Encouraging your guy in all his endeavors makes him want to improve, for himself and also for you. Direct some of your energy toward supporting him, and he’ll direct some of his energy back to loving you.
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Marni Battista
Don't interrupt him with your story that betters his. If he's sharing that he went hiking in Joshua Tree, don't share about how you did that too, but what was really awesome was your trip to Yosemite. Truly listen and reflect back what you hear him saying.
Make genuine, consistent eye contact. Let him know you're paying attention to what he's saying. Smile often when you're with him (And not at the guy behind him). Smile at him.
Complain about something together. Find something small or insignificant that bothers both of you: maybe the giant deer head on the wall that you both laughed about. Poking fun at the same things helps you get closer, and it also puts you on the same team!
He knows how to express his feelings directly. Mr. Boyfriend Material will not manipulate you with silence, or criticize or judge you. When he has a need, or feels like he must discuss something pertaining to your relationship, he doesn't hesitate to bring it up.
He's done playing stupid games. He doesn’t apply the ‘Three-Day Rule’ to the women he dates, wait twenty-four hours before returning your phone call, or ‘vanish’ to draw you into his world. When he's interested in pursuing you, he'll just DO it.
He can support himself AND provide for you. A guy is typically most confident, secure, and ready to be in an exclusive long-term relationship when he feels ‘settled.’ He's spent time building his career and has the time available to invest in your relationship. He's financially secure.