There is no shame in being a victim of sexual violence. Shame belongs to the perpetrator alone.
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Mr. Robbins’s arguments struck a particular nerve because similar ones have been used frequently against victims of sexual assault and harassment since long before the #MeToo movement began. Women who report sexual violence are often accused of seeking attention, or criticized for destroying men’s c…
Lifestyle guru Tony Robbins has built a career on motivating people to improve their lives, but based on the comments he’s made about the #MeToo movement, that doesn’t include motivating women to call out their sexual abusers.
This movement is about making sure survivors have the resources to heal AFTER they’ve said #metoo, it’s about galvanizing a global community or survivors and advocates to do the work of interrupting sexual violence. It’s about protecting folks’ human dignity at all cost.
If you talk to more SURVIVORS and less sexist businessmen maybe you’ll understand what we want. We want safety. We want healing. We want accountability. We want closure. We want to live a life free from shame.
Crash course @TonyRobbins: 1. @MeTooMVMT is NOT about victimization it’s about SURVIVORS. 2. Women are not to blame for the deep seeded misogyny that you and men like your ‘friend’ are mired in.
Boys learn not to worry about girls’ pleasure, and when girls and women have sexual encounters that don’t feel good — whether they’re just unsatisfying or actively abusive — they’re primed to accept that’s just how sex is.
Studies show that most rapists are perfectly aware their victims aren’t into what’s happening. And social science has also clearly demonstrated that men (and women!) are perfectly capable of understanding social cues, even ones where someone is saying “no” without using that actual word.
Teaching affirmative consent does something profound: It shifts the acceptable moral standard for sex, making it much clearer to everyone when someone is violating that standard.
But the most damaging thing that happens when we leave pleasure out of sex ed is that we allow girls to go on thinking that sex is something that’s not really for or about them.
Consent education does something else transformative: It tells girls that sex is supposed to be for them.
When people constantly decry the lack of focus on women’s agency and what she could’ve done to 'prevent' herself from being a victim of rape, they forget that a woman’s agency and her ability to consent is already compromised by the way she has been shaped and constrained by her society and culture,…
Everyone knows and talks about the reaction to danger known as "fight or flight," but most fail to realize that "freeze" is an even more common response - particularly when there are perceived physical OR SOCIAL consequences to either of the first two.
And perhaps, if your first reaction is to dismiss or belittle this woman’s experience because it is not a tidy story of assault, sit with that a minute, come at it again with compassion and know that assault can still take place when a woman goes home with a man.
Please, let’s use the Aziz Ansari story to discuss how complex consent can be. If you’re tempted to think it was “just a bad date,” please, talk to the women in your life. My heart aches for how many have been through similar.
No one ever seems to be worried about people’s careers being derailed by rumors when those people are women.
There is something that’s changed: Suddenly, men have to think about women, our inner lives and experiences of their own behavior, quite a bit. That may be one step in the right direction.
In some of these conversations, we spent hours teasing out how these men, many of whom we knew to be intelligent and capable of real kindness, could behave so crudely and cruelly toward us. And this is another toll that sexual harassment can take on women: It can make you spend hours dissecting the…
Like a lot of feminists, I think about how women can build power, help one another, and work toward justice. But it is less common for us to examine the ways we might wield the power we already have. Among the most potent of these powers is the knowledge of our own experiences.
And they’re someone else: Recy Taylor, a name I know and I think you should know, too. In 1944, Recy Taylor was a young wife and a mother. She was just walking home from a church service she’d attended in Abbeville, Ala., when she was abducted by six armed white men, raped and left blindfolded by th…
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