality we can't force someone to want to 'pick up' their end of it. And as much as endings hurt, you gotta respect them because it's their choice and right. ”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: Breakups, Endings, Letting Go
“A lot of people walk around not saying how they feel about each other. But every so often you'll meet someone who is brave enough to admit there is something between you two. Because the chances are if you feel it so deeply they do to. You just can't let fear get in the way of it. I can promise you something, the only thing worse than rejection is finding out years later when it's too late that they felt the exact same way about you.”
— Kirsten Corley, Fan Messages
Tagged: crushes, Dating, Taking Chances