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Total quotes: 100
“Gaslighting is a technique abusers use to convince you that your perception of the abuse is inaccurate.”
— Shahida Arabi, POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse: A Collection of Essays on Malignant Narcissism and Recovery from Emotional Abuse
Tagged: Gaslighting, Abuse, Psychological Trauma
“The ability to be successful, independent and joyful no matter what your relationship status is should be seen as a gift and an asset, not a curse.”
— Shahida Arabi, Single Women Are Happier Than Society Thinks They Are – According To Research
Tagged: Being Single, The Happy Single, Singlehood, Research on Relationships, Research on Singlehood, Quote of the Moment, Shahida New Quote Macros
“After all, if you are always chasing someone who can never be caught, is there truly any risk?”
— Shahida Arabi, Read This If You’re An Old Soul Who Feels Lost
Tagged: Old Souls, Old Soul, Emotional Unavailability As Safety, Safe Love, Psychological Distance
“Truth-tellers are commonly scapegoated in groups where there is toxicity brimming beneath the surface.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Narcissistic Conspiracy: Scapegoating, Smear Campaigns And Black Sheep – How Narcissistic Groups Bully Their Chosen Victims
Tagged: Truth-tellers, Conspiraces, Conspiracy, Narcissistic Abuse, Group Bullying, Scapegoating, Black Sheep
“You will ask her to bow and she will climb.
You will ask her to crawl and she will rise.
You will ask her to die and she will be reborn.
You will bury her and she will grow.”
— Shahida Arabi, For The Girls Who Do Not Fear Wolves
Tagged: wolves, Poetry, Poems, Poetry Quotes, Rising Again, Resurrection, Resilience, Women Who Defeat Wolves
“You're allowed to have normal human emotions in response to a hostile situation. While you can choose better coping methods, no one exhibits 'perfect' behavior in response to chronic mistreatment.”
— Shahida Arabi, Fifty Shades of Narcissism Q & A
Tagged: Narcissistic Abuse, Narcissism, Complex Trauma, PTSD, Maladaptive Coping Mechanisms
“Learning mindfulness and increasing bodily awareness are key components of Dialectical Behavior Therapy, which can help you to establish autonomy over your body in a way that is empowering rather than devaluing.”
— Shahida Arabi, Self-Harm: Self-Care Strategies For Healing And Recovery
Tagged: self-harm, Self-Care Strategies, DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, mindfulness, Bodily Awareness, Autonomy
“ INFJs are always looking for the ideal romance and a narcissist’s love-bombing initially looks like everything they’ve ever dreamed of.”
— Shahida Arabi, 3 Reasons Why INFJs Are The Favorite Targets Of Narcissists
Tagged: Narcissistic Abuse, INFJ, Ideal Romance, Fantasy Relationship, The Narcissist's False Mask, Malignant Narcissism, malignant narcissists
“Children of overprotective parents have issues with the concept of "control" as adults. They despise losing control but they also resent being controlled.”
— Shahida Arabi, Children Of Overprotective Parents Do These 11 Things In Adulthood
Tagged: Overprotective Parents, Children of Narcissistic Mothers
“In your opinion, what’s the biggest difference between love and infatuation?”
— Shahida Arabi, 111 Fiery Conversation Starters And Topics To Ignite Killer Dates And Meetings
Tagged: Conversation Starters, Conversation Topics, Dating, romance, Love, Infatuation
“We can make a far better use of our creativity and imagination by using them to create the life of our dreams, rather than to concoct a fairytale out of a nightmare.”
— Shahida Arabi, 3 Reasons Why INFJs Are The Favorite Targets Of Narcissists
Tagged: Narcissistic Abuse, INFJ
“While your vivid imagination can benefit you as a creative type, it is very easy for you to get lost inside of your mind and out of touch with reality.”
— Shahida Arabi, 10 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re An INFJ, The World’s Rarest Personality Type
Tagged: INFJs, The Mind of an INFJ, Myers-Briggs, Introverts, Imagination of INFJs
“Individuals who grew up chronically invalidated in toxic households or subjected to childhood abuse can benefit from Dialectical Behavior Therapy.”
— Shahida Arabi, What Dialectical Behavior Therapy Is And How It Can Save Your Life
Tagged: Dialectical Behavior Therapy, DBT, therapy, Suicide Prevention, Childhood Abuse, emotional invalidation
“Remember – highly manipulative people don’t respond to empathy or compassion. They respond to consequences.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: Manipulative, Control, Consequences
“I sold my heartbeats for a lived-in cage
A secondhand soul and a man I had never met.”
— Shahida Arabi, SHE WHO DESTROYS THE LIGHT: Fairy Tales Gone Wrong,
Tagged: Prince Charming, She Who Destroys the Light, Poetry, Emotional Abuse
“the woman on the floor will rise up
the tight hand on the wrist will be shaken
the victim will be made victor
and the world will be ruled by
little girls with hearts
made out of gunpowder and lead”
— Shahida Arabi, SHE WHO DESTROYS THE LIGHT: Fairy Tales Gone Wrong,
Tagged: She Who Destroys the Light
“When we are the children of narcissistic parents, emotionally abusive people fit the profile of what our subconscious has been primed to seek. Yet they often come disguised as our saviors.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Invisible War Zone: 5 Ways Children Of Narcissistic Parents Self-Destruct In Adulthood
Tagged: Children of Narcissists, Children of Narcissistic Parents, Children of Narcissistic Fathers, Children of Narcissistic Mothers, Childhood Trauma, Healing From Abuse, Healing From Childhood Trauma, Quote of the Moment
“Toxic people don’t argue with you, they essentially argue with themselves and you become privy to their long, draining monologues.”
— Shahida Arabi, 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You
Tagged: manipulation, arguments, fights
“I became accustomed to the cruelty and the raging storms
The silent glare followed by the teasing eyes
The sweet nothings and the callous words
Bruising the soul and battering the mind.”
— Shahida Arabi, SHE WHO DESTROYS THE LIGHT: Fairy Tales Gone Wrong,
Tagged: Brutal, Bruise, cruel
“Real love won’t make you responsible for educating a grown ass person on how to be a decent human being. It’ll demand some level of compromise, but it won’t ask you to compromise your values or integrity.”
— Shahida Arabi, What Real Love Actually Looks Like, Because It’s Not About Being An Emotional Punching Bag
Tagged: What Real Love Looks Like, Emotional Abuse Isn't Love
“This is a girl who can turn water into fire
and fire into rebirth.
This is the girl who can taste death
a thousand times
and use it to relish life.”
— Shahida Arabi, SHE WHO DESTROYS THE LIGHT: Fairy Tales Gone Wrong,
Tagged: She Who Destroys the Light, Fairy tales Gone Wrong, Resurrection, Rebirth, Emotional Abuse, Rise Again, Rise Again After Abuse, Poetry
“He weaves his painful words into her skin like kryptonite
Always with a smirk and knowing eyes
A smug sadism knitted into the arch of his brow
His lips sewn into a scarecrow smile”
— Shahida Arabi, SHE WHO DESTROYS THE LIGHT: Fairy Tales Gone Wrong,
Tagged: She Who Destroys the Light
“Because deep down, your soul knows: sometimes the very things we think will save us are the things we need to be saved from – to pursue something even greater than we ever imagined.”
— Shahida Arabi, 11 Revolutionary Truths Old Souls Learn the Hard Way
Tagged: empowerment, Spirituality, Dreams, Success, victory, Old Souls
“When trauma is compounded by other traumas in a very short period of time, during an extremely vulnerable stage of development, the effects can literally rewire the brain.”
— Shahida Arabi, 13 Reasons Why: The Real Reasons Hannah Baker Committed Suicide Are Much More Complex Than You Think
Tagged: Trauma, Complex Trauma
“Social media is a veritable playground for malignant narcissists. It gives them easy access to multiple victims and the ability to manufacture love triangles in covert, insidious ways.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Disturbing Ways Narcissists Use Social Media To Terrorize Their Victims
Tagged: Social Media, malignant narcissists, triangulation, Covert Manipulation, digital age, Intimacy in The Digital Age, Social Media and Narcissism
“Instead of being addicted to the chaos, you’re now finding yourself achieving more without it.”
— Shahida Arabi, 11 Badass Signs You’ve Moved On From Your Narcissistic Ex
Tagged: addictive love, Toxic Love, Healing from Narcissistic Abuse, Moving On, Moving On From An Ex, Narcissistic Abuse
“A person who keeps their word is incredibly attractive to a morally impoverished narcissist. Individuals with integrity have a wealth of attributes that narcissists feel they can exploit for their own gain.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Qualities Malignant Narcissists Look For In Their Victims – And How They Use Them Against You
Tagged: Malignant Narcissism, malignant narcissists, Prey and Predator, Victim and Abuser Dynamic, What Narcissists Look For, How Narcissists Groom Their Targets, Wolves in Sheep's Clothing
“A man who can authentically admire a woman’s skill set without competing with her or feeling emasculated is a huge turn on for an ambitious alpha woman.”
— Shahida Arabi, 7 Ways To Turn On An Alpha Woman – Without Even Touching Her
Tagged: Quote Macros, Alpha Women, Ambitious Women, Powerful Women, Badass Women
“These victims may at first be idealized and love-bombed. They are subjected to praise, laser-focused attention, gifts and false promises to lure them into the group. They are “groomed” to feel like a part of the group, which often has many cult-like qualities which discourage dissent and discussion.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Narcissistic Conspiracy: Scapegoating, Smear Campaigns And Black Sheep – How Narcissistic Groups Bully Their Chosen Victims
Tagged: Truth-tellers, Conspiraces, Conspiracy, Narcissistic Abuse, Group Bullying, Scapegoating, Black Sheep, Love-bombing, Behavior of Cults
“Sometimes, it’s better to be alone for a while. To be in a relationship with yourself rather than with someone who makes you feel even more lonely. To give yourself permission to let go of the person you tried to be in all of your relationships in order to become who you were really meant to be.”
— Shahida Arabi, Sometimes, It’s Better To Be Alone
Tagged: Single Life, Single Women, Powerful Women, The Power of Solitude, Healing from Toxic Relationships, Inspiring, Inspirational
“White knights pride themselves on 'saving' others and this is a core part of their identity in relationships. Rather than opening themselves up to true intimacy where both parties in a relationship are emotionally fulfilled, they unconsciously seek out unhealthy partners who appear to most need them.”
— Shahida Arabi, 5 Signs You Have White Knight Syndrome: Playing The Rescuer In Your Relationships
Tagged: White Knight Syndrome, Savior Complex
“Sociopathic predators are very skilled at fooling and duping others. They can be very likeable and charming. They can provoke their victims into reacting after months or years of covert abuse, only to use those reactions as proof that their victims are unstable.”
— Shahida Arabi, 11 Things I Learned About Narcissists And Sociopaths By Age 27 – That I Wish Everyone Knew
Tagged: sociopaths, Malignant Narcissism
“When she walks away, trust her when she tells you that you won’t hear from her again. Because all the times she tried to speak, you silenced her or gave her the silent treatment. All those times she tried to get you to have a breakthrough, you broke her down and made her feel like the weak one.”
— Shahida Arabi, This Is When She’ll Leave You – And Never Look Back
Tagged: Leaving A Toxic Relationship, Narcissistic Abuse, Shahida New Quote Macros
“To make the conspiracy all the more effective, the victim is further silenced by what makes them so special in the first place – their ability to be discerning, their sensitive nature, their compassion – are all used to paint them as unhinged should they dare to speak out.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Narcissistic Conspiracy: Scapegoating, Smear Campaigns And Black Sheep – How Narcissistic Groups Bully Their Chosen Victims
Tagged: Truth-tellers, Conspiraces, Conspiracy, Narcissistic Abuse, Group Bullying, Scapegoating, Black Sheep, Love-bombing, Behavior of Cults, Sociopathic Behavior, Corporate Narcissism, Narcissistic Families, Challenging the Status Quo
“In a narcissist’s eyes, all victims are replaceable and interchangeable, depending on what they can do for the narcissist. All victims are in a never-ending competition to prove their worth and value to the narcissist. They are dolls in a narcissist's playhouse of horrors.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Dollhouse: 5 Roles You Play In A Narcissist’s ‘Harem’ Or Love Cult
Tagged: Narcissistic Harems, Cults, grooming, triangulation, The Narcissist's Harem
“There are implicit rules to never unmask the toxicity of the group or its decisions. Questions are always met with ambiguous or vague answers or outright reprimands and punishment. The victim’s duty is to keep quiet, remain a scapegoat and not make a fuss about carrying out dirty work for the group.”
— Shahida Arabi, The Narcissistic Conspiracy: Scapegoating, Smear Campaigns And Black Sheep
Tagged: Truth-tellers, Conspiraces, Conspiracy, Narcissistic Abuse, Group Bullying, Scapegoating, Black Sheep, Love-bombing, Behavior of Cults, Sociopathic Behavior, Corporate Narcissism, Narcissistic Families, Challenging the Status Quo
“The silent treatment and stonewalling can have actual effects on the brain. Research indicates that such behaviors are a form of ostracism which activates the anterior cingulate cortex, the same part of the brain that detects physical pain.”
— Shahida Arabi, Stonewalling And The Silent Treatment: When The Narcissist’s Silence Is Deafening
Tagged: Stonewalling, Silent Treatment
“A common myth is that the clitoris is a one-stop button that will automatically open to the magical land of Narnia (or orgasm) when pressed. But actually, the reality is far more complicated: the way every clit responds to touch is different.”
— Shahida Arabi, How To Really Make A Woman Come, According To Science: 5 Facts About The Female Orgasm Everyone Should Know
Tagged: Getting Her Off, Female Orgasm, Sex, sexuality, Ecstasy, Mindfulness in Sex, Communication in Sex, Clitoral Stimulation, clitoris, Narnia, Female Anatomy, erogenous zones, Myths About Sex
“Even the most hardened police officers can witness an impressive performance of faux remorse from a narcissist they’re meeting for the first time and find themselves thinking, “Aww, how noble.” You look at the same performance after years of being with them and see a snake attempting to put on a furry dog costume.”
— Shahida Arabi, 6 Secrets The Narcissist Hopes You Never Learn
Tagged: Narcissists, Covert Abuse, Wolves in Sheep's Clothing, Emotional Abuse, Narcissistic Abuse, How Narcissists Manipulate Society
“We can own our agency in exploring our relationship patterns without resorting to victim-blaming. Healing from narcissistic abuse or a lifetime of trauma requires that we unravel both types of wounds layered upon each other – past and present.”
— Shahida Arabi, Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
Tagged: Relationship, Healing, Narcissistic
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