Kovie Biakolo Quotes
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Total quotes (20)
Cherish the time you have by yourself. Chances are, you won’t have this time for long; probably not the greater part of your life. Do the things you know would be a lot harder to do once you do meet someone you care about: travel, stay out till 5 a.m. three nights in a row, let you apartment get messy, etc.
In the end, our paths are rarely straight and narrow, and they were never meant to be anyway. And if all we do in each one is learn a lesson, or meet a friend, or know ourselves better, or do something kind for someone, we have gained much more than we have lost. But first, first we must have the courage to let go of the things that are not meant for us.
My most salient marked identities are that I’m African, Black, Catholic, and a woman...this tends to complicate people’s perception of me; it makes relating to all parts of me, difficult, for them...many people don’t seem to know what to do when complexity of self is embraced rather than denied. And people become uncomfortable; but I am not here to make you comfortable.
Negative stress is a sign that we are out of balance. Working out helps you to re-channel that negative stress. Moreover, scientifically when you exercise your brain actually treats it as stress, and engages in a fight or flight reaction. This explains how you feel better post-workout because it feels like you’ve overcome some thing.
It is easy to feel pressure during this time of year. The pressure of getting gifts and going to parties and being around loved ones and strangers, who expect you to perform that most wonderful time of the year demeanor. But don’t get lost in the ‘stuff’ of this time of year. Instead, every time you feel that pressure, think of the fact that there are people who love you. And they love you for you, not for what you can give or do during this time of the year or any time of year; they love you for who you are.
For whatever reason, working out helps you transfer the skill of focusing, and indeed it is a skill, to other areas of your life. You can’t run and bike simultaneously, and you can’t do a plank and a shoulder press at the same time. It teaches you that even when you multitask, you can only in reality do one specific thing at a time. And focusing on that one thing well helps you move on to the next.
I can’t speak for anyone else but if there’s anything I know at all, it’s that my faith has never failed me. In the scorecard of life, I may have lost more than I’ve won in all the things that I’ve attempted. But I have always felt like a victor when challenges have come to pass. Because even when I have lost something I worked hard for, and suffered though, and believed in my heart of hearts that I would get, I have found that what was prepared for me was something much greater than I could have imagined. Faith has allowed me to see things clearly.