There’s lots of online information about sexual violence, but there’s not a lot of information about how you as an individual can start dealing with the trauma.
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I thought, "Oh my god. This is mass disclosure across the internet and there’s no after care. Who’s going to have the discussion of what #metoo is really about?
Inherently, having privilege isn’t bad, but it’s how you use it, and you have to use it in service of other people.
I cannot define how you or your body responds to things. I can’t tell you that’s not trauma.
There’s sexual harassment over here and you shouldn’t conflate it with rape. Which is true; those are two very different things. But they’re on the same spectrum. Sexual harassment is like the gateway drug. It’s the entry point.
Me Too, in a lot of ways, is about agency. It’s not about giving up your agency, it’s about claiming it.
What does justice look like for a survivor? It’ll mean different things to different communities.
What about the person whose family didn’t know until they saw it on social media? What if for a survivor social media is your self-care and you’re bombarded with all these posts? It’s really complicated.
There are a series of emotions that most survivors go through after disclosing. It starts with feeling great, like the weight on your shoulders has been lifted, and then you’re alone with your thoughts, like, “Why did I do that?” And then what about the person who gets backlash?
I don’t think that every single case of sexual harassment has to result in someone being fired; the consequences should vary. But we need a shift in culture so that every single instance of sexual harassment is investigated and dealt with.
If we’re ever going to heal in our community, we have to heal the perpetrators and heal the survivors, or else it’s just a continuous cycle.
That’s another reason why I center black and brown girls. There are nuances in our community around sexual violence that are informed by centuries of oppression and white supremacy, but we have to confront them.
We need to be inundating these children with the idea that consent is the way of life. Yes, you do have to ask to touch somebody.
That’s actually the most problematic part here. All of this media attention is on the perpetrator.
I love Bill Cosby, and I love what he’s done for the world. But if he’s sick, why would I be angry with him?
There is this idea that the only way to turn down sex is by saying “Stop”. Men are conditioned to believe that as long as you don’t hear that ONE WORD IN THE ENTIRE ENGLISH LANGUAGE, it means that she’s just playing hard to get, and is looking for you to convince her. Which does happen, don’t get me…
That’s it. That’s all. We need to raise the bar. “Take me as I am” does not cut it anymore, we need to be better. We need to learn how to ask the yes or no questions and we need to read the damn signs. Cause for some people it’s just bad sex, but for others it’s a night where they felt their agency…
It’s the micro that makes the macro. I have been a victim of each component of the sexual assault spectrum of which you speak. They all hurt. And they are all connected to a patriarchy intertwined with normalized, accepted--even welcomed-- misogyny. We are not outraged because someone grabbed our as…
It’s about who’s been pushing forward the voices of all women and not just their own. If Time wants to frame important people in the movement – it should be those that consistently rally for all women. It should be those that lack power and influence but made sacrifices and need the visibility.
What about, say, Terry Crews, who is a man who decided to break silence and that shit was major. In this culture of toxic masculinity, men speaking up about their victimhood is revolutionary.