“Interests are not discovered through introspection. Instead, interests are triggered by interactions with the outside world. The process of interest discovery can be messy, serendipitous, and inefficient. This is because you can't really predict with certainty what will capture your attention and wh…”— Angela Duckworth, amazon.com
“It’s odd, but wouldn’t you say that in our universe of worked-out bodies and worked-out minds, that to be receptive is looked upon as 'weak,' a passive vessel for someone else’s love and dreams? So, instead of embracing the generosity inherent in being able to accept love, the receptors among us pun…”— Martha Nussbaum, amazon.com
“If you are willing to look at another person’s behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.”— Yogi Bhajan, amazon.com
“When people are behaving in apparently self-destructive ways, it’s time to stop asking what’s wrong with them, and time to start asking what happened to them.”— Dr. Robert Anda, huffingtonpost.com
“Blaming yourself for your childhood traumas protects you from seeing how vulnerable you were and are. You can become the powerful one. If it’s your fault, it’s ― at some strange level ― under your control.”— Johann Hari, huffingtonpost.com
“The more I investigated depression and anxiety, the more I found that, far from being caused by a spontaneously malfunctioning brain, depression and anxiety are mostly being caused by events in our lives. If you find your work meaningless and you feel you have no control over it, you are far more li…”— Johann Hari, huffingtonpost.com
“Your encouraged to keep learning, to keep questioning. And to consider how your own thinking can be flawed or misguided. Coming to terms with the things we don't understand is the first step to clearing up misunderstandings and learning new things.”— Samantha Chavez, youtube.com
“Its easy for our brains to say 'I understand this' based on the clutter of meaningless information stored in our head.”— Samantha Chavez, youtube.com
“Doctor gave me a relaxation cassette. When my blood pressure gets too high, the man on the tape tells me to say, 'Serenity now!'”— Steve Koren, Frank Costanza, Jerry Stiller, imdb.com
“Our ability to selectively engage and disengage our moral standards . . . helps explain how people can be barbarically cruel in one moment and compassionate the next.”— Philip Zimbardo, amazon.com
“Before I knew that a man could kill a man, because it happens all the time. Now I know that even the person with whom you've shared food, or whom you've slept, even he can kill you with no trouble. The closest neighbor can kill you with his teeth: that is what I have Learned since the genocide, and…”— Philip Zimbardo, amazon.com
“If you put good apples into a bad situation, you’ll get bad apples.”— Philip Zimbardo, goodreads.com
“The idea of the banality of heroism debunks the myth of the ‘heroic elect,’ a myth that reinforces two basic human tendencies. The first is to ascribe very rare personal characteristics to people who do something special — to see them as superhuman, practically beyond comparison to the rest of us. T…”— Philip Zimbardo, greatergood.berkeley.edu
“I summarize more than 30 years of research on factors that can create a "perfect storm" which leads good people to engage in evil actions. This transformation of human character is what I call the "Lucifer Effect," named after God's favorite angel, Lucifer, who fell from grace and ultimately became…”— Philip Zimbardo, en.wikiquote.org
“Media is a major component in the assumptions that inform our perspective. A focus on crime in news reporting doesn’t just change our opinions on crime in general — it makes us feel far more threatened than we should be. For most of us, perceptions are reality. When we see the world as a dangerous p…”— Tobias Rose-Stockwell, medium.com
“When you really listen to another person from their point of view, and reflect back to them that understanding, it’s like giving them emotional oxygen.”— Stephen Covey, forbes.com
“Maybe one of the most heartening findings from the psychology of pleasure is there’s more to looking good than your physical appearance. If you like somebody, they look better to you. This is why spouses in happy marriages tend to think that their husband or wife looks much better than anyone else t…”— Paul Bloom, ted.com
“Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say My tooth is aching than to say My heart is broken.”— C. S. Lewis, amazon.com