The truth is that in addition to not protecting women, we are failing boys: Failing to raise them to believe they can be men without inflicting pain on others, failing to teach them that they are not entitled to women’s sexual attention and failing to allow them an outlet for understandable human fe…
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The last 50 years redefined womanhood: women were taught they can be anything. No commensurate movement for men who are still generally locked into the same rigid, outdated model of masculinity and it’s killing us.
A friend just pointed out to me that being a lesbian has nothing to do with men, which is true, but it suddenly dawned on me how patriarchal it is of men to assume otherwise — that being gay has anything to do with rejecting or even hating men. Poor fragile men!
If true. If true. If true. All these men have opinions on my marriage and your uterus, sight unseen. But hand them a story told by a dozen women and suddenly it's the riddle of the goddamn sphinx.
Imagine if men were more worried about women being harassed than they were abusers losing their jobs.
At the moment … the clearer signal to men and to younger people is, deny it. Because if you take responsibility for what you did, your life’s going to get ruined.
There is no hierarchy of abuse – that if a woman is raped [it] is much worse than if woman has a penis exposed to her that she didn’t want or ask for… You cannot tell those women that one is supposed to feel worse than the other. And it certainly can’t be prescribed by a man. How about: it’s all fuc…
The culture of abuse -- in MANY industries -- and fear of what will happen to you if you say something, breeds trauma and silence.
Sexual harassment is just the symptom. Institutional sexism is the disease.
The patriarchy somehow convinced us that visible panty lines were unacceptable, so now I've just grown accustomed to the feeling of a fabric rope against my actual asshole all day.
— Stephen Falck, Allan McLeod, Gretchen Cutler, Aya Cash, imdb.com
Experimenting with wearing makeup is often a rite of passage for young girls in our society. However, the concern is how young is too young? Girls who start too young may be hiding more than an acne breakout, they may be demonstrating early signs of self-esteem issues and a negative self-image or se…
The survey found that 65 percent of girls who wear makeup began wearing it between the ages of 8 and 13, and 20 percent said they feel unattractive and have negative feelings if they go without it. In addition, 27 percent of the girls surveyed said they never leave home without wearing makeup. Ever.
I think what's hard for a lot of women right now is the confirmation that things are exactly as bad as we thought. There's a satisfaction in knowing you weren't imagining it all, but it's a pretty dark feeling nonetheless.
I keep hearing that men are afraid about the sexual harassment reckoning - scared that innocent people (them) will get implicated. Women are afraid, for good reason, every day. So I don't care even a little if men are feeling uncomfortable or scared right now. Better men are afraid than women are hu…
stop mourning the work that's been tainted by shitty men and start mourning the work we lost from the people they targeted.
my current favorite victim-blaming tactic is 'she's accused other guys in the past.' like women get a lifetime limit of talking about one (1) assault ever and we have to keep the rest of them quiet if we want people to believe us
When a man uses his power & privilege to intimidate or abuse women in a newsroom, it's not just his direct victims who feel the effects. The tone shifts. Women start informally policing the newsroom to protect each other. It's exhausting work & it's a waste of their talent.
...so many men think of sexual harassment as an issue of women's hurt feelings rather than our ruined ambitions and careers is a huge part of the problem.
Ugh. Fatness also complicates this because guys love to make you think they are your last hope. And this culture makes you think you have to be grateful for shitty treatment from fuckboys because that’s all you deserve.
I am curious, though, why no one is talking about all the bad literary men.